At the end of the day we are accountable to ourselves
-Our success is a result of what we do and who we are.
Quote: Catherine Pulsifer
Picture: Gantas Vaiciulenas on Unsplash
Hello, My Friends
As 2021 draws to an end, I tend to have a review of the previous year.
This year has been a funny kind of year, with lockdowns and mandates.
Pressures on friendships and relationships.
This year I have consistently posted a message every day on my Facebook page, authenticlivingwithlinda or lindacodlin25. This has been a huge learning curve, to be diligent, planning and executing even when I didn’t feel like it.
Then I began to play with doing a video log, both in Facebook and on Instagram. Another huge step out of my comfort zone.
Was I ready? Absolutely not. My motto was, “Near enough is good enough.” “Imperfect action is better than perfect procrastination.” and I did it. Do I have room for improvement? Absolutely.
I have spent this year conquering emotional eating and the huge amount of baggage that was sitting behind that title. I’m physically slimmer now than I was at the beginning of the year, and I’m emotionally lighter than I have ever been. There have been a lot of forgiveness sessions, for myself and the impactors of my childhood.
Did I accomplish all my goals? I wish I could say sure did. But honestly, no, some are still so scary to me I can hardly dare to think of them. I am still growing into that woman, that’s the great thing about the model I’m using, it’s a continual growth programme. It’s all about the quality of the journey, rather than the speed of getting to the destination.
So that’s a quick run down on my year.
What about your year? What have you done, and who have you become that you are proud of?
What treks and lessons have you discovered and learned this year?
Do you know more about yourself now than you did this time last year?
When we are living in the every day, we can get bogged down by the routines of our routine life. What would make a difference in your life over the next 365 days?
I teach about the tiny daily habits that make all the difference to the way you live, and to where you end up. When we include one small action to our daily routine and practice it everyday until it is who we are, we have changed the course of our future. Imagine if you had a magic looking glass, in this looking glass you could go forward into the future one year. Looking at your future self, where do you want to be? What physical things do you want to be different? What emotional things do you want to change? What feeling do you want to have when you look at yourself? Pick one tiny behaviour that you can begin to add to your day to day life and practice it everyday.
If you want to see a slimmer you in the mirror, plan to walk 10 mins every day and make it part of your schedule. A year of walking 10 mins everyday is a lot of physical activity. I can guarantee you will feel better about yourself, because you made a plan and you followed through. You respected yourself enough to show up for yourself. Part of your plan might be to upgrade your clothes. You can’t slouch around in trackies, and big baggy jerseys if you don’t have any in your wardrobe. Clothes have a magic power, they can transform attitudes, they reinforce beliefs, they help you to step into the persona of your future self.
If you want to see a wealthier you in the mirror, plan to pay down your debt and make the payments a priority. Ask your subconscious mind to find you imaginative and profitable ways to increase your income, then when you get the ideas, follow through on them. Do the internal emotional work to discover your beliefs around money, finances, and wealth. Up-level your beliefs. You will only ever earn and keep the amount of money and wealth that you are comfortable with. What you are currently earning is your current income comfort zone. If you want more income and wealth, you need to move your belief and comfort zone to the next level.
If you want to see yourself with the person of your dreams in a loving and supportive relationship, plan to become the person you want to share your life with. Take daily action steps to make yourself a priority in your life. You can only love someone else to the degree you love yourself. Decide to romance yourself, get to know what you like and what you don’t. Ask yourself pointed questions that make you think about who you really are, the you that isn’t hiding behind your roles, your job, your children, or any other thing you use to shield yourself from yourself. To have a loving relationship, you must have love for you. You must respect you. You have to be your number one. When was the last time you did exactly what you wanted for the sheer joy of doing it.
In 60 days time I turn sixty. My those years have flown by. Part of my goal for 2022 is to build a life that has more pleasure in it. This has been a theme in my life for a while now, and I keep getting side tracked with the serious things in life. (All of life can be serious, it’s a decision.) What I have learned is that how we do any thing is how we do every thing. I want my mirror to show me a woman who knows how to have fun, to find the pleasure in every day activities. So with this in mind I am challenging myself for the next 60 days to do one fun, pleasurable thing every day. My intention is to discover what I like and what I don’t, to stretch my boundaries, to get a few of my to do things off my list. Every day I will post a picture or video clip of what I did that day, with a comment on how it went, how I felt and what I learned. By stating my intention here I am making myself accountable for my actions and my promises to myself. If you want to see what I get up to you’ll find these posts on Facebook @linda.codlin #60daystosixtychallenge
And this brings me to the last point of making tiny changes that alter your life, and that is, find an accountability buddy, someone who will keep you honest, who will encourage you on the hard days, and praise you on the good days. When you become an accountability buddy, you have an external nudge to keep you moving forward towards the person in the mirror. You also become invested in someone else’s journey. You become motivation for some one else to achieve their goals. When we are supported by others we can face what ever life may pass our way. Keep in regular contact with your buddy, share your goals, your successes and your failings, together your buddy and you will reach your goals.
New Year 2023! Who will you be? Decide now and work backward from there, to here, to figure out what needs to happen to move you forward. Then begin stepping into the life you want.
Happy New Year! 2022 is your year, you get to decide what this year means to and for you.
If you are wanting coaching or accountability connect with me and together we can make a difference to your world, creating your life your way.
Until next time be authentically you.