Changing Habits

A habit is a thought and action that has been repeated so many times it becomes automatic and normal. We become so accustomed to doing this action we are not aware we do it. Challenging these habits will be life changing.

Hello, My Friends

Challenging Norms, what is normal for you may not be normal for everyone.
What makes a norm, normal?


Generally a norm is normalised by the people around us.


We learn more by doing than by being told what to do, and we learn by watching what other people do.
Being told one thing and observing another, we often do what we observe.

To challenge a norm, means to put pressure on that thought, action or belief.


Once an old norm, has been found to be outmoded and the choice has been made to replace it, finding and focusing on the new behaviour becomes the centre of attention.

Take for example cigarette smoking,
Once cigarette smoking was all the rage, all the ‘cool’ people were smoking.
Advertising was geared towards showing people what they were missing out on if they weren’t smoking.
It took a lot of pressure to ‘encourage’ people that smoking wasn’t as healthy or ‘cool’ as it was deemed to be.
As legal requirements changed around smoking venues, peoples attitudes began to change, somewhat resistantly at first.
Now it is not so normal to be a cigarette smoker.

Do you have a habit that you want to shift gears on, and haven’t had a lot of success in yet?
I can help you to unravel the emotional ties to your habit, and together we can create a new way of being without the habit.

As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what habit you want to change.
oxox Linda

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The 2 C’s of Self Belief.

Be Yourself, YOU are ONE of a KIND.

Two humans are completely different from each other.

Comparing them is like insulting nature.

Nitin Namdeo

Why are you trying so hard to fit in,

When you are Born to Stand Out.

Oliver James

Hello, My Friends

This week has been a wonderful week, we have had a few frosts, which always lead into beautiful days. I have been discussing confidence with my ladies. And in line with this months theme of challenging norms I thought I would share a little of how damaging comparison is to our self-esteem.

Comparison is a kind of judgment. When we are purchasing goods or services, comparing similar products and services makes sense. We want to use our financial resources wisely. We want to get the product or service that will serve our needs best, and we want to ensure that the retailer is legitimate.

People when you compare yourself with other people, the tendency is to look at others when they are at their best, while you are not.

Social Media is great for inspiring you to up-level your belief about yourself. If any one person on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter can do anything, so can you.

Do you choose to feed your mind quality images and thought foods?

What goes into your brain will come out in your actions if you don’t take time to make a deliberate choice on how you want to use those images and thoughts.

Comparing yourself when you are in a funk with people who have spent hours getting dressed ready to face a camera is not good for your image of yourself.

Every-one, All human beings, have days when they would rather stay in bed, when they don’t want to get dressed, or they don’t want to do what has to be done.

The disciplined people have a routine or a series of habits they perform every day regardless of their emotions. They know that actions will help to overcome a funk. They know they are worthy of showing up for what they have planned.

Confidence is dressing to show yourself who you are. Remember you get to decide who you are.

Who are you?

When you compare your life with some-one else’s life, who is ten years ahead of you on their journey, you will find they will be in a completely different space. The secret is to hold space for yourself, imagine yourself with love and acceptance where they are, knowing that their life is not perfect, there is no perfect, there is now and your intent for the next minute.

Comparison sucks the life out of you, it makes you think and then feel that you are not as good as the one you are comparing yourself with.

STOP comparing, if you must look at where some-one else is in their lives, use it as a way of blessing them, send them great energy vibrations. What you send out will come back to you. This way you are not blocking the radiance of who you are with jealousy. All jealousy is, is an emotion that is showing you that some-one has something you think you want. Holding onto jealousy will never bring that thing you want, (that you secretly, or not so secretly believe you are not good enough for.) to you.

Comparison and jealously are emotions that reduce the feelings of gratitude. They take away the contentment of what you have and place you in the feelings of lack and scarcity, of what you don’t have. And often don’t believe you will ever have.

You are your greatest asset. I say this all the time, you have the ability to learn, to grow and to become anyone you want to be.

If you see someone in a business like the one you’d love to be running, know they didn’t start there, they also had to grow, they had to find the strength and courage to wrap their confidence cloak around themselves, face their fears and walk into the unknown to make it to where they are now.

If they can do it, you can do it. Begin, research, ask questions, talk to those you admire, ask them how they think, ask them what it took for them to become who they are today.

Remember your thoughts will have an effect on your self-belief, which will affect your actions.

