Confidence: Choose your level

Confidence:Choose your level?

Hello, My Friends

Did you know you get to choose your level of confidence?

Confidence, like courage is a choice.


You get to decide on the quality of self-talk that you tell yourself.
You get to decide on the quality of emotion you create with those thoughts.
When these two elements are positive and for your best, collide in your life, then the magic of confidence appears.

This is where the belief in your abilities begin to shine.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Fake it till you make it.”?
Well, it’s a little like that.
Trust that you can step into the next level of your development.
Take a deep breathe, and centre your thoughts, then act as if you knew exactly what you are about.
If you fall short of expectations, it is not personal, it is an indication that you have more skills that need learning or honing.
Learn the new skills, hone and fine tune your existing skills, become an expert.
Then go into the next scenario knowing you are better prepared. Have confidence in your preparation.
Have confidence in yourself, you are on a journey and the more you do something the easier it gets to do.

You choose your level of confidence, choose a level that extends you a little.
Choose a level that gives you that feeling of, “Yes! I did it!” with a side of fist pump.

Your butterflies might feel like they’re all in disarray, you get to choose to calm them and take control of your space.
Be in charge of yourself.

You can not control anyone else, their actions, words , and thoughts are theirs.
You get to control your responses, your words and your thoughts.
This is where your power lies.
This is where your confidence lives.

Make a decision to edge your way forward.
Begin to upgrade your thoughts
Choose your confidence level on purpose.
Decide in advance how you are going to behave, how you are going to look, how prepared you are going to be.
Then take the action steps to put it into practice.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is Do Not compare yourself to others. You are an original. One of a kind.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: Be your own best friend

Confidence: Be your own best friend.

Hello, My Friends

There are three types of business that we as human love to dabble in.

Two of these businesses, we have no control over and the more time we spend here, the more we freak ourselves out.
Which has an impact on how we see the world around us, which impacts our confidence.

These three businesses are

God’s business.

The weather, the economy, the state of the world, global events.
These things may affect us on a personal level, and we have choices on how we respond to these events. However we have no control on making direct changes to the economy or the weather.
Worrying about these things sap your energy and leaves you unable to manage what is within your ability to change.

Other people’s business.

This links into being a rescuer, or advice giver, or deciding how the neighbour should take care of their lawns.
Other people are responsible for what is happening in their lives.
When we begin to take control (or try to, we can never control anyone else’s actions) we prevent the person we are controlling from taking charge of their business.
Worrying about other people and how they are living also saps your energy, you are focusing all attention on what someone else is doing and not taking care of what must do.

Your business.


This is the only business you should be in. It is the only business you can make a change to.
Other people and God’s business will have impacts on your business.
Your challenge is to reduce these impacts by forward planning.

I have mentioned the Red Velvet Rope policy already.

This is when you decide what you want in your life, and you also decide what you want in your life.
Now, this policy is for you, it is what you want to see happen in your life.
It is an invitation if you like, which you give to other people. These people are only allowed into your space if they abide by your rules.
Remember this is about what you want and not what anyone else is doing. You can not change or control anyone else, ever.
You can state what you expect to happen, and what you will do if it doesn’t happen. (This is not about punishment, or revenge, or pay back, this is about safety barriers for you and your emotional wellbeing.)
Let’s say you have a friend who is constantly late, and you’ve decided that you are worthy of respecting yourself by leaving for your plans on time.
Your affirmation is I am a woman who is organised and on time.
You friend is not known for her punctuality. The first time she is late, you let her know, kindly and firmly that you want to leave on time for your appointments, whether that is going to the movies, or giong to the restaurant, catching a bus or train for a guided tour.
Your friend smiles, and you tell her, if she continues to be late, you will leave at the designated time, with or without her.
This now puts your friend’s promptness in her business, and removes it from yours.
The secret to this is to have the respect for yourself that you want and follow through on what you have said you would do.
Your friend will not be happy, again you state your standard, “I respect myself by leaving on time for my plans. You can either arrive on time or make your own way there.
It is your decision, I am still your friend, I still care about you, I also care about being on time.”
Now your friend knows you mean what you say, and will either choose to be on time or choose not to be on time.
And you will choose to leave on time as planned.


