Accountability buddies make a difference.

Do you have someone to check in with your successes, what went well, your aha moments, the newest growth principle you’re discovering?
Do you have someone to share the hard times, the disappointments, the heart breaks?
An accountability buddy group?

Hello, My Friends

Do you ever get tired of being you?
You wake up in the morning, (this is a bonus) and the first thing you are aware of thinking is another day has begun.
Do you roll over and pull the covers up to your chin and want to stay cosy and warm in your bed?
I have my alarm on my phone, in another room. So, when the alarm goes off, I have to get out of bed to switch it off.
Some mornings find me standing between the two door frames, standing in indecision.
One doorframe leads to my office, and the other back to the warmth of my bed.
The next decision I make has an impact on the rest of my day. Sometimes a seemingly small decision such as going through doorway number 1, verses doorway number 2 can make all the difference to the outcome of the day.
And, sometimes it is wise to go to doorway number 2, there is a fine line between pushing yourself, and pulling yourself towards your goal. In both cases you are heading for your goal.
Pushing yourself has the energy of striving, of making it happen, of hard work.
Whereas, Pulling yourself has the energy of flow, of finding the slip stream, of ease.

In my life, I am leaning more and more towards the energy of flow, of ease, and pulling myself towards the goal rather than pushing, fighting, and striving.
I still have my daily doing list. I am very much a list girl, but these lists no longer drive me.

Today I want to talk about accountability.
Does the thought of being accountable make your heart sink, and your toes curl?
To be honest, I have always considered myself to be a pretty driven person who didn’t need a lot of external motivation to get things done.
Once I set my mind on it, it was done. Getting to the stage of setting my mind sometimes took a lot of procrastination and self beating.
This year I have had the privilege of being part of an accountability group.
To begin with I didn’t know how to be a part of a group of women who would hold me accountable.
I thought it might be a bit like someone with a big stick holding me to my word. If I said it, then it had to be done.
Can you see my childhood upbringing in this statement? Thoughts and beliefs are so very important, they shape the way we do everything, and who we are.

What I am finding is that having a small group of women to check in with once a week or so, has been liberating.
There is no-one with a stick. There is no-one telling my what I should or shouldn’t be doing. I set my own goal, and my own pace of achievement.
Every week we check in with our successes, what went well, our aha moments, the newest growth principle we’re discovering.
We also share the hard times, the disappointments, the heart breaks.
We encourage each other with words of wisdom, with encouragement, with inspiration.
Just by being a woman living a life being pulled forward by a dream and a goal, we inspire each other.
We share tips on what is working for us, and what didn’t work.
Because of this wonderful group of accountability buddies I have learned new techniques for productivity.
I am learning to trust myself more, each of the ladies in the group are growing and it is fabulous to see this unfolding before our eyes.

Each month we share the goal we’d like to complete for the month we are in, for some of us it is a continuation of the big yearly goal, for others it comes under the word of the year, but the tasks are different every month.
Then each week we check in with what we want to achieve, or how we want to achieve our tasks.
This accountability group is more than ticking of tasks, it’s about how we do our tasks, it’s about who we are as we do our tasks.
It’s about the spirit of being a woman. It’s about becoming the best that we can be.

Do you have someone who will hold you accountable to be the best version of yourself?
I find it amazing how this small group of woman have changed my view of task accomplishment.
Yes, it is up to me to do what I have said I’m going to do. No-one is going to do it for me. And, I could lie saying I’ve done the task when I haven’t.
Who does that hurt? Me.

And the task will still need to be done if I want to achieve my goal. Can you see the shift in thinking? It’s not so much about the task, it’s about the person performing the task. The integrity of the person. Accountability buddies also help with procrastination, every week you know you have to check in, to give a report of your week so to speak.
We notice if one of the ladies hasn’t checked in, and we care about her, we seek her out and check that she is okay.
We support each other when life throws us curve balls, when we reach out and ask for specific support it is given.
Knowing that we have this amount of caring, changes the way we work.

This week I would like to encourage you to seek out an accountability buddy, a group of buddies, someone who will be there to support you, and that you can support on life’s journey.
The accountability group has grown me in ways I didn’t even know I needed to grow.
We live in different parts of the world, yet we share the human desire for connection.

If you want to be a part of a group of accountability buddies, email me, at authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com to be connected with others of like mindedness.

Until next time my friends
Have a fabulous week.

xoxox Linda.

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