Ep # 15 Decisions, Commitment and Actions

Do you have difficulty in following through with the things you say you want?
Are you afraid to make decisions just in case… Something better comes along, You might make a mistake or you don’t know what you really want.
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Ep #15 Decisions, Commitment and Actions

Hello, My Friends
Welcome to episode 15.

Today I want to talk about decision making, commitment and action.

Often we don’t make decisions because we over think what needs to happen, we believe that we can’t do what we want.
Sometimes we have too much information, and sorting out what information is relevant to the problem that needs to be solved can feel overwhelming.
Sometimes we are afraid to make a decision just in case something else comes up that we think we’ll like better.
This form of indecision is an excuse to not make a choice. By not choosing you have made a choice already. By not acting, you have made a decision, by default.

To make a decision, you get to think about what you want.
This in itself can be problematic, because we don’t want to have to own our wants.
You already know what you want. You need to allow yourself to admit that you really want what you want.
Make a decision. Decide that you actually do want, what you want.
A decision is a thought.
A decision doesn’t mean anything until you add commitment to it.
It is easy to say I have made a decision to do whatever I want.
I can say I have made a decision to lose the last 10 kg, and I plan to do that over the next 100 days.
Great the decision is made.
What now?
Now comes the commitment to follow through on that decision.
A decision doesn’t mean anything until you add commitment to it. How do you know when you are committed to something?
By the action you take.
Action is doing the things that need to be done, consistently, and commitment is making the plan for you to follow to make it happen.
In losing 10 kg of weight, the commitment could include writing up an eating protocol that you know you will be able to stick to. (also lots of mini decisions)
Creating an exercise plan that you enjoy and that will stretch you a little. Making a decision that you will walk a minimum of 15 mins every day.
The commitment is to put the plan and protocol into your schedule, to be actioned.
A commitment is an agreement with yourself, it moves you out of the place of just wanting and into the energy and space of I’m making this desire happen.
It’s a commitment that takes energy, it takes you through inconvenience, it carries you through the hard and tiring times.
Sometimes we make a decision, and a commitment but don’t follow through and then we make excuses for not making it happen.
Our commitment was for the day we made the decision, instead of for the want, we think we want.
A commitment is not a one off decision, it is not a once and done thing, everyday is an opportunity to recommit to yourself.
With the decision to lose 10 kg in 100 days the commitment comes in taking the necessary action to make that happen.
There will be times when you won’t feel like exercising, there will be times when you want to eat and it’s not time to eat, there will be food available for you to eat but it’s not on your protocol.
That’s when your commitment to your decision steps in. Then the action you take from your commitment will give your decision legs. And that’s how the weight will be lost.

It’s not so much the decision, although the decision is the beginning of the process, the commitment to that decision is what you act upon, and it’s the commitment that needs to be made all the time.

With the ability to make a committed choice is the ability to make a turn around. A turn around is flipping a thought from what you don’t want to what you do want.
Everything begins with a thought. It’s a thought that will derail your commitment to your decision.
If you find you have not followed through with the action you had planned, don’t give up on yoursef, don’t beat yourself up, do a turn around.
At any moment in time you can do a turn around, you can think the opposite thought, you can make yourself move to take the action required.

Action gives your brain evidence that you really are committed to making your decision a reality.
With the weight loss example, as your body and brain realise that you are serious about moving your body for a minimum of 15 mins a day, they will begin to remind you, and encourage you to follow through.
As you follow your protocol, making turn arounds as needed, your brain and body will come on board and it will become easier to follow through.
Then the snowball effect of commitment comes into play and it becomes easier to remain committed.

So your challenge for today is to make a decision, decide on what you want. Then make a commitment to take the action that will make that decision reality.
Also take as many turn arounds as you need. Every turn around is a step closer to making your decision reality.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, one committed action at a time, live into your authenticity.
If you want help clarifying what you want, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram.
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Thank You for listening.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

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Accept or Reject Your Choice.

How many of the thoughts you think in an hour are actually thoughts you choose?
What happens when someone says something to you that you disagree with?
You have the power to accept or reject a thought or an idea.
You can cancel any thought you don’t want

Whenever a NEGATIVE thought concerning your PERSONAL POWER comes to mind, Deliberately voice a POSITIVE thought to CANCEL it out.

Norman Vincent Peale

Hello, My Friends,

I’ve had a wonderful week, filled with early morning starts, fishing, dusk walks with fiery skies and more learnings about who I am as a woman.

Thoughtful question, What have learned about yourself this week?

Some of those ‘negative’ situations we try so hard to avoid, are really just the prod we need to learn a little more about who we are, what we like and what we don’t like.
We don’t know, what we don’t know.
Until something happens that brings that not knowing into our consciousness, we continue on blithely unaware of our habits, our thoughts and the way these affect our lives.

I was reminded this week that our brain consists of the conscious mind and the unconscious mind.
The conscious mind uses our 5 senses to discover and give feedback about the world around us. We can choose the information that goes into our conscious mind.
The conscious mind is the thinking mind, the educated mind, it is the intellectual mind. We have the ability to decide what we will take in, how we will live and learn.
The conscious mind is the intellectual mind, it is the part of your mind that collects data, and information.
It collects this data from places like the radio, the television, the internet, social media, other people, and learning institutes.
These collected pieces of data affect the way we think.
Our conscious mind is information gathering all the time.
Often we already have the information and the data to do what we need to do, but we don’t do it.
Why? Why don’t we do what we already know how to do?

