Social Relationships

Do you feel socially awkward when you enter a room of people you don’t know?
Would you like to feel confident on the inside and look confident on the outside?
It begins with you.
Loving yourself from the inside shows up on the outside.
Social confidence.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.

Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 33

I love when all the behind the scenes work comes into place to create a work of art.
The behind the scenes work for me has been the way I think about other people.

In my history I was taught not to trust. Firstly myself, and secondly other people.
I felt socially inept, I didn’t know how to be around other people.

I was so concerned about what they would think about me, and how I looked that I was awkward and aloof.
Guess what happens when you show up awkward and aloof, those very people I want to interact with, would leave me alone.
They would feel my awkwardness and my aloofness and presume I didn’t want to be bothered.

Part of my journey, is to deliberately stretch myself into situations that will create the opportunity for me to grow.
Growth is not an easy thing, it is often painful, awkward and uncertain.
Being in the learning zone, means facing fears, means trying new ideas, means doing things badly. It also means finding new ways of being, having successes that were unthinkable, morphing into the person that has been a hope ‘forever’.

Once I came to terms within myself, that I can actually trust myself, that the world is not going to stop, or that I’m worth putting in the effort, then the process has become easier.

I’m talking about the internal easier, because I no longer fight myself, or at least not as hard or as long as I did. The negative self-talk has been replaced with acceptance. (Most of the time)
Remember I am also a human, having a human experience in a human body.
Life serves me challenges that I have no idea how to manage. It’s part of the joys and woes of being human.

What about you?
How do you feel about yourself?
Everything begins with you. Remember your thoughts create everything, your thoughts determine how you experience that curved balls that life sends our way.
Your thoughts can make a bad situation worse, or they can make it an opportunity for you to become stronger, better, and more authentically you.
Your thoughts determine your attitude, and people are attitude interpreters, people have an inbuilt radar that senses energy vibrations, people also respond or react to those energy vibrations knowingly or not.

When you are at peace with yourself, you are more likely to have kinder thoughts about yourself, which shifts your energy signature up the vibrational scale.
The better you feel, deep inside yourself, the higher your vibration.
Everything is energy and everything, including humans are vibrating.
Have you wondered why you resonate with some people and not others. It’s a vibrational thing, you are most likely to be on the same wave length.

If you are wanting to improve your relationships with those around you, begin by improving your relationship with yourself.

Next week I will talk about the self forgiveness which I have found is a big part of loving yourself, of accepting yourself, all of yourself.
Every human has the ability to behave in ways that enhances and helps themselves and mankind, those same humans also have the ability to behave in ways that harm and hurt themselves and mankind.

So today I want you to think about how you interact with the people around you, are you in the awkward and aloof stage of growth? Maybe you act confident on the outside, but on the inside you are filled with self doubt.
May be you are great at work, where you have honed your skills, but in personal gatherings you feel uneasy?
Maybe you are very social when you have had a limbering up drink or two?

Awareness is the first step to knowing yourself. Have you admitted these feelings to yourself? Most of us shove these feelings deep down inside us, and then add food, alcohol, shopping, adrenlin activities, we each have our own flavour of denial.
This week become aware of how you feel in social situations.
Begin to tell yourself you can meet new people, then say ‘Hello” to one new person. That’s all just, say “Hello”. Build evidence for your brain that you can greet new people, and still be okay.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…
If you want to learn how to overcome social awkwardness, contact me and together we can create a plan to build your social skills from the inside out.
Live your best life, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
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