This process is not about the other person it is about you gaining confidence in yourself, your standards, your beliefs.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is Become your own best friend, show up for yourself with love and kindness.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: Thoughts create energy

Confidence: Thoughts create energy

Hello, My Friends

As a mindset coach, along with other things, I believe we have the ability to change our lives by changing the way we think and feel. Today I’m sharing an example of how I view our mind and the process we use to decypher the vibrations of energy around us.


Our minds are like icebergs.
20% is above water
80% is below water
and the entire iceberg (mind) is surrounded by water.

The 20 % is made up of what our senses relay to us. This is known as the conscious mind.


Our touch, the textile things we can feel with our bodies.
Our Taste, the flavours and sensations that food give us.
Our smell, the scents and fragrances of food, flowers, environments.
Our sight, every-thing we watch on our devices, the books we read, the scenery we look at.
Sight is one of the senses we rely heavily on. We tend to believe what we can see.
Our Sense of space and vibration, the not so tangible of the senses.

The 80% is made up of all the above and everything we have experienced. It is known as the subscious mind.


Our brain is an amazing tool.
It gathers data, everything we see, hear, touch, smell and perceive goes in.
The thoughts that we think about the information form our beliefs around the world.
It is these under the surface thoughts and emotions that we have gathered from all our past events that guide us on our journey.

The water that surrounds the iceberg (mind) is the vibrational tones, waves and frequencies that constantly immerse and bombard us with stimulation.


Vibrational frequencies surround us all the time, we are mostly unaware of these frequencies until we have the equipment to pick them up, to read them and to decipher them.
Until we learn to read the vibrational frequencies we are unaware that they affeact everything we do.

Unless we learn to read the vibrations of our energy and our thoughts, we tend to be controlled by unknown and unseen strings.

Have you ever asked yourself why you do something even when you know it is not good for you?
You try to change the habit, but you keep falling into the same routine, or pattern.

What you may find is that you haven’t deciphered the hidden code running in a loop through the subconscious mind.

One of the best ways to discover what the loop is that is keeping you where you are and don’t want to be. Is to see what you are feeling, your feelings are the vibrations being picked up in your body, and are a sure way to know if you are heading in the direction you want or not.
Or maybe you want to figure out how you are succeeding without any effort.
One way I have found to be effective is to read your body language and your verbal language.

The things you are saying out loud to yourself and to others is a guaranteed way to expose the water temperature that your iceberg has been swimming in.
The words you speak indicate the vibrational level you are living in.

Words are thoughts that are expressed verbally.
If you can think a thought you can change a thought.

By changing your thoughts one at a time.
You get to change the temperature of the water and the sensory input your conscious and subconscious mind are living in.

Choose to think thoughts that increase your vibrational frequency.
Elevate your energy signature one thought at a time.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is cultivate your mind, give it amazing things to think about.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: Rescuing Yourself

Confidence: Rescuing yourself

Hello, My Friends

Are you someone who likes to rescue other people?
Do you like to help people?
Do you attract people who need rescuing? Have you ever wondered why?

It’s an energy thing. Often we believe we need to be rescued.
And when we feel that we need rescuing we emit the signal to all rescuers and all who need to be rescued, that we are open for business.


What we consciously or unconsciously put out into the energy stream of vibration, we get back.

It took me a long time to figure this out.
I’d put a happy smile on my face, I’d act as if I was the happiest girl in the world, and yet underneath I might have been mad at the kids, the other drivers on the road, the lack of finances, and a million other little and not so little niggles.
I read the books on positive mental attitudes, and did all the things, and still I didn’t get what I thought I was putting out.
What I discovered was that I had to deal with all the hidden emotional baggage hiding underneath my plastered on smile.
I had to work on forgiving others, and especially myself.


I had to clean up the energy and emotions that I’d buried, and that were attracting to me everything.

Rescued or rescuing, neither are helpful to your personal growth.
In each case you are giving away your power to prove to yourself that you can take care of yourself, and stopping others from doing the same.
The rescuer often lives in other people’s lives because it is too confronting to live in their own.
The rescued will allow others to take charge so they don’t have to, because they believe they can’t manage their own life.

Know this, you DO NOT, EVER NEED RESCUING from your emotions.
Your emotions are your greatest asset.


What you do need are tools and support to implement new ways to think and be.
Your confidence will grow as you prove to yourself you have what it takes to be in control of your own emotions, your own thoughts, and your own actions.