If I asked you how to lose weight, you’d most likely tell me a dozen different ways to take weight off my body.
And most of them I would already know, you learn about what you are interested in.
That is so fascinating, when you become aware of what you don’t know, your brain sets about learning it, for example when you begin to learn about the value of nutrition, you begin to notice nutritional information everywhere.
That’s your amazing conscious mind, seeking information.

Most of us live in this realm. The natural, the seen, the action orientated space.
Often we don’t move into the subconscious realm.
The subconscious mind is where your emotions live. It is the emotional mind.
The subconscious mind cannot reject a strong emotional, repetitive suggestion. Everything that is not guarded against by the conscious mind flows unimpeded into the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind has to accept the thoughts, emotions, pictures and feelings that the conscious mind sends it’s way.
The subconscious mind doesn’t recognize the difference between what is ‘real’ or what is imagined.
This is why visualization and thinking is of vital importance.
The subconscious mind is where your foundational beliefs reside.
These foundational beliefs are generally installed in us as children, or through a traumatic event, and are linked to strong emotional responses, or prolonged repetition of situations and the consequences of those situations.

When we want to improve our lives most of us will go about changing the physical things we see, hear, taste, and touch.
We have been taught that this is the ‘only’ way to make a change. And often this does produce change, when it becomes a struggle is, when we want to maintain the change permanently.
Because we haven’t changed the belief or the thought that created the initial behaviour, we slip back into the habitual routine of the unwanted behaviour.

Our emotional mind uses the will, the imagination, the memory, perception and intuition to build its beliefs.
This is where our knowing that we know resides.
When we learn to trust this part of our being, and act upon the hunches and intuitive feelings, then our results change permanently.

We can change any belief we hold, by repetition.
Firstly we need to become aware of an action, a thought or behaviour that isn’t serving us, then we set about learning about that thing, this is all conscious mind thinking.
When we move into becoming aware of the emotions, feelings and reasons for the thought, behaviour and action, we are moving into the subconscious mind arena.

By generating the feelings and emotions you want to feel about the thing you want, you can bring that into your space quicker and permanently.
Your subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between real and imagined. Why not live in the imagined.
Combine the emotions and feelings of what you want, with dedicated thought and action, to make it your reality.
You get to accept or reject any thought, any words spoken over you, any images you see that don’t take you where you want to go.

My aha moment came the other day, when I was thinking about this concept.
That the subconscious mind cannot reject anything given to it, it has to accept everything.
My subconscious mind has to accept anything that is not challenged.
Wow! How many of my thoughts aren’t challenged?
Once it has been accepted into my subconscious mind, it becomes part of my internal programming until it is over written deliberately with repetitious thought.
Wouldn’t it be easier to block, reject and cancel thoughts and images before they feed into my subconscious mind?
This would take a lot less effort and time.
One of the ways I figure out what is acceptable and what is rejectable is based on how I see myself in the future. My future self has what I am aiming for now, and as such she has the new ways I am required to think to get there.
Anything that doesn’t align with my future self is rejectable.
By selecting one attribute to focus on, I get to accept- create thoughts that enhance my view of my future self, through imagination, visualization, intuitive feelings and I get to reject, block and cancel anything that isn’t aligned with the attribute I’m focusing on.
By linking strong emotion into the mental pictures I see of myself in the future creates new pathways to that future quicker.

The subconscious mind cannot reject, it has to accept what is put into it, and it can’t tell what is true and what isn’t, it is the seat of our beliefs about who we are and what we can and can’t do.
Put only the good stuff in, the stuff that serves you, that leads in the direction you want to go.

Today’s challenge is to think about what you know, but don’t put into practice and ponder what feeling you need to have to instill that knowing into your subconscious mind and make it a knowing that you know action and belief without any doubt.

Until next time, follow your intuition, let your authentic self guide you. Do what you know to do.

oxoxo Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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Emotional Freedom. The UP’s and the DOWN’s

Do you feel like your emotions are ruling and ruining your life?
I did.
Do you feel like you have no control over how things work out for you?
I did.
The biggest change happened for me when I discovered I could manage my emotions, I gained freedom.

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Hello My Friends,

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching.
Where I give you snippets of wisdom and truth, I have learned so far from living my life.

Life is not always about being up and happy, sometimes it’s about being sad and hurt.
What life is all about for me, at this stage on my path of spiritual and personal development, is emotional freedom.
The freedom to feel all my emotions.
The happy and the sad, the pleasant and the unpleasant.
What happened for me in my past, was I shut down all unpleasant and unhappy emotions, thinking if I didn’t admit they were there they’d go away.
They didn’t. They just grew bigger and darker.
I became more angry, more bitter, more nasty, more depressed and more unhappy.
Emotions are telling us something about ourselves.
All emotions, happy and unhappy, joy and sorrow, pain and pleasure are all telling us something about ourselves.

The thing I found was that by not allowing myself to own my unhappy feelings, I also denied myself the joy of feeling the happy emotions.
They are linked together. We can’t feel only the emotions we want by supressing those we don’t want. When we suppress any emotion we end up suppressing all emotions.
I found I couldn’t enjoy my life, because I was numb from the pain of ignoring all my negative emotions.
I always expected bad things to happen to me, and when they did I would get angry and bitter.

