Your Relationship with YOU!

You are with you all the time.
Are you kind to yourself?
Are you the one who has your own back?
You can be.
Today we talk about how to be your best friend.
Your relationship with you.

Welcome to Authentic Living with Linda
I’m Linda Codlin

Welcome, My Friends.

This week has been a deep and meaningful week for me.
I was invited to attend a yearly convention where we discuss all sorts of theories, philosophies and religions.
The only rules are to expand the Universal Kinship of Humanity, to encourage the study of Comparative Religion, Philosophy and Science, and finally to investigate the unexplained laws of Nature and the powers latent in the Human Being.
I loved sharing my authentic experience of life, and hearing, feeling the powerful stories of how others experience life in a supportive environment.

I encountered my first ever deep and deliberate sound bath. Life changing.
Those present each experienced the same sound in different ways and to differing degrees.
The human body is amazing.

This week, which is almost over, has been inspiring my desire to live an authentic life, and it’s been tiring for my body to take in so much information.
The topic I want to talk about is the relationship you have with you.
Sometimes living with yourself authentically is more difficult than living with other people or animals.
You are always with you, if you go to bed, you are with you.
When you eat a meal, you are always with you. Granted you may not always be present and conscious, but you are with you.
When you go to work, or volunteer, or care for others, you take yourself with you.
The person you spend the most amount of time with is with you. Every breath you take is with you.

How do you feel in this most important relationship?
If you could describe your relationship with yourself, what type of words would you use.
We have talked about the words we use and the power they have to affect how we feel.
Do you use harsh and unfriendly words to describe your relationship?
Words like worthless, hopeless, no good, unlovable. Maybe you catch yourself whispering to yourself that you are stupid, that you never do anything right, maybe you feel disappointed in yourself, that you never seem to match up with your expectations of what a valuable human is supposed to look like.
Maybe you take the time to dress your body, and care for your body, but your mind is an unruly member who whines, and holds onto the words of others as proof of your self-worth. Your mind is given a free reign and it always runs to the hurt and harm that others have done to you.

This relationship with yourself is a relationship that in my opinion has the ability to change E_V_E_R_T_H_I_N_G.
One tiny change in what you whisper to yourself, or even say out loud to yourself makes all difference.

When I began to change my relationship with myself, I began with the words on the mirror.
I wrote in lipstick ‘I am enough’ on the mirror. Then I would avoid reading it, because it felt so uncomfortable.
I definitely did not believe that I would ever be enough of anything to make anything of my life.
Over the years of using affirmations daily, this one is my constant. It is still on the mirror in my bedroom.
Now I smile at the reflection looking back at me, and know I am indeed worthy and good enough.

I would love for you to have this type of authentic relationship with yourself.

For those like me who have experienced the shift in belief, how does this show up in your life?
Do you tell yourself that you can do hard things, when faced with hard decisions or unfamiliar decisions and situations?
Do you remind yourself that you are more than capable to handle whatever comes your way?

When I find that my thoughts slip into beating myself up for not doing something I know will create the shift I want to see in my life.

I remind myself that I am a human being, and as such I am not perfect.

And in my being imperfect is the very essence of my humanity.
While I was away this week, I once again realised that I am not broken, I do not need fixing.
I opened my heart to the fact that society likes to have us believe we are broken.
What if You and I were not broken, if we changed the way we looked at ourselves.
What if you were perfect exactly as you are, in the ‘mess’ we call life. In all the circumstances that we find swirling around us, that capture our attention and pull us into the pool of despair.
What if one thought was enough to change where you are, no matter how good life is at the moment, or how dreadful life is at the moment.
You are here, you are important, you are valuable and valued.

Back to your authentic relationship with yourself.
You are here in your relationship with yourself.
You are the most important person in your relationship with yourself, without you, who are you?
You are valuable, maybe you have been told, or shown that your value to others is not that great. I want to tell you, your value to yourself is top priority.
The reason you feel so badly is because you know you are worth more than how others and you, treat yourself.
You are valuable.
What one thing right this minute would make you feel valued within yourself?
Do you want to move away from the fire of your circumatances, where you keep being singed and burned?
Do you want more love? Love received is in direct proportion to the love you have for yourself.
You may be filling the needs of others, hoping to receive love, and maybe you do get the feeling of being needed from them.
How do you feel on the inside, inside your body and your mind? If you don’t have an authentic sense of peace, this form of love isn’t feeding your relationship with yourself.
If you are ready to live outside the whirlpool of situations and circumstances that keep you spinning out of control, begin the process of growth by asking yourself this question.
I am worthy, How can I prove that I am worthy to myself today?

You are not broken, your situation may not be ideal, but you as a divine human being never was broken.
Growth is a life activity. You and I are always in a growth cycle.
The thoughts you think affect the actions you take which affect your outcomes. It is these outcomes that are evidence of the growth cycle.

Until next time.
Remember you are enough, you are worthy, and you are in a growth cycle, how long you stay in your cycle is up to you.

oxoxo Linda

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