Ep #14 Everything in your life is your choice.

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Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way
we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends

I’m going to start today with a statement. This statement is designed to get you thinking, to get you to have a response of some kind.
Everything in your life today, you have chosen.

What is your initial response?
How would I know what is going on in your life? I don’t, but I still believe you have had a hand in everything that is happening in your life.

Let me explain, before you shoot me down.
Whether we understand the complexities of a decision we have made, or have not made, but feel we should have made. We have a hand in the outcome.

When I first heard this concept, I was very indignant.
I didn’t choose my parents or how they treated me, or did I.
If I believe that everything that happens to me, is happening for my good, then my parents were perfect for me.
Also since I can’t change what has happened in the past, my past must have been exactly what I needed for me to be where I am today, if it wasn’t then I’d be somewhere else.

The events happening in your life now are here as a result of your past ways of thinking.
And the sad part is no-one ever told us this, or showed us how to think differently.
Our society is constructed in such a way that ‘free’ thought isn’t promoted.
We are trained to think in a certain way. That way is very muchly determined by our immediate family and surroundings.
Wealthy kids think differently about money, than kids raised without money.
Kids raised in ‘upstanding’ homes have values instilled in them, that children left to raise themselves don’t.
How can we know what we don’t know?

Awareness is the beginning of knowing what we don’t know.
When did you become aware that you weren’t the same as the kid next door?
For me it was when I went to school, I looked different to the other kids, I dressed differently.
I came from an average neighbour-hood, I had as much going for me as any other kid.
But somewhere on life’s travels through toddler hood into school hood I collected a believe that I wasn’t as good as the other kids.
And in case you are not aware, kids smell that sort of thing on a person. It’s like honey to a bee. And they swarm, bullies and shy kids alike, they just do it in different ways.

Were you the kid that had the low self- belief? Or were you the bully who made this kids life even more miserable? Maybe you were the shy kid, who didn’t do anything to make the situation better, or worse, you stood on the sideline petrified to become involved?
What I know now is that those bullies actually had harder lives than I did, they were the kids who also felt unworthy, they just covered it up differently.
Human beings are amazing beings, but we are more alike than we are different.
We all on occasion feel insecure, we all feel not good enough at some point in our lives, we all have dreams and desires.

Everything in, every stage of our lives was a training situation.
I remember a quiet shy kid, getting up one day to smack the bully kid. He’d had enough, his belief in himself was roused.
Both these kids were not the same after this incident.
The quiet kid became more assertive, almost dominant. The Bully kid left him alone, and the school gossip line went off like a bush fire out of control, so the quiet kid became a sort of hero.

Each of us has the potential to be something else.
To do this it is important to make peace with our past.
Accepting as it is, investigating the story we tell about it, and how that story is impacting our lives today.
When we are holding onto the past, keeping the emotions we feel about it alive with our thoughts, we also keep the attitude and energy alive.
If the attitude and energy are helpful in your life today then keep them, however if the attitudes and energy are keeping you stuck, having you make decisions that don’t serve you in a way that produces the results you want. It is time to let those stories go.
Maybe it’s time to let the past story be the past story.
Secret Clue: If you have a strong negative emotional response to a memory, your story is causing you more pain than is needed.

Making peace with our past stories and events, enables us to see our lives as they are, rather than through the lens of blame, guilt and shame.
Blame, guilt and shame will keep us from making decisions that create our desired results. Actually they keep us from even thinking or believing that we deserve a result of any kind.

You deserve to live a better life if that is what you want.
You deserve to choose a better thought, to think.

Everything in your life today, is the result of a thought you have entertained, acted on, or didn’t act on in your past.
You are where you are today, in large part because of the events and choices you have made about those events.

If you want a safe space to investigate the emotions and situations of your past, that are holding you back from living today to it’s fullest, then contact me by email, for one on one coaching.

Your future can be very different from your past, and all it takes is retraining your brain.
Lets work together to make a difference.

Your challenge for today is to write down one thought that you want to change, that will positively impact the way you think about yourself.
You can borrow mine if you like. I am a woman who is worthy of the best life has to offer.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, one amazing thought at a time, live into your authenticity.
If you want help with investigating your emotions and thought about your past, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram at authenticlivingwithlinda.
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