Harmony: self forgiveness
Hello, My Friends
Today I want to talk about self forgiveness.
Self forgiveness is vital for you to live in harmony with yourself.
Allow yourself to be imperfect, some where in our minds we think we have to be perfect.
The perfect parent, the perfect partner, have and run the perfect business, be in the perfect career.
There is no such thing as perfect.
I know, you’ve been told this a million times and still you feel the judgement when you don’t live up to an expectation that has been placed on you.
That’s why, right there, it’s an expectation that someone else decided you need to live into.
Letting go of all the things you think you have done wrong, or not done right is the beginning of forgiving yourself.
This process is about you, for you. It has nothing to do with anyone else sharing your story space.
Every time you remember some thing that you feel down or sad about, whisper to yourself, “I’m sorry” then state what you are sorry for, remember you are talking to yourself, so no-one needs to know what you are talking about, “I am sorry for overeating at lunch” ” I am sorry for not giving you the nutrition you need to be completely healthy.” Then move into saying I forgive you, as if your body or the hurt or the you, that you want to forgive is answering your sorry. Say “I forgive you” then follow it with what you are forgiving yourself for.
This might look like “I forgive you for over eating.” Leave off the judgement statements like ‘again, or you always eat more than you need.’ These are not helpful.
State “I forgive you for overeating” “I forgive you for hurting me.” Then allow yourself to feel the feelings of letting go the hurt, guilt and shame of overeating, of hurting yourself, and all the drama around that goes with it. Be aware you may have an emotional response to forgiving yourself, let it be, your emotions will feel uncomfortable but they can not hurt you.
Then Thank yourself, be as honest as you can, Say something like, ” Thank you for being truthful about overeating, Thank you, for forgiving me.” “Thank you for all you have taught me about who I am.”
This gets a bit messy, as you can be the person who is sorry, and or, the person who is offering forgiveness, either way, be grateful for the honesty, and the forgiveness.
This is really powerful when done with integrity.
The next phase is to say to yourself, “I love you.” Releasing all the pent up hurt and frustration that you’ve been holding against yourself, with an honest, “I love you.” I Love You creates a space for you to become your best friend.
As an aside, try saying the ‘I love you’ while looking in your eyes in the mirror.
Forgiveness is powerful, by giving yourself permission to let go of all the failures, failings and missteps of your past, you unshackle yourself from your past.
Which allows you to move into your future.
Today’s question is… Are you ready to forgive yourself for your past missteps?
Until tomorrow, Find a quiet space and begin with the first thing that pops into your mind.
- Forgive me, I forgive you
- Thank You
- I love you
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