Our body’s are amazing. Our mind may shut down and shut out certain emotions to protect us, but our body actually feels these emotions.
The body feels these emotions as vibrations and sensations, which we can identify as tension, as a physical response.
This physical response is stored in our body, in our cells, in our muscles, and in our thoughts.
Our amazing body’s will hold everything together, until it can’t any longer and we become ill, or we have a break down, or break out.
Sometimes the break comes in the form of a situation or event that stops us in our tracks.

Have you ever been so ‘busy’ you didn’t have time to give your body the rest it needs.
Only to come down with a cold or the flu, or to have an accident that lands you on bed rest for a few days.
Enforced rest. Your body knows what it needs.

When I was going through the early days of our marriage separation, I hadn’t learned about feeling all my emotions, so in my usual style I was denying and bottling them.
Stress was a huge factor in my life at that time, but I couldn’t and wouldn’t let myself stop to feel the pain.
Three months after the separation, and two days after what would have been our twenty fifth wedding anniversary, I had an accident at work.
I crushed one of my fingers, breaking the bone.
This was my body telling me to stop. I didn’t have a choice, I couldn’t work, I couldn’t even take care of myself.
The two months of healing my finger also became part of the healing process of mending a broken heart.
Our body is amazing and knows what we need, even when we ignore all the signals.
Our body needs us to feel all our emotions, the happy and the unhappy.

Life is about emotional freedom.
Being able to acknowledge and feel any and all emotions. Our body is feeling them anyway.
Why do you think we over-eat, or over-drink, or take drugs, or work excessively, or spend money we haven’t earned yet on things we don’t really like or need?
To avoid, or numb our emotional responses, we figure if we avoid the sensation or emotion we won’t have to deal with it.

Emotional freedom begins with identifying the feeling or sensation in your body. This sensation can be tension in your neck and shoulders, it might be in the form of a headache , it might be cramping in your belly. Your body will have a particular way of feeling the emotions you have the most, and I’d guess you already know what that sensation is.
Name the sensation and where it sits in your body, become aware of it. You don’t have to do anything with it, just be aware of it.
Then give the emotion a name. Emotions are usually only one word, like sad, mad, distraught, anxious, fearful, dread and many many more.
When I first began labelling my emotions I had about different words in my emotional vocabulary, and as time as passed I have learned more about the emotions I feel on default, and my vocabulary has broadened, so don’t be concerned if you only have a few words in the beginning. Name them the best you can.
And finally, everything comes back to what you are thinking.
Find the thought behind the emotion. This takes training and practice, it is easy once you begin to look at what your brain is telling you about all sorts of situations, people, and mostly yourself.
I have found that the brain is very clever at trickery, it doesn’t like to give up its control.
When you make a decision to feel your feelings and emotions your brain may go into over-drive telling you all the things about you that would normall having you running back to the security of your default avoidance mechanism, because your brain is trying to keep you safe, and safe to your brain means staying the same, change is scary and potentially dangerous to your primitive brain.
This is a normal response.
Tell your brain, that it will be alright, that you hear it’s concerns and that everything will be okay.

I have found it useful to name this part of my brain. I call her Sally.
When Sally pipes up to tell me all the reasons why I can’t do something, I talk to her kindly, as I would talk to a distraught child, I soothe her, and comfort her.
I let her know nothing has gone wrong, that all is as it should be, and I let her know she is heard.
And then I carry on anyway.

Emotional Freedom is the ability to feel the sensations in my body, to be in the place of feeling every emotion, naming it and being at peace with it being there.
When all emotions are heard and seen, they stop acting out like naughty children wanting attention and become part of the normal.
When we feel our emotions and sensations in our body, we don’t need to act on them. Often the unthinking actions of releasing the emotion and feelings will get us into more trouble than we want.
By engaging our brain and thinking about what our next move could be, and how that move will serve us both now and in the future, can be life changing.
It’s in the choosing and thinking that you gain your power and control back.

What stops you from achieving your dreams?
Is it the fear of feeling a certain way? A certain emotion?
Everything you want is on the other side of the emotion you are afraid of feeling.

My snippet of wisdom and truth for today is… Identify the feeling in your body. Name the emotion. Discover the thought behind the emotion.
Everything you do is for the feeling you believe you will gain from the doing of that thing.

Have a fabulous week, my friends. Until next time, Your authentic self is waiting to be released, emotional freedom is waiting for you.

If you want help stepping into your emotional freedom connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram.
If what I am sharing resonates with you,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Leave me a message on what emotional freedom feels like to you. Thank You for watching my channel.

Until next time see ya.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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Ep #14 Everything in your life is your choice.

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Podcast #14 Everything in your life is your choice.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way
we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends

I’m going to start today with a statement. This statement is designed to get you thinking, to get you to have a response of some kind.
Everything in your life today, you have chosen.

What is your initial response?
How would I know what is going on in your life? I don’t, but I still believe you have had a hand in everything that is happening in your life.

Let me explain, before you shoot me down.
Whether we understand the complexities of a decision we have made, or have not made, but feel we should have made. We have a hand in the outcome.

When I first heard this concept, I was very indignant.
I didn’t choose my parents or how they treated me, or did I.
If I believe that everything that happens to me, is happening for my good, then my parents were perfect for me.
Also since I can’t change what has happened in the past, my past must have been exactly what I needed for me to be where I am today, if it wasn’t then I’d be somewhere else.

