Have you wondered why you didn’t achieve your goals from last year?
Did you ask yourself the question, Why was it even on my list of things I want to achieve?
Often we think we want something until it comes time to actioning it. Then not so much.
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Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin
I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way
we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.
Hello My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 22.
Moving into a New Year can be so tiring.
Over the last few weeks I have been re-evaluating my life, my expectations of myself, my goals.
Where I want to see myself at the end of this year, and why I didn’t make it to the place I wanted to be, this time last year and what will make the difference this year.
I’ve been sitting with the emotions of failing, of not really trying, and wanting to throw in the towel and go back to living a less visible life.
Being successful at being me is not for the faint hearted. It’s a good thing that I am already me.
It is my job to unravel all the false beliefs I have bought into that at this present moment define my life, my actions and my values.
This is true for each of us. You cannot be me, You can not be the person you hold up to having the life you want.
You can be you. You have a kind of blueprint within you. It is this blueprint that guides you.
Only you truly know when you are not living authentically into your own blueprint.
This is when you feel stress, distress, you feel overwhelmed, you feel angry, you name your default emotion.
The truth is you already know what is important to you, however you, like me, may be living in denial. You may be putting the blame of not achieving what you want onto something outside yourself, like your spouse, or your financial situation, or your skill and ability.
When we do this we water down our power, we give our power away to the outside situation.
Authenticity is about owning your decisions, owning your denials, owning how you really feel, the positive, the negative and the neutral emotions.
These last few weeks have been eye opening. The things I have said I want to achieve, but have not even created a plan for, tell me they are not really important to me.
This is where going for a deep dive into my motivation for thinking I should want it to be important to me. Where the notion came from, and does it serve me.
If I continue to pretend that it is important to me, what will the result in my life be?
If I continue to allow myself to shield me from feeling the emotions of the pretence, what will the cost be to my perfect spiritual being-ness?
If I admit to myself that this particular thing isn’t important to me, and I drop it from my life, what will be the result in my life?
What will the fallout be?
What uncomfortable emotions am I going to have to face?
Am I willing to admit to myself first that there are some goals and values that do not resonate with my soul?
This my friend is the path of authenticity, it is being open to being truthful to yourself.
Part of my discovering the goals and projects I want to achieve this year has been to ask myself the question WHY?
Why do I want this?
Why am I willing to go through the hard times to attain this goal?
Why? Why? Why?
What do I believe I will gain from following through on attaining this goal? Why is this important to me?
Answer the seven why’s.
Keep asking why to every answer you give yourself.
The deeper you go, the closer you will get to your purpose and your true values.
When you can not answer why, keep asking, your marvelous brain has the answer, it needs you to be serious about finding out why.
Once you feel you have gotten to the truth of why you want your goal or desire, you get to ask yourself the final question.
Am I willing to do what needs to be done to get this done?
If your response is ‘no’ you get to walk away without any guilt from the goal that doesn’t suit you.
However if your goal is a resounding ‘yes’ you get to decide to step onto the path that this goal is going to take you on.
No second guessing, make the decision, make a broad plan on what needs to happen, then fill in the details. Write out your plans as if you had to explain them to someone from another galaxy.
Be detailed. Plan your outcomes, plan the results you want, and plan the tasks down to the tiniest detail.
Then begin to mark off your tasks. And create your goal, make it your reality.
My friends being you, being who you know you are meant to be is the best feeling ever.
Self exploration of what you like, what you don’t like, how you see yourself being and believing you can be that, is the unfolding of your authentic self. You are the only one who truly knows who are, and how far you can go in your life.
Don’t allow anyone to tell you are someone less than you are.
Don’t compare yourself to anyone else, ever, and especially never in a way that makes you feel not good enough.
Take the time to get to know you, to water your dreams, to try out new experiences, to find what makes your heart sing.
Make this the year you discover more of the hidden aspects of you.
Today’s challenge is to find one goal you thought you wanted last year, and didn’t follow through on. Ask yourself the seven why’s? Why didn’t I do this? Why….? And keep answering and asking your own questions.
Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…
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