Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than anything onto which it is poured.Mark Twain
Anger is like a venom that brews silently within our souls.
It creates black clouds of doubt and jealousy.
Anger when it is unexposed can kill, friendships, marriages and the person holding onto it.
Anger is an emotion that is often stirred in our minds by thoughts of comparison.
We perceive that someone has a better something than we do.
Someone my say a comment and we see red instantly.
That person has hit a trigger within you. There is a hurt within you that hasn’t quite healed, or has been buried deeply, a hurt that you don’t want anyone to know about.
Your first reaction is to attack- you send your words out in a nasty flurry, turning the situation around onto the person who hit your trigger.
You are like a high powered weapon, letting off rounds of deadly poison aimed at anyone within reach.
This is a deflection tactic, if you can keep the other person on the defensive then they’ll never see the hurt that they triggered.
The truth is angry people show their triggers all the time. If an outside person where to sit and watch they would be able to see the hurt.
The uncomfortable part of working with your anger is learning to identify, first the trigger, and second the wound behind the trigger.
I believe we don’t need to unpack the past to move into the future.
We can accept the past event, take the lessons from it.
Forgiveness is a vital step in the process of letting anger go. Of being free from the pain and hurt of past events. When you forgive your self and others, a weight is lifted off your shoulders.
If you would like to work more on moving past anger, email me for a coaching session.
I can help you regain your inner composure, be at peace with yourself and tame the unruly tiger within that feels like it is driving your life.