The events happening in your life now are here as a result of your past ways of thinking.
And the sad part is no-one ever told us this, or showed us how to think differently.
Our society is constructed in such a way that ‘free’ thought isn’t promoted.
We are trained to think in a certain way. That way is very muchly determined by our immediate family and surroundings.
Wealthy kids think differently about money, than kids raised without money.
Kids raised in ‘upstanding’ homes have values instilled in them, that children left to raise themselves don’t.
How can we know what we don’t know?

Awareness is the beginning of knowing what we don’t know.
When did you become aware that you weren’t the same as the kid next door?
For me it was when I went to school, I looked different to the other kids, I dressed differently.
I came from an average neighbour-hood, I had as much going for me as any other kid.
But somewhere on life’s travels through toddler hood into school hood I collected a believe that I wasn’t as good as the other kids.
And in case you are not aware, kids smell that sort of thing on a person. It’s like honey to a bee. And they swarm, bullies and shy kids alike, they just do it in different ways.

Were you the kid that had the low self- belief? Or were you the bully who made this kids life even more miserable? Maybe you were the shy kid, who didn’t do anything to make the situation better, or worse, you stood on the sideline petrified to become involved?
What I know now is that those bullies actually had harder lives than I did, they were the kids who also felt unworthy, they just covered it up differently.
Human beings are amazing beings, but we are more alike than we are different.
We all on occasion feel insecure, we all feel not good enough at some point in our lives, we all have dreams and desires.

Everything in, every stage of our lives was a training situation.
I remember a quiet shy kid, getting up one day to smack the bully kid. He’d had enough, his belief in himself was roused.
Both these kids were not the same after this incident.
The quiet kid became more assertive, almost dominant. The Bully kid left him alone, and the school gossip line went off like a bush fire out of control, so the quiet kid became a sort of hero.

Each of us has the potential to be something else.
To do this it is important to make peace with our past.
Accepting as it is, investigating the story we tell about it, and how that story is impacting our lives today.
When we are holding onto the past, keeping the emotions we feel about it alive with our thoughts, we also keep the attitude and energy alive.
If the attitude and energy are helpful in your life today then keep them, however if the attitudes and energy are keeping you stuck, having you make decisions that don’t serve you in a way that produces the results you want. It is time to let those stories go.
Maybe it’s time to let the past story be the past story.
Secret Clue: If you have a strong negative emotional response to a memory, your story is causing you more pain than is needed.

Making peace with our past stories and events, enables us to see our lives as they are, rather than through the lens of blame, guilt and shame.
Blame, guilt and shame will keep us from making decisions that create our desired results. Actually they keep us from even thinking or believing that we deserve a result of any kind.

You deserve to live a better life if that is what you want.
You deserve to choose a better thought, to think.

Everything in your life today, is the result of a thought you have entertained, acted on, or didn’t act on in your past.
You are where you are today, in large part because of the events and choices you have made about those events.

If you want a safe space to investigate the emotions and situations of your past, that are holding you back from living today to it’s fullest, then contact me by email, for one on one coaching.

Your future can be very different from your past, and all it takes is retraining your brain.
Lets work together to make a difference.

Your challenge for today is to write down one thought that you want to change, that will positively impact the way you think about yourself.
You can borrow mine if you like. I am a woman who is worthy of the best life has to offer.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, one amazing thought at a time, live into your authenticity.
If you want help with investigating your emotions and thought about your past, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram at authenticlivingwithlinda.
If what I am sharing resonates with you,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

see ya Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

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Obstacles are Great Teachers

We develop our CHARACTER muscles

by Overcoming Challenges and Obstacles.

Stephen Covey

Hello My Friends

Don’t you wish sometimes that with a click of your fingers, you will overcome the obstacle that is sitting in your way?

The thing about obstacles, is they have so much for us to learn from them.
Situations that challenge us, do so because we haven’t mastered those particular skills yet.

Obstacles involving other people are some of the biggest challenges that we face.
The skills required to deal with people are generally experience based.
Reading a book will give you ideas and tips on how to handle situations, it’s not until you are in a situation and you use these ideas and tips that you will actually know how they work, and who they work for.

Each month I choose a topic to develop in myself.
This month is a cross over of two topics.
I have this thing that happens when I go to the library, the book I need to read seems to call me and then jumps out at me.
Last week the book titled “Rejection Proof – How to Beat Fear and Become Invincible’ by Jin Jiang jumped out at me.
This subject has been a theme throughout my life. I have run away from asking for what I want because I was afraid of being rejected.
It is always easier to reject myself, my ideas and my dreams than it is to voice them for someone else to reject them.

In all honesty the biggest obstacle I’m facing and have been facing for a long time now is the obstacle of self belief. (I think we all do, and as we grow we find new areas of self belief to upgrade.)
Everything boils down to belief in the end.
We will never rise above or stay above what we believe ourselves to be.
Our self belief is like a thermostat.
It subconsciously dictates how we respond to every situation we face.
And we have beliefs about everything.
Gender behaviours, the way we should be working, expectations for how our home is to look, expectations on how we interact with people.
What hot feels like, who is ‘good enough’ to be your friends, where you deserve to live, how you get around, and what you think about yourself.

Self belief is also adjustable like a thermostat.
It looks like this month is a month of stretching into the uncomfortable and beginning to rejection proof myself, from the inside out.
Is feeling rejected something you avoid?
Do you walk away from situations that may make you feel hurt because someone didn’t respond to your request in the way you want? (Before you even ask.)

I do, and I have become aware of it over the last little while.
Awareness is good. Nothing will change without awareness.
However nothing will change without a change in thought, and action.