It is your actions that create the results that other people see. As your results increase you will become some-one, that others will compare themselves to. Be a worthy mentor. Be a worthy signpost leading others to their goals with love, joy and harmony.

The secret to harmony is to be at peace with yourself, and to never, ever, compare your journey with anyone else’s.

Journey’s may cross paths, they may run side by side, but a journey is an individual thing, just as confidence is an individual thing. Build your confidence by never comparing yourself with anyone else. Always ask yourself, did I do my very best today? Be honest with your answer, and step up tomorrow with the intention of doing a little better. Talking a little kinder to yourself or others, showing up for your schedule, for your children, or spouse. And always showing up for yourself.

YOU ARE YOUR GREATEST ASSET.

Until next time, eliminate comparing yourself with others, and begin to reward your self with praise and gratitude for what you have, who you are, and what you are doing well.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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Ep #2: The way we do something is as important as what we do.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching Podcast, I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping people to help themselves.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends
The way we do, what we are doing, is as important as the task being done.
What I mean by this is the energy and attitude you do your tasks in, is vitally important.

Let’s say you’re on a weight reduction journey.
You have your plan, you have your will power, you have your desire and dream.
You go through your home eliminating all distractions, removing all the “bad” foods from your pantry, your fridge and all the other hiding places your favourite snack food has been stashed.

You’re all ready, you begin with great gusto.
You stick to your plan rigidly and you feel good about yourself.
Weigh in day, and the scales are kind.

Three days later, a stressing situation happens, you use all your will power not to purchase any off plan snacks.
Feeling great, you decide to reward yourself with a tidbit of something close to plan.
Then the guilt and self reproach sets in, your mind goes wild reminding you of all the previous eating plans you have been on, and failed to adhere to.

Now you’re determined to work out to shed the perceived extra kilos gained.

You punish yourself, berating yourself, reminding yourself how bad, and stupid and irresponsible you are.

You may actually beat yourself into shape, you may be a slender body, but there is no harmony within yourself.
If you are like a lot of thin people who have starved, over-exercised, or chose other unhealthy ways to become, and maintain slenderness, you will not be feeling very happy with your body.

The way you release your slender self, is to begin to work with yourself.
The way you manage your weight reduction energetically and emotionally, will be how you live once your goal is achieved.

It is my belief that your body speaks to you all the time.
Your body tells you when it has eaten enough.
Your body tells you when it likes what you are eating and when it doesn’t.
I’m not talking about your taste buds, those are trained to like the foods you eat.
I’m talking about when your nose wrinkles at the smell of a particular food cooking, If your nose doesn’t like the smell, why would your body like this food.
If you feel bloated after eating, notice what you were eating.
Take a few minutes to hold food in your mouth, to savour all the flavours.

How you prepare your food, and how you eat your food, is all part of the energy of eating.
Being relaxed when eating helps your digestion.

Exercising as a form of punishment, may feel good at the time. (A hard workout can be very satisfying) but you know the true reason you are punishing yourself.
Are you running to compensate for the extra food you are eating?
Are you using weights to prove to others that you are strong, and a force to be reckoned with?
Why you do something is as important as what you are doing. You cannot feel good about a result that was generated from a place of self-loathing, fear, lack or punishment.

I want to suggest that you begin listening to your body. Not your brain, Your brain wants to stay the same, it doesn’t want you to change. So it will tell you a lot of stories, with the purpose of keeping you in your safe box.
Your body will tell you what you need, do you know your body’s signal for true hunger, (compared to emotional hunger)
Do you know your body’s signal for rest, your body is made to move, it is also made to rest and getting these in balance is important?
Do you know your body’s signal for inspiring information?
Your body tells you what you are feeling, what emotions are moving through your body. If we listen our body will tell us everything we need to know for health and well-being.

And it will be unique to you, what suits my body, may not suit your body.
The type of food you were raised eating may not be what your body needs any longer. The fun part of this journey is to discover what is your unique and genuine way of living in your body.
I can help you to be a detective in figuring out what suits your body best.
The way you treat yourself on the journey, will affect the way you feel about the outcome.
There is no happy ending to an unhappy journey.

Together we can build your self-image, and create a weight management plan that suits your body, from the inside out.
Creating a loving relationship with yourself will give you inner peace and harmony.
This is my desire for you my friend, that you will live your life to the fullest with delight and pleasure.

oxoxo Linda

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life authentically.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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Stop playing small.

Give yourself permission to live a big life.

Step into who you were meant to be.

