Leading through listening.
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On the flip side of leading with words, is leading through listening.
We have been given two ears and one mouth as a ratio guide on how to communicate.
Most people have a brain that runs at a million miles an hour, and is half way into the next conversation before the speaking person has a chance to take a breath.
And when they do take a breath the ‘listening’ party is quick to step into the conversation and reveal how much they know about the topic.
Leaving the speaker feeling left out in the cold.
Training our brain to slow down and actually listen, not only with our ears but with our brain, and with our eyes, and our intuition.
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When we stop to notice what and how the speaker is talking, we can learn so much more than the words being spoken.
A speaker will ‘tell’ you how enthusiastic they are about the topic, by the rate of speech and their hand gestures.
Take note, this is an ideal way to engage this person in conversation when you meet them in another environment.
People give us clues all the time about what they are really thinking, listening leaders learn to observe the unspoken cues of their team.
Listening to what is being said, and what is being left out, will tell a leader about the health of their team.
Asking quality questions that steer a conversation in a particular way also gives insight on those who are confident in what topics, and which areas need to be encouraged for expansion.
An effective leader will be on the lookout for ways to improve the skill base of their team.
Teaching people how to respect others when they are speaking builds trust in the team.
Having a speaking gavel that is passed to the speaker, indicates that the person speaking has the floor, and the attention of everyone in the room. They get to speak without interruption for the allotted time frame.
At the end of their speaking time, the floor is opened for questions and answers.
This is the time to make statements or question items for clarity, the audience gets to have a vital input into the ideas, strategies and points put forward.
Active listening includes hearing the unspoken clues, pinpointing what was stated exceptionally well, reading the vibrational energy signature of the speaker and the audience.
Active listening gives the speaker your undivided attention, no doodling boredly on the agenda, no mobile phone usage, definitely no yawning, or talking to your neighbour.
If per chance you find the speaker is droning on, you can find ways to occupy your mind, by trying to guess what comes next.
Do you know his topic as well as he does? What if you looked for ideas that back up your theories, or look for theories that disprove your theories, Contemplating how to formulate a question to gain better clarity on his points, without being superior, or put downish, or embarrassing him.
Seeking to understand, rather than seeking to be understood will bring clarity to what is being communicated.
A great leader will take the time to listen, to contemplate how best to respond if at all, and will speak only when absolutely required to.
We have two ears and one mouth, maybe as a reminder to speak less and listen more.
When you are speaking you are not learning, when you are actively listening you are learning.
Today’s inspirational droplet is effective leaders engage in active listening.
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