Overcoming obstacles grows character.
And everything you and I want is on the other side of the fear that is keeping us playing small.
Let me repeat that.
Everything you and I want, is on the other side of the fear that is keeping us playing small.
For me it is facing my fear of being rejected, using my voice, being heard and asking for what I really want.

What is it you want that is on the other side of your fear?
Are you willing to admit what you want to yourself?
Are you willing to acknowledge the fear that is sitting between where you are now and what you want?

This is the best thing about coaching, it doesn’t matter where we are on the path, each one of us has our own journey, our own struggles and our own growth.
We can learn the skills and tools to move through the obstacles that are holding us back.
It all begins with a thought and a belief. A belief is a series of thoughts that have been thought for so long they don’t seem like thoughts any longer.
The secret key is to find the hidden thoughts, and change them, then follow that up with new thoughtful actions.
There is so much power in that short sentence.

Today’s challenge is to look at the obstacle standing on your path as your teacher. What skills do you need to fine tune or gather to overcome in this situation?
It will always be something within you, you can not change anyone else, you can not make anyone else think in a way that suits you.
The only person you have complete control over, is you. The way you think about your obstacle will determine how you deal with the obstacle.
You have the magic wand, you get to wave it. How will you use it?
What will you wish for? For you to become the person who handles this situation with ease and grace, with compassion and strength.
Or will you wish for the problem to go away, for someone else to deal with it, or will you wish for someone to blame.

If you want to talk about where you are on your journey and how you can move ahead in a supportive environment, contact me for a coaching consultation.
Together we can work out a plan to move through the obstacle holding you back.
And if it happens to be the fear of rejection, watch this space as I challenge myself to overcome the fear of being rejected and begin asking for what I want.

Authentic Living with Linda is about facing life with wisdom and truth wrapped in everyday events. Sometimes those events need to be manufactured to create the change that is wanted.

Until next time, challenge yourself to live your best and most authentic life.

oxoxo Linda.

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Ep #13 The Greatest Commitment You Can Make Is To Yourself.

Are you the last person to get ready for an event?
Do you take a back seat to other people?
Are you feeling undervalued?
Maybe it’s your time to make a commitment to yourself.
You are your most valuable asset, do you take care of yourself as such?

Click the link below for this weeks podcast.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way
we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends

Welcome to episode 13, The Greatest Commitment You can make is to yourself. Today I want to carry on talking about commitment.
I think committing to ourselves is so very important.
Most of us as woman, tend to put others needs first.
We think that by tending to others first we are somehow being more.
More loving, more caring, more friendly, more worthy, and more important.
The thing is we are often being more to everyone else and less to ourselves.
Are you being more to your family and less to yourself?
Do you feel frustrated that your needs don’t get met?
Maybe you are so used to not having your needs met, that you no longer even register that you have needs.
You walk through your day mildly annoyed, but don’t know what the annoyance is.
You have a hair-trigger temper, and you don’t know where it came from, you didn’t always snap so easily.
You feel slighted by people’s comments when they never bothered you before.
You strive to keep the peace, saying yes when you want to say no, or saying no when you really want to say yes. Not wanting to create a problem, a scene or be a nuiance.

These could all be caused by a lack of commitment to yourself.

When we learn to commit to ourselves, to be truthful with ourselves about what we really need, and then begin to fill those needs in ways that nourish and nurture our soul and spirit we find that our inner peace returns.

Our inner peace is like a safe haven within ourselves, it is the place where our cherished dreams live. The ones we never tell anyone, not even ourselves.
Our inner peace gives us strength and courage to be authentic, to love, to serve, to laugh and have fun from a wholistic place.
The more you love yourself the more you can love others.
The more you take care of yourself the better you can take care of others.
When your emotional ‘cup’ is full, the people in your life get to live in the overflow of that fullness.
You feel happier, You feel satisfied with yourself.

Making a commitment to yourself, to begin to take care of your soul, spirit gives you the power to find out what you really want.

Making a commitment to yourself will not be easy.
You will have past evidence that you have not been important to yourself. And habits take time and effort to restructure.
You can not change a habit by willing the old habit to change, you change a habit by overwriting and creating a new habit in it’s stead.
So instead of focusing on what you don’t want, you focus on what you do want.
Don’t want to over eat, practice eating until you feel elegantly satisfied, then stop eating. Remember new habits take practice and time.
You won’t get it right all the time, in fact to expect that you will get it right is to set yourself up for failure. (Failure is where you quit on yourself, verses failing, where you are working out what does and what doesn’t work for you.) A one degree shift applied consistently will have you in a totally different space over time and as you will generate new evidence of the new habit you are wanting, you gain confidence in yourself.

Commit to yourself, you are your most important asset.
If you are not important to yourself, how can you live a fulfilled and happy life.

Today’s challenge is to choose one activity you want to make a new habit in your life. Make a commitment to yourself, that this new action is non-negotiable, that you will do it no matter what.
It could be that you walk 5 mins every day. That you get your nails done once a month. That you have a bubble bath once a week.
Whatever it is that you need to recharge your soul and spirit, make it a priority for you. Start small, give yourself the satisfaction of succeeding.
Make a commitment to yourself, to be the woman you know you are.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, one recharging action at a time, live into your authenticity.
If you want help to reset your inner peace safe haven, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram.
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Thank You for listening.

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Commitment: The mental or physical act of directing energy.