Stop playing small.

You are meant for greater things.

Hello, My Friends

This month we are chatting about Challenging Norms.

The little snippets of conversations we were taught and believed as children that don’t necessarily serve us as adults.

I’ve been thinking about how, through the education system, we are often taught to take up as little space as possible. Not intentionally of course.

This may look like, the teacher asking a question from the front and expecting a student to raise their hand to answer. All through my education, I was, what some would say was a shy student. Part of the benefit of this shyness was that I was invisible, if you didn’t make a scene, or you did what you were told you were often overlooked when it came to speaking in front of the other students.

Part of the benefit of shyness was that the bully’s would leave you alone, or not. The bully’s had a way of seeking out the quiet, shy and scholarly kids. Apparently to them I was one of these.

All this attention made me retreat from my life. I never raised my hand, if I could avoid it I never spoke in front of anyone else, for fear of being laughed at, embarrassed if I got it wrong, and being bullied on the way home from school.

When your first six or seven years in the education system was actively choosing not to be seen, it becomes a habit.

This habit was helpful at home as well, it got me out of chores, it also got me out of the firing line of cross and tired adults.

In what ways did you make yourself invisible as a child?

Did you tone down what you were good at? If you were a runner did you always come in second, so you wouldn’t be in the limelight? Were you a dancer, going to your lessons each week, practicing at home, you loved dancing, and when the competitions came around somehow, you always messed up your routine?

The emotion of being seen and taking space, can be so frightening that we choose to live very small lives.

What is your normal, go to action, when life doesn’t go as first planned?

Let’s say you are at a restaurant and your food is not up to standard, do you send it back and ask for better, or do you put up with it, and eat it. Why? Is it because you don’t want to make a fuss? Is it because you feel like you are being an inconvenience? Is it because you don’t want to deal with a confrontation? Maybe it’s because you believe you are not worth having what you want.

What about when your partner asks you what type of car you’d like to purchase next? Do you know what type of car you want? Is it important to you- Why or why not? What is your thought process as you discuss this topic? Do you feel like you opinion won’t be valued so there’s no point in sharing? Do you feel like you are putting yourself out into the open by sharing what you really want? Maybe you are trying to figure out what your partner wants and trying to fit in with their ideas? (What are you afraid will happen if you stated what you really want?)

Living a small life, where you are afraid to take up space in your life, affects every area of your life.

It is a road block to you being, and living your authentic life.

Everyone of us, has some area that we run from, when we begin to embrace our emotional being-ness, we begin to embrace the space that is ours.

The amazing thing about stepping into your own space is it feels so natural, it feels like home.

You get to find your voice, you get to have a say on what you want, how you want it, and you get to be an active part of your life.

Imagine being the person who is willing to step into the dream that has been dormant in your life, all your life. This dream is the nagging feeling that you have more to do in your life, and I can guarantee you know exactly what it is, if you were brave enough to admit it to yourself.

The education system we grew up in has given us skills which we believed we needed to survive, and in most cases it did, we wouldn’t be where we are now, if it didn’t give us skills.

The Challenge I have for you is to investigate if the skills and beliefs you acquired during your formative schooling years are serving you now.

Challenge your normal thinking about your school days, reprogram your mind to empower you to fulfill your dreams.

Step into the limelight of your own life. Be the star of your show. You only have this one life to be you. Begin, continue and flourish being your authentic self.

There is no-one in this entire world like you. (Be kind) You are the person that the world needs right now, to be shining your golden emotional light. Take space in your life, make decisions that please you, learn about yourself, question your norms.

xoxox Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

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Challenging Norms- Tooting your own horn.

Hello, My Friends

Challenging Norms,

Blowing your own horn!?

What is your stance on the statement of blowing your own horn?


Is it inappropriate to state what you are good at, what you love to do, or share something you are feeling particularly proud of?

This is our challenging norms opinion piece for today.

Were you taught that it is bad manners to brag about what you have done. By the way what does bragging mean in this sense?

I was taught that your good works will speak for themselves.
To me there is a degree of truth that your good works will indeed speak for themselves.
My query is “How will others know what you can do, or who you are if you don’t say?”

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Being proud of yourself, and the things you have achieved is a good thing.
I think that often tooting your own horn can be done for the emotional need, to be recognized, and this then diminishes the genuine response of those hearing your proud achievements.

Seeking praise, seeking grandeur, or seeking to prove yourself to someone else.
Does tooting your own horn, go hand in hand with contemptuous pride?