This confidence will give you the courage to create and maintain a red velvet rope policy around yourself.
Putting in place safe guards that empower you to be the person you were born to be.
The red velvet rope policy is about you, it’s about you creating a safe haven for your emotions to live, and keeping anyone who is unsafe out.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is Make your LIFE a chic SANCTUARY.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: The contrast of wanted and unwanted

Confidence: The contrast of wanted and unwanted

Hello, My Friends

How do you see life?
Do you see life events as black and white, right and wrong, good or bad, positive or negative?
Or Do you see life events as various shades of colours, with hues and tones and warmth and coolness?

There is no right or wrong answer to these questions.


I want to get you thinking about how you think about the things that are happening in your life.

If a life event was a stick, and along the stick was measured points. Each measured point represented a facet of the event and a way of seeing it.


At one end was what we wanted and at the other end was something we didn’t want, and along the stick were gradients of wanted and not wanted.

Where we held the stick would impact how we viewed the situation, and if we were unable to see the ‘beginning, or the end’ of the stick we would think the piece we were holding was all of it.

Often we label what we want as ‘positive’ and what we don’t want as ‘negative’.
Would you know what you did want, or that you wanted something else, if you were not exposed to the unwanted?
So does this make the ‘negative’ thing a positive thing?

I want to challenge you to think about the ‘negative’ situations you are facing right now. What is it about them you don’t like?
Do these situations make you feel good?
I’d have a guess and say no.
Everything we do, we do for the feeling we think we’ll gain from it. And what we usually want is to feel happy, loved, worthy and prosperous.
The situations we face in our lives today, are often the result of thoughts and feelings we had weeks, months and sometimes years ago.

When we discover we are somewhere we don’t like, we tend to focus on it, which gives it more energy and makes it larger, which creates more of what we don’t want.
We are holding the end of the stick with what we don’t want. Let’s say you want to have money to pay your accounts. The more you focus on the lack of the money, the more lack you are attracting and holding in your energy.
By flipping the stick over, and holding the other end, which is abundant money to pay accounts, you attract more abundance.
The tricky part of this is to leave the lack of money out of the energy equation, and begin to build the feeling of abundance instead.

Everything we do, we do for a feeling. The feeling we want is abundance, feeling like we have enough to pay our accounts.
What do you need to think and believe to feel abundant?
Without picking up the lack end of the stick.
One way to do this is to be thankful for what you do have. To appreciate the good health you do have, to bless the money you have, to bless the accounts that are waiting to be paid, to be grateful for the services those accounts represent.
By offering gratitude to what you have, you move your focus away from what you don’t have, you reduce the resistance to what you don’t have, energy flows better when there is no resistance.

When your energy is open to receiving your inner guide can lead you to the abundance you want with ease.
We then create more abundant energy, which attracts more abundant situations for us to experience.

Every situations has two sides, find the better feeling side, work out what you are feeling, and work out what you want to feel, then begin to appreciate that feeling.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is Spend money on things you LOVE, that add BEAUTY, and create EASE in your life.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: Obstacles are Opportunities turned inside out.

Confidence: Obstacles are Opportunities turned inside out.

Hello, My Friends

On the flip side of every obstacle is an opportunity.


It is important to know what your obstacles are and how they may derail your intention to become more confident.
Growth lies within obstacles and hence the opportunity to improve your confidence.
I wish I could tell you that by becoming more confident that there will not be any obstacles, that life would be all fairies and rainbows. However I can not guarantee there won’t be obstacles. Actually, I can guarantee there will be tension, there will be times of discomfort, times of feeling like you have failed, times of embarrassment, times of shame, times of guilt, times of anger and frustration. All the normal human emotions.
Everything you feel now, you will feel as a confident person.


You are a human having a human experience.


What confidence does give you is the ability to breeze through these emotions, you will have the skills to handle yourself in any situation, you will know that emotions do not harm you unless you give them the power to.

You will know what each emotion feels like in your body, and you will know how to change your thoughts and therefore change these feelings. You will know how to behave. And this will boost your ability to manage yourself well.
With confidence comes opportunity, you will have situations come into your life that would never have shown up if you hadn’t learned to manage your thoughts and your emotions. Making plans to overcome obstacles as they arose, instead of burying your head in the sand.


