Discipline: Decision Paralysis
Hello, My Friends
Do you know what you want?
Most of us do, we want so many things. What are you prepared to do to get what you want?
What are you prepared to give up to get what you want?
If you can’t get what you want, from where you are. The implication is that you must move, and to move some things will have to change.
Most human’s do not like change. We don’t like things that move swiftly and change everything, we feel disorientated, uncomfortable and out of place.
To get what you want you will need to make some changes in the direction of what it is you want.
This can produce a situation of decision paralysis.
Questions begin to fly through your mind. What if questions with a disagreeable slant to them, you look at what could go wrong, you look at what you may have to sacrifice, you may feel worried, or fearful, or terrified of losing everything and everyone you hold as important.
It is really important to look at these questions, to write them on paper. Remember thoughts belong on paper so we can look at them objectively.
These questions will have valid points that may need to be addressed.
Write them all out on your paper, get every last one out of your brain.
Create two lists, one with the disagreeable what ifs and get everything out of your brain so you can see all that could go wrong.
And on the other list, write down all the reasons that it could work. Write all the things that could go right. Get everything out of your brain.
These are your pros and cons lists.
Then begin using your imagin-if-I glass, imagine if you could, imagine what it would feel like to be in the picture of what you really want.
Imagine all the what if’s from a pleasurable slant, what if it worked, what if you had, what if you could do, what if you empowered millions of people, what if your invention changed the world looked at something.
Write all these on your Imagin-if-I list. Build the picture, add colour, add sound and smell. Put yourself in the middle of this picture.
Then create a third list of the benefits that making this decision is a good idea.
List all the ‘practicalities’ of making this decision and why you should go for it.
Answer the questions around financial viability, How you think it could work, why you think it is important, what your personal benefit will be, what your family or community benefit would be.
These three lists will help you to make a decision.
However if you are paralyzed over seemingly small insignificant decisions like what to eat for dinner, decide and do, second guessing is not an option. Once the decision is made, stick to it.
This will give you practice at making decisions, and give you confidence in your ability to make decisions that are best for you.
And should you make an error in your decision, use it as the learning tool it is, this builds your decision making muscles.
For every errant decision you make notice the ten you made well, and as you gain experience in what doesn’t work your ratio of better decisions will rise.
Decision making is part of being disciplined.
Today’s challenge is to make a decision on what you will eat for dinner tonight and make it happen.
Until tomorrow, notice all the decisions you make all day long. They may seem small and insignificant but they have an impact on your emotions and your day.
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