When a child comes running into the kitchen with a picture they’ve just spent the last hour drawing and colouring in, they are brimming with pride and want to show anyone and everyone who will look and listen at their drawing.

Is this tooting your own horn in it’s most innocent form?

What about writing up your C.V.? Where does tooting your horn fit is this scene? If you don’t tell your prospective employer what you can do and do well, they will never know and they won’t be able to validate what you say you can do.
What about sharing your busy life with others, explaining what life is like for you. Is this tooting your own horn?

When does tooting your own horn turn into complaining, nagging and degrading yourself or others?
My purpose in asking these questions is to get you thinking about your point of view of “blowing your own horn”, is there an appropriate time, place and situation or is ‘bragging’ about your achievements some thing to be avoided?

Where does a healthy self-image fit into this?
How do you congratulate and celebrate yourself when you do something great? Is this blowing your own trumpet, or is it acknowledging a good job well done?

I’d love to hear your opinion on this topic of blowing your own horn, pros and cons.
Leave a message in the comments, and let’s begin a conversation.
oxoxo Linda
As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you view blowing your own horn to be.

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Fear of failing is…

How would you answer this statement?

Hello, My Friends

Challenging Norms…

Fears are such powerful things.
Fear is a response to our brain perceiving something or someone will harm us,
The emotional feeling of fear is our body responding to the brains stimulus.
Our body needs to be ready to run, to fight, or to hide. So our marvelous body prepares us by filling our body with adrenalin, making us super alert.

In modern day times, our brain tends to over-react, which can keep us in a heightened state of alert.
Challenging the normality of your everyday includes investigating with interest what triggers your fear response.

Do you have an emotional response to the fear of getting it wrong?

What is your body’s go to feeling? Sick to the stomach, butterflies, cramping or headaches.
Where does it live in your body? Chest, head, stomach, or legs.
How do you handle these feelings? Avoid, over-ride with action, eat, or some other activity.

Do you have these feelings often?
If you do, learning to see them coming will help you make decisions on what to do next.

Connect with me in the comments.
I have strategies that can help you to overcome the fears of failing and getting it wrong.

oxoxo Linda
As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about the fears keeping you stuck in the cycle of inaction.

Find me at
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Failing is part of the learning process.

As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you view creativity to be.

Find me at
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http://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com
email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com
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Hello, My Friends

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching Podcast, I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

This is my first podcast so be patient with me as I find my way through new territory.
Just a little introduction about me.
My name is Linda Codlin, I am a certified life coach, I am also the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping people to help themselves.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, being your authentic self.

The only person who can change your life is you.
You may not be aware of this fact yet, and you may not believe this yet.

This one shift in thinking is responsible for so many changes, in so many people.

The topic for this month is Challenging Norms.
And along this line of thought One of my favourite quote’s is
We don’t know what we don’t know until we do know.

The more I find out about the human brain, the universe, and people the more I realise there is a lot I don’t know.

Challenging the way we think about things can be eye opening.

When was the last time you put yourself in a situation that had you thinking outside your normal paradigm?
Remember that a paradigm is a way of thinking, and being, it’s the way you see yourself, your world, and the way you see people in your space relating with each other.

Take for instance the point of view that failing is fatal.
If this is the way you were taught to think about failing, you will struggle to attempt new things.
I was taught that if you failed it somehow made you a bad person.
Who wants to be a bad person, no-one, right.
So in my child mind, I took this to mean that I had to be perfect.
Are you in the I’ve got to be perfect trap?
It’s so tiring, you can’t let your guard drop for one second, or those around you will know you’re not actually perfect at all.
It’s a bit like atlas holding up the world.
The thought of failing is terrifying, right.
This is a thought that needs to be challenged.
Does thinking that you are a failure if you fail, serve you, does it generate happiness in your spirit?
How do you feel when you think about failing?
If you’re like me, it would generate feelings of anxiety and terror.
And when I felt like that, how did I act?
I certainly didn’t try new things, and I made sure that what I did do was controlled so tightly that failure was not an option.

Challenging your normality, is healthy.
Are you afraid to try new things because you may fail, and feel emotions that are scary.

Life coaching is all about being supported as you transition into new ways of thinking and being.
My grandson told me one day, that to FAIL meant you just needed more practice, he said, “Failing was just the FIRST ATTEMPT IN LEARNING.”
Don’t you just love that, imagine if we were taught as children that failing is part of the learning system.
The thing is you can take that on board today, you can challenge your normal thinking, and create a new way of thinking.
My affirmation now is, I am willing to do a poor job, until I can do a better job, then I’ll do a better job.