You live your life leaning into situations, You grab the opportunities as the pass by.
Imagine opportunities were on a conveyor belt running in front of you, and all you have to do is reach out and choose the ones that suit you and pick them up and make them work for you.
Now imagine that without confidence your arms are tied against your body as though they are in a straight jacket.
If you were to make the most of an opportunity you would have to manuevour your entire body to get near it, using a lot more time and energy, planning and preparation, and by the time you were prepared the opportunity you wanted would slip on by, be collected by someone without your constraints, or you would let it go because you didn’t believe it could be yours, it would be gone,
With confidence you get to position yourself easily, you get to reach out and receive the opportunity, it might be heavier than you anticipated, it might have agendas attached that weren’t obvious at first, but you are confident in yourself and you Know you can overcome obstacles. You know what you want, you know what you are willing to let go of to have what you want. You also know what the price is that needs to be paid to achieve your goal.


Obstacles are just opportunities to grow your confidence further.
When we choose to take hold of our lives with both hands and create with intention what we really want, obstacles don’t stop us, we learn to overcome, we learn to climb over, dig under, go round, and remove the obstacles.
Confidence in who you are gives you a can do attitude.

Imagine confidence is a cloak you can put on, it gives you the ability to step up and step forward, to speak, to know you are worthy. And as time and practice go by and your belief grows you will need the cloak less and less, or for new and bigger opportunities.
Pull on your confidence cloak, step up to the obstacle that you percieve is stopping you from moving forward, study it, find its weakness, then take action to disarm it.
Make a plan one tiny action at a time.
Breathe, pull your cloak around you tighter and move one step forward.
Smash the fear one action at a time, You will overcome if you keep at it.
Remember to ask for assistance, there are people who can and are willing to help.
You are not alone when facing your obstacles.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is Focus on solutions and possibilities.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: How to identify a rescuer

Confidence: How to identify a rescuer.

Hello, My Friends

Let’s talk a little more about rescuers, these are the people who come along and help you out of a tight spot.
The people who give you a hand up, and a light so you can see the path you are walking on will always allow you to make your own choices and will allow you to feel the result of those choices.

The rescuers who like to keep you dependant on them are the ones that sap your confidence.


Without actually telling you, “You are useless, You’d be no-one without me” You sense this energy and with enough exposure you believe you can’t manage your life without them.

These are the people you turn to first for advice, for protection, for emotional support.
Rescuers are not actually interested in saving you, or helping you.
Their motivation is in the feeling of power they have over you, they know if they set up enough situations where you will fail, you will continually come back to them.


The setting up may be in the way they influence you to think about yourself, or in the way they sows seeds of distrust of the opinions and views of others.


The rescuer may come across as being super helpful, having the answers you need. But the way these answers are given could give you a clue that you’re about to get enmeshed in a snare that will cost you way more than you gain.

Confidence comes as you learn to ask yourself questions like, “What is really going on here? ” and then trusting your answer.
When I discovered I was in a relationship with a rescuer, I was ensnared and the cost was extremely high, I nearly lost everything I hold dear.
One way I realised I was ensnared with a rescuer was the amount of drama that followed this person, they created drama everywhere they went.
Drama gives rescuers a reason to rescue.

Turning to a rescuer for emotional support is like entering a pit of quicksand, the more you try to gain emotional freedom, the more you sink into the sand.
Rescuers appear to have their emotions under control, they appear to be the calm in the middle of the storm.
In reality what I found was they were using my lack of emotional stability to strengthen their lack of self.

To move yourself out of the reaches of a rescuer, means learning to trust your own emotional strength.
Trusting that you actually do have all the answers within you.
Beginning to know and believe you are not broken and you do not ever need fixing.
You have the ability to stand up for yourself. Begin. Prove to yourself you can. Grow and keep on growing.
It’s a bit like going to the gym to build muscle mass.
You need to go regularly and do reps.
You also need to find a guide who knows what they’re doing, preferably someone who has a track record of accomplishing what you want.


You also need to believe you can do it. If you struggle with this, find someone who believes in you.
Look at the results of your coach, mentor or guide. If they have what you want, and they are not surrounded by drama, or wrapped in the lives of everone around them, then follow them.
A valuable coach will guide you, will teach you, will train you, and support you. They will not do it for you. They will keep you accountable to what you say.
They will not control the way you think, or try to shelter you from the results of your thoughts and actions. These are the life tools that will give you more confidence than any word ever spoken.

Today’s seed of greatness is Create supportive rituals for yourself.

oxox Linda

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Confidence: Non-verbal Statements

Confidence: Your Non-verbal statements.