What do you think of when asked to make a commitment to something?
Do you duck and run for cover?
Do you evaluate if the activity is worthy of your time and energy?
Do you say ‘yes’ and then regret it?
Commitment is code for freedom, when aligned with your genuine priorities.

Hello My Friends

Have you made a commitment to do something and then found out what the price of that commitment is?

Today I want to talk about commitment.

When I began writing my blog I committed myself to publishing it every week, on a Monday.

There have been so many different things happening for me at the moment, that it would have been easy for me to let this lapse.
However the price of not keeping a commitment I have made to myself is too high in the stakes of self integrity, and this is what motivates me, even when I don’t feel like doing what I’ve committed to. Also doing is so much easier than feeling disappointed in myself for not following through.

This week hubby and I took a little fishing break, sitting by the riverside, enjoying the sunshine and the oversized inflatable yellow duck moored on the water, straining against incoming tide.
We enjoyed fresh fish for dinner, there is nothing quite like freshly caught fish and fresh vegetables straight out of the garden.

What is a commitment?
Let me tell you what it is not. It is not a whim, it is not so much a feeling, as it is a decision.
Commitment is the mental or physical act of directing resources to an activity or relationship.
A commitment comes with a price tag. This price tag may look like time expenditure, it may cost money, it may mean you delay something you want now, for something you promised to do.
Being a woman who commits to herself comes with sacrifice. You may have to sacrifice ten minutes of telly, or social media to keep your promise to yourself that every night you will do your skincare routine. You may have to sacrifice a slice of cake a day, to have a slender body you can feel proud of.
Your commitment to yourself may mean you get to go out with friends, when you don’t ‘feel’ like it. You may even have fun and enjoy yourself.
Being a committed woman means you say what you mean, and you keep your word. To yourself, and to others.
Being a committed woman may mean you have to let other people down, so you can care for yourself first.

A woman who spreads herself too thin has very little to give to herself and others.
Rule of thumb is take care of yourself.
When you are committed to taking care of yourself first, you will create harmony in your spirit, you will generate energy and vitality.
Then from this place you can give and receive, the results will feel more satisfying.

Commitment means prioritizing. The key to having priorities is knowing what is important to you.

Your genuine priorities always get time and energy allocated to them.
Are you a genuine priority? Do you allocate time for you to regenerate your own energy?

Being committed is an ongoing set of decisions.
Each week I decide in advance to write this blog and to record a podcast. And then I follow through, and if I don’t my inner spiritual guide nags at me.

She knows that breaking a commitment to myself affects my self image, and my belief in my worthiness.
The tool I use to help me break through procrastination and disbelief is writing out why this commitment is important to me.
If I missed a week would I be happy to stop writing and recording permanently.
If the answer is ‘yes’ then what I’m doing is not a genuine priority, which means there is a should or must hiding in the background, and it is my responsibility to find what it is, so I can investigate it.
If the answer is ‘No, I’m not prepared to stop writing and recording.” Then it needs to be prioritised on my schedule.

My schedule is a non- negiotable for me. If something gets put on my schedule, I show up for it.
It is my commitment to myself, that only those things that are important to me get scheduled.
I am in charge of my schedule.

Are you in charge of your schedule?
This is a work in progress for me, a total shift in mindset.
I don’t have to do anything. Period. Fullstop.
You also don’t have to do anything.
What would your schedule look like if you stopped doing things that are not a genuine priority for you?


Would you stop running errands for other people, who can run those errands for themselves?
Would you stop filling your time with the priorities of other people?
What would it take for you to make a commitment to yourself to take care of yourself?
What is the one thing you complain the most about?
How can you move this complaint from not wanting to do it, from not liking it or them, and feeling like you have to or that you should be doing something. To I want to have this certain thing happen, or I like this part of it, but not this part. Also think about what you would do if you removed the complaint from your life, would you actually miss it.
By making a commitment to choosing those things that are genuine priorities to you, you will change the way you think and behave, and this will change your situation.
Commitment is a daily decision to do what you have said you will do.

Today’s challenge is to make a commitment to yourself, to refresh your energy every day.
Pick one thing that you think will be fun, and do that. Then put on your detective hat and cloak, ask yourself how you felt, genuinely felt about the activity, the time it took, the financial investment and whether you actually enjoyed it or not. Doing this will bring you some clarity around what is a priority for you.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, committing to yourself authentically.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

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The 3×3 grid for connection, and joy.

Never, Ever Underestimate the importance of having fun.

Randy Pausch

Hello, My Friends

What a week it’s been?
Family, friends, hubby and I took a heritage rail trip by steam train, through one of the amazing engineering feats of our country.
It was a pleasure to catch up with people in a leisurely manner and to enjoy the scenery without having to be distracted by driving.

This trip was a reminder to me that I need to include more pleasurable activities into my calendar.
I tend to be results orientated, and trips like these don’t ‘count’ as a result.
I think there might be an attitude in there that may need adusting.

So along these lines, I want to talk about the pleasure portfolio.
The other day I was talking with someone who shared a tip with me.
This tip was a bit of an eye opener for me, so I want to share the concept with you.

She asked me about how deep and diverse my connections base was.
I answered honestly, to have revealed to me that it could actually be quite shallow.

The idea is to rule up a page into a 3 X 3 grid. 9 squares in all.
Each square is to represent one area of connection you have with other people.

For example, one Square could be church family, another relatives, another the gym, another a hobby group, another a club you volunteer for, another an educational institute you attend, another could be your vocation.
The idea is to fill each of the squares with different connection groups, making them as broad as possible.
Then to write down the names of actual people you have a connection with, people you know by name and have interactions with.