I want to leave you with the idea that failing is part of the learning process.
Failing, adjusting, experimenting, failing some more, adjusting some more, experimenting some more is how we eventually get to the ideal we are wanting.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life authentically.

Challenging Norms…

Hello, My Friends

Do you believe you are a creative person?

Do each one of us have creative tendencies?
Is creativity about being more than artistic?
What is your view?
Are mathematicians creative or are they seen as strategic only?
What about gardeners, creative or horticulturalists?
A sketcher who doodles, artistic creative?
A person who tags walls with their version of art, are they creative or destructive?

Does the location of the art, determine it’s value?
What about the gender of the creator? Does this have a bearing on the validity of the item?
Often we give credence to certain activities with the filters of gender, design, culture, and country as to it’s value as a creative endeavour.

Do chainsaw sculptures compare to say marble sculptures? Are all sculptures equal?

Is creativity a personal point of view?
Who decides what is creative?
What is your view of creativity?

oxoxo Linda

As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you view creativity to be.

Find me at
Facebook: LindaCodlin25
http://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com
email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com
Instagram: authenticlivingwithlinda
You tube: authenticlivingcoaching

Proving yourself to the most important person in your life.

A hero can be anyone,

Even a woman doing something as simple as feeding her family,

Or a father giving a hug to a child,

When the world seems to be falling apart.

A heroine makes a difference by loving, by being there,

The smallest actions have the greatest impacts, unseen,

But vitally important.

Hello, My Friends

This week has been a wet and wild week. Hubby is acting like a caged animal, his natural habitat is outdoors, so being cooped up inside is not his thing.

Me, I’m like a cat, a tame house cat, I’ll find a warm, preferably sunny spot and curl up with a great book to while away my hours.

This week I’ve been thinking about imperfections.

Hubby and I were having a conversation about some of the important things in life, like whether we want to be cremated or buried, where we wanted to be laid to rest, what kind of care we want in the last stages of life. That kind of important and often hairy kind of conversation.

My view is, we are all going to pass away at some time, we just don’t know when. So if we get the messy, emotional stuff sorted now, before we’re in the depths of emotional overwhelm, then that will be a few less items to have to contend with, and if we let family members know as well, it may make the time of passing a bit easier.

I also believe that we can celebrate living while we are living.

This was a foreign concept to me for ever so long, the premise I’d collected in growing up was we had to get through life, with as few scratches and hurts as possible. Aim at being perfect and hope that was good enough to get a great seat in the afterlife.

Enjoying my life for the sheer fun of enjoyment was weird, it was like I’d be having fun, and catch myself having fun, then I’d begin looking for the disaster that was sure to follow, the fun police killjoys, and sure enough I’d find them.

I also hid my imperfections, have you ever seen someone hiding their imperfections, it’s a bit like shining a bright LED light on the point that is trying to be hidden. I wasn’t fooling anyone, except maybe myself, but looking back, I don’t think even I believed my stories.

Today I want to talk about owning your imperfections.

What is your view of your imperfections?

Do you only see yourself through the eyes of your body size? And that is never good enough.

Looking back at photographs of myself, I always had the self-image that I was fat, and I had to work hard to be thin, a point I could never attain. The self talk around my body image was shocking, I’d be so mean to myself. Now I look at those pictures and wonder what on earth was I thinking. There was nothing wrong with my body shape or size. Perfectionism had a hold on my view of myself.

Do you see yourself as worthy only when you are earning, or creating? And you never seem to have enough or be good enough at what you are working on.

In my first marriage, I got the sense that I wasn’t worthy unless I was earning. (This was my perspective at the time, and is highly debatable about the ‘truth’ of the premise.) Since earning money doesn’t have anything to do with self-worth. It has everything to do with value and the marketplace, the more value you have as in skills and abilities, the more money you earn. And whether you keep that money or not is related to your beliefs around money, spending, saving and your self-worth.

What are you trying to be perfect in? What is the biggest thing you are trying to cover up with your need to be perfect?

Ask yourself- WHAT AM I AFRAID THAT OTHERS WILL FIND OUT ABOUT ME?

What are your secrets in your closet? We all have them.

To be able to live in harmony with yourself, coming to terms with your history, your scary, your shameful, and your embarrassing past, is part of the journey of letting perfectionism go.