Hello, My Friends

What are your non-verbal statements, the things you think about yourself but never quite admit to yourself.


These might appear as excuses, or that’s just reality, or they might appear from the way other people treat you.
Sometimes we use other people or situations as a crutch so we don’t have to take full responsibility for ourselves.
And at times we can have people who come to our rescue, but never quite rescue. We become ensnared in there need to control.

If you didn’t have a crutch or rescuer, who would you be?


What is your crutch?
What is it you lean on as an excuse to not do what you really want?
Is It your health?
I’m too sick.
I can’t get a job, I run out of energy.
I can’t lose weight, I’ve tried and it always comes back.
I’m not good enough to join the tennis club
I’m not as put together as others, they’ll think I’m …..
These are all crutches.


The truth is if you really wanted the new job, you’d find the energy.
If you really wanted to lose weight and keep it off you’d work out what was stopping you from keeping it off and make the changes to make it permanent.
When we start something new, no-one is good at it. Give yourself the grace to learn, to fail, to feel silly, and go again.
If you view yourself as less than some-one else how are they supposed to view you.
They get their cues on how to treat or mistreat you from YOU.

What if you did the scary and unthinkable and let go the crutch for a while.
It would feel uncomfortable, but you just might begin to see that you actually don’t need it.
You might begin to believe you can take the necessary steps by yourself.
I can guarantee you will feel resistance.
The brain doesn’t like change.

Have a go today let your crutch drop for a couple of hours and do something you have been wanting to do but your excuses have prevented you from trying. As you prove to yourself you can, your confidence will grow.

Confidence is knowing who you are, and stating that without saying a word.

Today’s seed of greatness, Define what you value, and get rid of everything that you don’t value.

oxox Linda

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Critical Thinking.

Hello, My Friends

Critical thinking: What do you think of when you hear this term.

I do not fix problems

I fix my thinking

Then problems fix themselves

Louise L Hay

“As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

Critical thinking has two forms, Internal and External.

It also involves thinking, now, mind activity is not classed as thinking. Thinking involves reasoning, considering, and investigating something. Thinking includes collating data, feelings, and information from a variety of sources.

Critical also has a few meanings, it can be expressing adverse or disapproving judgements or comments, it can also mean to express the analysis of the merits and the faults of written literature, music or art, it also can mean important, vital, essential, completely necessary for existence.

Critical thinking covers a wide range of avenues. As a life coach I’m going to talk about the necessity of thought being vital to the existence of man.

The scripture says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

We have both internal thinking and external thinking, I’m calling the way we treat and judge other people as external thinking, but as we will see all thinking is internal. The way you see other people, and the critical or judgemental way you size them up, speak to them, disrespect their opinions, put them down, and make them feel in anyway interior is a telling way of seeing how you view yourself.

When we mistreat other people it is usually because we have an errant critical thought, that states, “I have to make myself look good, and to do that I must make others look bad, stupid, or ridiculous.” We often think that by showing someone what they are doing ‘wrong’ in a degrading way they will learn and improve and at the very least we feel better about ourselves. But do we. I don’t believe we do. It is my belief that when we create disharmony we experience more disharmony in our lives, and to try to escape these feelings we do things that end up biting us with perilous consequences.

As a society we learn how to live by the things we experience, if we are not encouraged to think situations through to there outcome, we learn to be impulsive and act as soon as we think. Often we are consciously or subconsciously taught what is a societal norm and what isn’t, we are taught directly or indirectly about the classes of people, or how society has labelled classes of people, this affects the way we see and relate to others as individuals, it affects the way we think about justice, worthiness, respect and a whole gambit of other social ‘norms’ . These social classifications affect the behaviour of those labelled in each class, for each class has it’s own defined norms. Each of these norms has an affect on the mental health of each person, no matter where society places them on the scale.

Critical psychology is concerned with unmasking these power imbalances and is based on the critical theory that science must work to improve the lot of all people.

I believe that critical thinking is vital for this to occur, we must question our beliefs, we must question those things we have be trained to hold as truth. Learning to think critically creates change from the inside out.

The second form of critical thinking is internal. And really all thinking is internal, we can tell what a person is thinking or not thinking by their actions.

Critical thinking is an intellectual discipline, it is the process of actively and skillfully creating a concept, by applying, analysing, and putting different ideas and things together to make something new. It is evaluating information gathered from or generated by observation, by experience, by reflecting, reasoning or communication, which guides towards a belief or action.