For a lot of us, we may work with say ten people, but we only interact with 2 or 3. The challenge is to widen or broaden your connection base. Get to know more people.
We tend to mix with the same people, rather than stretching ourselves to meeting new people.

Are the people in the grid, of similar age, gender, and financial status as you are?
Do the people you mix the most with carry the same views as you, have similar experiences and stories to you?

It was suggested to be that a narrow base of people can limit our experiences and our ability to relate to more people.
Interesting thoughts.

With this in mind, over the last 6 months I’ve been exposing myself to different types of books, not the sort I would normally read.
Listening to different podcasts, and listening to the self talk that comes up. Very interesting and telling stories have emerged from exposing myself to unfamiliar surroundings.

This got me thinking about the categories of pleasure. As I have mentioned in other blogs, finding pleasure and joy continues to be a challenge for me.
I drew up the 3 x 3 grid, and began to fill in the various forms of things I gain pleasure from, with the intention of finding nine categories I could expand on.
So far I have food. Food as a source of pleasure and joy can be a slippery slope for those of us who like to use food to avoid emotions.


Exercising. Moving the body, whether dancing alone or with others, whether at the gym, going for a walk or jog. Exercise can bring a lot of joy and pleasure.
Reading and Writing.
Outings like the train ride.
Café drinks and lunches.
Creating with my hands, visible things that can be held. Sewing, wood working, that type of thing.
Art work, creating beauty with colour, texture and form.
Alone time with nature at the beach or amongst trees, sitting in the sun.
Working with individuals and groups of people to make lives better.

What other categories would you suggest that I include to create a well balanced pleasure portfolio?
Self care, romantic time, family shared interests, I am interested to hear your suggestions.
Please let me know of more ideas in the comments.

If you were to do two 3 x 3 grids, one for connections and one for pleasure, what would you fill them with?

This is your challenge for this week, fill in two nine square grids with how you currently connect with people and how you currently find ways to enjoy your life.
Feel free to put your ideas in the comments below.

Until next time deepen your people connections and your pleasure, joy portfolio.

Live your best live authentically.
oxoxox Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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The Joy of Mindset Tuning

Tuning your mind to what you want is a daily activity, and it gives you what you are looking for.
What you are seeking is seeking you.
What is your ideal? Begin seeking it, and watching to see how it turns up, be aware of the actions you need to take.

Hello My Friends

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching.
I’m your hostess Linda Codlin.
I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

The joy of mindset tuning, is it is never done.
Have you ever thought to yourself, ah, I’ve got that sussed, to find the issue rears it’s head in another form?
The good thing about this is, you have the ability to turn it into something that will benefit you.

Mindset tuning is adjusting your thoughts to the frequency of the energy you want to manifest.
It works a bit like a radio station, or your cell phone.
If you are on the same frequency you can call someone, or listen to the music being played.
However if you are slightly out of range or just off with the tuning, you get static. You may be able to hear the other person, but understanding them is difficult.

This is how it is with our energy.
The way we think affects everything around us.
We are walking, talking vibrational energy beings.
I love the thought of being a vibrational energy being.
It kind of puts the power of how I want to experience life back in my hands.

Experiencing life: That is an interesting way of looking at living.
Often we live life on autopilot, going through the motions, not really in touch with our emotions. Or what really makes us happy, fulfilled or contented.

We live in a tangible world, this world has an impact on how we feel, it has an impact on how we percieve situations, people and things. (as in physical stuff we accumulate.)
Often we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of going and doing, without checking to see if the going and doing is helping or hindering us.

We have been told that the mind is powerful, I have found this to be true.
However the mind needs the body to do the activities it can not.
The mind will have amazing ideas, and these ideas without action are just ideas.
Many, many people have had great ideas, but they never put the work into making those ideas tangible, so they died as seeds, unplanted, unwatered and unable to grow.

Imagine if the guy who invented the mobile phone all those years ago, didn’t act on his idea, we wouldn’t have the technology we do now.
And to have the technology we have now, other people needed to act on their ideas on how they could improve on what was already being used.

Your mind will give you the ideas, it is up to you to take action to make it a reality.
What stops you from taking action?
This is the fun stuff, this is the meat of life.
It is all the beliefs we have that we are not good enough, don’t have enough money, time, clients, you name it.
These are what are standing between you and your ideal life.
An ideal life is an idea that hasn’t been given legs yet.

Do you want to know how to give your ideas legs and create your ideal life?
You begin where you are, with what you have and you begin to sell yourself on the idea.
When you believe in your idea, you will be willing to attempt the actions that your mind has given you, so that you begin to know how to get your idea moving towards reality
Remember, getting it wrong, making mistakes, coming to deadends, and facing rejection are all part of the process.
Each time you get it wrong, make a mistake, come up against a dead end or face rejection, you have the ability to grow and become closer to the personal identity who knows how to make your idea work.
It’s in this growth that the legs become apparent on your idea.
As you keep adjusting and moving forward following the drawing of your energy and tuning into the frequency of who you need to be to make your idea reality, you change and become someone who lives from the idea. This is why it is so important to understand and believe in your ideal.
If your ideal does not align with your soul, your body or your mind, you will find yourself feeling frustrated and distraught.
When your ideal comes from within you, it generates it’s own passion, and it’s own energy force. It propels you forward.