Each one of us gets to own our stories, the ugly bits, the beautiful bits, the bits we are ashamed to admit to ourselves, let alone to others. This is a very personal part of our journey. It is where we become brutally honest with ourselves and realise that we can not go back into history and change what was done, said or played out. We can rewrite the story in a way that empowers, and inspires us to be the heroine of our lives.

Too often we have been feed the story that we are the victims of our past, and that we have to wear the guilt and shame of our history for all our lives. I disagree, I know the freedom that comes from choosing to be the heroine, to accept my history as it is warts, wobbles, and E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G, good, bad and ugly. I can not change my actions from the past, I can forgive and choose to be a better human today than I was yesterday,

Imperfections make us human, those very aspects of your personality you are trying so hard to cover up, are the very aspects of your personality that make you likable, and lovable.

When and if you decide to share your story, share it from a place of worthiness, of confidence, of living in your truth.

If you share your story with the view that by sharing, someone will make you feel better, you are giving away your power. You are asking for approval, a worthy person does not need to seek approval. The worthy person gives approval to themselves. They know their value, they trust that they are okay, they have nothing to prove.

The veneer of perfectionism is no longer required when you know you are worthy, because you are a human being, and you do not have to prove your worth to yourself or anyone else. You can do, fail, get up, and do again. And keep doing until what you want to achieve is done.

The only person you have to prove yourself to is yourself.

THE ONLY PERSON YOU HAVE TO PROVE YOURSELF TO IS YOURSELF. Do better today than you did yesterday. Do more this hour than you did in the last hour. Be, embody the person you see yourself being, right now in this moment in time, and then again in the next moment of time. If you forget who you are, STOP, then begin fresh right where you are, to be who you know you are.

What is one small action that you can take today to prove yourself to yourself? What one thought about your history can you change from a victim thought to a heroine thought? What one perfectionistic belief can you safely look at this week?

Embracing your imperfections can open the door to your super powers.

Are you ready to walk into your super power? Email me, and let’s begin a conversation to get you started on the road to proving your worth to yourself by unlocking your super power.

oxoxoLinda

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Leading: Unselfishness- Who benefits?

Hello, My Friends

As this month comes to a close, we begin to look at the next month.
You will have noticed that my schedule has changed.
Part of living what I’m teaching is about the art of fine tuning.
Over the next few months I will be taking my own advice and trialing different things, I’d love your feedback on what you like best.

Leading, as this month has progressed and as we have covered more aspects of leading both ourselves and others, it became apparent to me that I wasn’t living into my leading style and changes needed to happen.

It is my hope that you have gained some valuable insights into your leading style and that all leading begins with you as the leader.

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Valuing yourself first.
Does this feel selfish to you?
How selfish is it when you burn out, and are unable to take care of yourself?
How selfish is it, when you are yelling at your children, because you don’t have the energy or the head space to reason with them, again!
What does selflessness look like to you?
Being a doormat, that everyone can walk over. Always saying ‘yes’ even when you want to say ‘no’. Being amiable, when inside you are boiling at being mistreated, again!
Doormats get trodden on, wiped out, and disrespected.


Selflessness, true selflessness can only happen as you take care of yourself.
Learning to listen to your innermost feelings.
Selflessness, is finding your voice in a way that is authentic to you, and using your voice in a way that honours you and respects others.

If being selfish is going for a jog three times a week to blow the cobwebs out of a crowded mind, then be selfish.
If being selfish is stating firmly what you want for dinner, and following through on your statement then be selfish.
The important thing to discover is what your definition of selfish looks like. Where did you learn what was selfish and what wasn’t?
Who benefited from teaching you, and reinforcing your version of selfish?
Often people are accused of being selfish, when those accusing are losing some form of benefit, perceived right, or control.

It is in having a full emotionally satisfied life that you can truly give of yourself to others without any expectation in return.
When your emotional needs are met, you can serve others in a way that genuinely meets their needs without stepping on, or ignoring your own.

The selfishness I am talking about is taking care of your emotional needs first.
How empty is your emotional cup?
How long has it been since you filled your emotional cup?
No-one else can fill your cup, no-one else knows what needs to go into your cup to fill it.

My challenge to you is to investigate your definition of selfish, and who benefits from your “unselfishness”.

Today’s Inspirational Droplet is Emotional freedom is the key to a well lived life.

oxoxo Linda

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