There are a few basic building blocks that make up the foundation for thinking critically. These are gathering accurate data and facts, analysing the facts, investigating the evidence, observing what went before, what is happening now, and what is the projected outcome in the future. Also creating questions which promote thinking, or discussions of differing points of view. Thinking in a rational manner, being a bit skeptical while keeping an open mind, being unbiased, aware that there may be room for new information and new developments not yet explored or discovered.

There are six ways to develop critical thinking according to one study.

  1. Practice balance thinking.

An unbalanced mind will more easily trip up and fall over problems, dilemmas and issues they face in the workplace, the world and within themselves. The unbalanced mind either overthinks or underthinks, and misses the critical components or the complexities to be worked through.

2. Exercise mental and emotional moderation

By not swinging wildly from one end of the emotional spectrum to the other, you give yourself the ability to look at the situation through moderation. By varying your approach, you may find different solutions, trying something different, try asking others for their opinions, try asking others to step up and to contribute you may be surprised to see what comes forth.

3. Practice situational Awareness

Become aware of your ability to recognise core elements within complex situations and issues. Train yourself to develop a wider perspective when evaluating personal, practical and theoretical situations. Learn to listen to the context of what is being said and your judgements of what you’re hearing, also be more aware of the approach and the logical construction of how it is being expressed. This may bias the result. Ask others for the foundational thought that they’ve built their conclusions on.

4. Exercise and promoted effective and efficient thinking

Hold meetings in a different manner, get people out of their comfort zones. Have people stand rather than sit. Use shorter meeting time frames to discipline yourself and your team to stay on point.

A) Define an issue in 2 minutes

B) Allow 3 minutes to state the desired outcome.

C) Clock 4 minutes to list all obstacles

D) List all action items to overcome these obstacles in 4 minutes.

E) Assign action steps to people in 2 minutes.

4. Express richer emotional intelligence (Self-Awareness)

Be a self-aware leader. Practice knowing yourself and others. Seek to understand, then to be understood. Express empathy and believe in others. Regulate your emotional outbursts and moods which will enable you greater control of your disruptive impulses.

6. Focus on the destination not dramas.

Always keep your eye on your workflow timeline, to bring your goals in on time. When focusing on the goal or destination, there is less likelihood that drama will distract you. Keep team members up to date on their roles and responsibilities, your expectations and timelines. Teams work better when everyone is included and knows what is expected of them.

Always allow people to come up with their own conclusions, critical thinking isn’t so much about right and wrong, it’s about thinking purposefully.

Look for the repeatable patterns behind the solutions, what is the same in all the solutions, is there a hidden process.

Ask a respected critical thinker to show you their thinking process.

A true master will always hide in their work, if you look closely you will see their mastery. This is true integrity.

Create finely tuned habits that are designed for reproducible successes.

Critical thinking brings unity, shares wisdom, is methodical and easily actioned to create results.

Until next time, being to ask yourself some questions to get your critical thinking mind thinking deliberately, critical thinking is like a muscle the more you use it the stronger it gets.

oxoxo Linda

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Confidence: Personal Style

Confidence: Personal Style.

Hello, My Friends

What is your personal style?


Confidence is enhanced when you are feeling well dressed, and well prepared.


Everyone of us has a style, the question is did you choose your style on purpose or did it fall together?


And it doesn’t matter what your style of style is, what matters is that you choose it on purpose.


What matters is that you choose to define yourself in the way you show up?

Remember you are in control of every thought you think.
You get to decide on purpose how you want your life to look.
What are the results you want to have in your life tonight?
When you turn out the light, and have climbed in to bed.
What do you want to have created?
What do you want to have Changed?
Who do you want to have Been?
This is your job for today.
Define the results and evidence you want to have created, changed in who you are and how you appear to yourself and others.
Then begin to do the things that lead to those outcomes.
Remember your style is about you, It is about how you want to see yourself.
Confidence is knowing you, it’s not about copying others unless what they do will give you power to get where you want to go, and by doing what they do you will gain the results you want.

You get to decide what you wear today.
Choose something that reveals who you are.
Play with your Style.
Be Confident.
Shoulders back and down.
Belly tucked up and in
Butt tucked under.
Own your own space

Own your personal style.

Today’s Seed of Greatness is Make your personal style reflect you.

oxox Linda

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