The One Relationship You Never Get a Break From.

The Relationship with Ourselves.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching.
I’m Linda Codlin, Transformational Life Coach.
Welcome, my friends.

As February begins, I want us to take a breath and let January close.
Let us bring into the new month only the things we actually need for this month, and as we do so, allow the things from last month to settle and move gently into the completed area of our brains.

This month we will be investigating relationships and unconditional love.
We will begin with ourselves, unconditional love begins with the way we love ourselves, this overflows into how we love others, which shows up in our relationship with money, and finally we will bring it all together and allow our relationships to settle.

Let’s begin.

The One Relationship You Never Get a Break From.

There’s one relationship we’re in from the moment we wake up until the moment we fall asleep.
No holidays. No time-outs. No “I’ll deal with this later.”

It’s the relationship we have with ourselves.

I know — that can sound a bit lofty or even exhausting. But stay with me for a moment. This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself or fixing anything that’s “wrong.” It’s more like noticing how you’re actually treating yourself on an ordinary Tuesday.

Because that relationship is quietly shaping everything else.
How safe you feel in your body.
How much rest you allow.
How you speak to yourself when things don’t go to plan.
Even how you relate to money, time, and choice.

Most of us were taught to relate to ourselves conditionally.

“I’ll be kinder when I’ve done enough.”
“I’ll rest once I’ve earned it.”
“I’ll feel good about myself when I get it right.”
It’s subtle. Almost invisible. And completely normal.
But conditional self-relationship has a cost. It keeps the nervous system slightly on edge, always waiting for the next requirement, the next benchmark, the next reason to soften — instead of softening now.

Unconditional love, in this context, isn’t some grand spiritual state. It’s surprisingly practical.

It sounds like:
“I’m allowed to be human today.”
“I can be disappointed without abandoning myself.”
“I don’t have to threaten myself into showing up.”
When you start relating to yourself this way, something interesting happens.
You stop needing everything outside of you to prove your worth.

And this is where money quietly enters the conversation.

Not in a heavy way. Just as an honest mirror.
If you look closely, the way you handle money often reflects the way you treat yourself.
Over-restriction can mirror self-denial.
Overspending can be a search for comfort or permission.
Avoidance can be a form of self-protection that once made sense.
None of this makes you bad or broken. It simply shows you where unconditional regard hasn’t yet been modelled — especially in moments involving safety, choice, and trust.

When self-relationship softens, money conversations soften too.

Spending becomes less about proving or compensating.
Saving becomes less about fear and more about care.
Receiving — whether money, support, or kindness — feels safer.

This isn’t about getting it “right.” It’s about becoming more honest.

You might notice where you still push yourself when you’re tired.
Or where you withhold kindness until a task is done.
Or where you make yourself wrong for wanting ease, beauty, or support.
And instead of correcting it, you simply notice.

That noticing is already a form of love.

Healthy relationships with others — partners, friends, clients — don’t begin with better communication techniques. They begin with how safe it feels to be you when no one else is in the room.
When you stop negotiating your worth internally, external relationships don’t have to work so hard.

So this week, I’m not inviting you to change anything.

Just to check in.
Over your morning cuppa.
Or while washing dishes.
Or in that quiet moment before sleep.
Ask yourself gently:
“What is the tone of my relationship with myself today?”
“Where did I meet myself with a little more kindness this week?”
No judgment. No fixing.
Just listening.
Because this is the one relationship you never get a break from — and it deserves a little kindness too.

When our relationship with ourselves softens, the way we meet everyone else begins to shift too.

If you feel like it, I’d love to know —
Where did you notice yourself coming back to yourself this week?
No big breakthroughs required. Sometimes it’s as simple as pausing, choosing differently, or being a little kinder than usual.

“Relationships — with Ourselves, with Others, with Money — flourish when we stop forcing and start relating.”

This month is a gentle exploration of how we relate — to ourselves, to others, and to the exchanges that shape our lives.
There’s no rush and nothing to get right.
Just an invitation to notice what feels true.
I’m glad you’re here in this with me.

xoxox Linda

Next week we widen the circle a little more with loving others without self-abandonment.

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