Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast, I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin
I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself. It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives. Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.
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Hello, My Friends
When life throws us a curved ball, and it always seems to, this week I have had a curved ball thrown at me.
I have been unwell. It is amazing how perspectives can change really quickly when circumstances throw you off balance.
With my being unwell this week it has made me aware of how close I live to the bone.
What would it take to expose your bone? And by bone I mean your vulnerablity. Where are you most vulnerable to disaster?
How long could you manage without your usual income coming in?
How well planned are you for your future if that unthinkable event were to happen?
Do you have confidence in yourself, that you have what it takes to thrive no matter what is happening in your life?
Are you willing to be uncomfortable?
For me personally, I am not someone who is unwell very often, and in the past I have not tolerated illness well. Just ask my kids. I used to be a just suck it up type of mum.
I know that there is balance in dealing with illness, within yourself and with others.
I unfortunately didn’t have that gene. The good thing is, compassion is a trait that can be learned, and I can vouch for that.
The person who I’d get the most frustrated with when-ever I got ill, was myself.
I couldn’t give myself the grace to sleep, because that’s what my body needed was not part of the plan. I’d keep on pushing on and feeling like a martyr, unappreciated and undervalued.
I wouldn’t be kind to myself, I’d beat myself up emotionally and mentally for not meeting my deadlines, my expectations were based on fear, if I didn’t keep going I wouldn’t be loved anymore, I wouldn’t be of any use. And unworthy people need to be needed, and useful.
Can you relate? Have you felt frustrated with yourself because you just don’t have the energy to tick all the things off your list, and you feel you should have?
Have you battled on, even when you were so sick that you risked physical collapse? Why?
For me it was because I didn’t feel like I was worthy of looking after myself. If I didn’t do “it” it wouldn’t get done.
I felt I had to prove myself, to whom I’m not so sure anymore, but I was proving myself to everyone, except myself.
What I was proving was that I couldn’t be trusted to take care of me. The most important asset I own.
Without good health, what good are all the other things?
Especially if you gave your health to obtain them. Like money for instance, money can purchase you the best medical care, but it may not be able to restore your health to your former standard.
Like family, if you spent all your time generating income to provide for your family, but didn’t provide emotional caring and stability for those you love, by taking care of yourself emotionally and physically, what have you gained?
Like purchasing the best that money can buy, but not having the ability to slow down and enjoy them. Always feeling like you need to be moving onto the next thing, the next goal, the next ‘toy”.
So when I got ill this week, I had to cancel many appointments that had been on my calendar weeks in advance.
I had to put my schedule on hold.
I allowed myself to stay in my pyjamas the first day and sleep, hours and hours of sleep.
I talked gently to myself when I thought about my obligations, like my blog post and this podcast.
I allowed myself to feel miserable and not pretend that I was okay, when I wasn’t.
I allowed others to take care of me, when I couldn’t take care of myself.
I trusted what I needed, and gave myself that.
I wrote about all the emotions that surfaced, from past dealings with ill health.
I felt the guilt of being the bully to those who deal with ill health, and if you are reading this, please forgive me.
It has been a time of soul reflecting, and perspective changing insights.
So my message for you is, where ever you are in your life, be gentle with yourself, you are your greatest asset, and you have only one shot at this life as we know it.
Cradle yourself tenderly and know you have the ability to face the next step, what ever that may look like.
Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…
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