Believing in yourself, is one of the keys to achieving your ideal.
Finding your frequency of thoughts that make you feel good, confident and willing to try new things is another.
Stepping into action, soulfully inspired action is another key to achieving your ideal.
When these three are in alignment, synchronicities happen as if by magic.

It’s then that you will feel the ease, and joy of achieving your ideal.

So, Until next time my friends believe in yourself, you can do what ever you set your mind on, put your focused energy into, and take inspired action to create. This week decide what your ideal feels like and begin to make it happen.

oxoxo Linda

See You next time.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

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Martyrdom: The story behind the story.

Often the story we tell ourselves about an event or a situation isn’t the complete story.
Often there is so much more going on behind the scenes.
Today we look at three questions you can ask yourself to find out the story behind the story.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast, I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Martyrdom: The story behind the story.

Hello, My Friends. Welcome to Episode number 12. Martyrdom and the story behind the story.

Today I want to talk about Martyrdom and the story behind the story.

Over the last few days I’ve written a couple of posts about playing the martyr and 20 ways to identify a martyr, I’ll link these at the bottom of todays podcast.

Now, what exactly is a story. To be able to identify the story, that lives behind the story we tell ourselves, we must have a definition.
I love a good definition.
The definintion I am using for today is: A story is a string of thoughts we put together to tell ourselves or others an account, imaginary or real of events, generally from our past.

This week I’ve been looking at how playing the role of the martyr is active in my life.
While I was having a conversation with my hubby the other day, I noticed myself reacting in a certain way, an ungracious way. As the discussion wasn’t going the way I wanted, I found myself throwing in the towel, giving in and adding a whole lot of martyr stories, like if you want something done, you’ve got to do it yourself, with a heafty sigh added for emphasis.
Very Interesting.
This became the clue that I needed to investigate the story my brain was telling me.
To take a look a look at the role I was playing, in playing the martyr, and where this story came from, how it shows up for me, how it benefits me, and what the belief is that perpetuates this story?

For me words belong on paper so I can see them, with this scene I journaled my thoughts.
I asked myself the question, What benefit do I GAIN from playing the martyr.
Remember: Everything we do, we do for the feeling we believe we are going to gain from doing the thing.
So what was the feeling I was gaining from playing the role of martyr in my life?
This is a good question to ask yourself if you want to know what the real reason you are doing what you are doing.

When looking at the story, behind the story of my playing the role of martyr, I discovered stories like, “I’m so hard done by””, I never get what I want.”
“I always have to give in, to keep the peace.”
These stories are not true, they are what my brain is telling me, to keep me safe in my cave. Remember the brains job is to keep us safe, and staying in the status quo is safe to the brain.

The definition I am using of martyr is… to act like someone who deserves admiration or sympathy because of being treated badly.

So, when the discussion with my hubby wasn’t going the way I wanted, my thoughts kicked into the story that I have to give up what I really want, so he can have what he wants.
Can you hear the martyr in that statement. The self-sacrificingness, the self-righteousness, and how I believed I deserved a medal for letting him have his own way at my expense.
Now, let me give you the full story, the side that my brain was omitting from the conversation.
While I was in total over reaction mode and deep in the drama response to not getting what I wanted, the truth is, I hadn’t even told hubby what I wanted.
How was he supposed to take into account what I wanted, when I didn’t say what I wanted. That’s how martyrdom works my friends. It omits part of the story.

Can you relate? Does the martyr show up in your conversations some times?
By playing the role of the martyr I was allowing myself to give my power away, I was giving the responsibility to my hubby, and with that the blame, the guilt and shame if it went pear shaped and it would have because he didn’t have all the details.

As I have been looking at the story behind the story of playing the role of the martyr, I discovered that the opposite of playing the martyr was being worthy.
Worthy people take responsibility for themselves, for their wants, for their actions, thoughts and beliefs.
Worthy people know they have nothing to prove to anyone except themselves.
Worthy people know they were born worthy, and nothing they can or can’t do will add value to their lives, they are already valuable.

When you feel worthy you are willing to state what you want, you are willing to take responsibility for what you want, you are willing to be strong and powerful, and you are willing to own up to your part in the situation you are in, and to take full responsibility for living your life in a way that feels authentic to you.

Part of being responsible for our lives is to have standards, standards that enhance our growth and creates more evidence of our worthiness.

For me this week, one of my elevated standards has been to state out loud, in a positive and constructive manner what I really want. To take back the power I gave away.
And as I do this, it is my job to look at the feelings that arise and the thoughts that go with those feelings. These are the stories behind the façade of martyrdom that I tell myself

Authenticity is about being honest with ourselves.
Seeing the truth behind the façade that we show to others for fear of disappoval, judgment, rejection, all the emotions of a low self-worth.

Do you play the role of the martyr?
Changing the stories you tell yourself, about your situation creates the opportunity for growth and change.
Ask yourself these questions to get yourself started.
Actually, really write these out and ask yourself them over the course of the day, and note your answers, both in your body and your thoughts.

1) What is really going on here?
2) What do I really want to see, feel, be and do?
3) What would it feel like to be worthy of love, affection, attention, and control?

Sit with the thoughts that come up for you.
Stepping away from martyrdom and loving yourself authentically gives you freedom, choice and harmony.

Your Challenge for today is to make a list of things you love to do, people you love to be with, and things that always make you smile.
Then do a little more of these each day.

oxoxox Linda

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, authentically doing the things that bring you joy and pleasure.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

Facebook: https://facebook.com/lindacodlin25

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