Fear is Universal

F.E.A.R.
False Evidence Appearing Real.
or Focus, Enjoy, Attitude, Result.
You have the power to define how you feel about fear, and how fear motivates or sabotages your actions and beliefs.

Fear of being alone,

Fear of being stood up,

Fear of looking foolish,

Fear of looking out of place.

Fear is universal.

What is your flavour of fear?

Hello, My Friends

This has been an interesting week, with multiple challenges happening that are stretching me into new growth opportunities.

I’ve been thinking about fear.
False Evidence Appearing Real.

For me I’m having to face personal fears to stretch into the new growth opportunities before me.
Fear is universal.
Everyone feels fear at some point in their lives.

We all have a choice when it comes to feeling fear, we can allow the feelings, or sensations of fear to STOP us from achieving what we really want to do, have or be.
Or we can feel the fear and continue to move into the goal achieved.

Everyone feels fear, not everyone shows that they are feeling fear.

This got me thinking about the benefits of feeling fear and sharing that experience with others.
The other day I entered a speech contest, round two.
I was so nervous, my goal was to speak without notes.
I’d done my prep work, My colleagues told me that no-one but me would know if I stumbled or forgot parts of my speech.
“I would know”, my perfectionism chimed in. Yes but no-one else would unless I showed them or told them with my words or my body language.

I was thinking about that, how would they ever know how good I’ve become if they don’t know how bad I was to begin with.
They wouldn’t be able to give me the full credit for overcoming my fears.
Or they wouldn’t understand how much grit and determination it took to overcome my fears if I didn’t tell them.
Or they might misunderstand and think it was easy for me.

Why did it matter so much that other people knew how hard it was, how hard I had worked, how much effort was involved?
Why did I feel like I had to milk all the positive feelings from those around me?

Where was the reward if it wasn’t in the recognition of other people?

Subtle, so subtle. The motivation why we do what we do, determines the outcome we gain from the doing of what we do.

Did I enter this speech for the recognition?
No, I entered it for the experience and the growth that it would produce in me.
So, why was the recognition of how hard it had been, so important to me.

I know that the feeling of pride I had in myself for having a go, for succeeding at the objective I set for myself was enough, and yet I fell into the trap of attention seeking by sharing how difficult it was, and by comparing myself to where I was previously.
It was like the contrast of past failures, somehow gave more validation to my present success.
And with allowing myself to feel the pleasure of other people’s praise on how well I’d done, somehow diminished my sense of satisfaction.
I was feeding my sense of insecurity and neediness by seeking gratification from others.

Instead of giving myself that sense of satisfaction and validation, I stripped the feelings from myself and placed them on others.
I disrespected my ability to trust myself.

In sharing your success, your feelings and your insecurities with others, as part of your life journey to inspire, to motivate and to strengthen them and yourself you are not seeking self gratification.
There is a subtle difference in energy to telling people to get something back from themm, a sort of emotional ego stroking.

This is part of the people pleasing trap.
People pleasing is so gratifying because of the plaeasant feelings we get from helping others.
However people pleasing always has a sting in its tail, as most people pleasers struggle to maintain appropriate safe boundaries, and end up being manuipulated to give more than they want to give.
They have learned to please others at the expense to themselves, and in so doing end up feeling used, unappreciated, and stressed.

The people pleasing trap is very subtle, and is so alluring that it is easy to fall into it.
Even something as simple as sharing the difficulties of entering a speech competition, and being the second place getter, found me giving away my power.
And I am probably the only one who knows it. (Except now you all do.)

That’s the thing about fear. It is personal to each and every one of us.
We may label it the same as another person, but how we experience it is completely personal to the individual.
Fear is built on our past experiences, the stories we have been told and believed, the stories we tell ourselves, and believe about ourselves.
Fear is only as real as we allow it to be.
Most fear is generated in our minds eye.
When we give our mind something we really want to focus on, the fear can diminish giving us fuel to move forward.
At other times we need to use positive affirmations to remind ourselves that we can indeed do difficult things. A bit like a little mantra that we breathe to ourselves.
Like, I can do hard things, giving a speech is just like talking to one person in the audience. I have got what it takes.

Fear is not a reason to stop, it is a reason to keep on growing.
And if you find you need the accolades of other people, investigate why you feel you need others to validate you.

FEAR.

Focus, Enjoy, Attitude, Result.

Your challenge for this week is to go inside your mind and figure out who you depend on to validate your thoughts, your feelings and your beliefs. Then question if this validation from others empowers you to be your best self, or if it leaves you feeling dependant on others to feel good.

Until next time… BE true to yourself, face your fears and build evidence that you can tackle anything. Be your authentic self.

xoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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#fear

Being a woman.

As a woman you have a deep soul spirit that takes a lot to extinguish. 

Even as life knocks you down, or bowls you over, you get back up and keep on going. 

Being a Woman
Being a Woman

It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you use what happens to you, that makes you stronger.  Sometimes you are slammed against the wall, winded and bruised, your spirit is still fighting on for what you believe in.  If you are raising children, you know the fear of letting do things on their own.  Hovering but not too close, children need to experience life for themselves, within safe environments.  This is how they figure out they can handle whatever life throws at them.  As mother’s this feels like a heavy load, and a thankless one as well.  My first born son was a handful as a young child. If he was told no, that was his directive to find out what was so attractive about what he wasn’t allowed.  Back in the day, I was a sergeant major mother. You did it my way, and you did when I told you to or else.  This no. 1 son nearly always took the or else road. So tiring, As I have gained more tools in my parenting kit, I think I would do certain things in a different way. For starters I’d make peace with myself. Angry mum’s who don’t like themselves do not parent or adult for that matter, very well.  Learning to get to know yourself as a woman is vital to building a live long happy relationship with the woman that is you. When life trips you up, and you fall flat, when you find yourself alone, having a relationship with the woman in the mirror is essential.  Often this is the very relationship that gets neglected as time marches on, with our littlies, turning into school age children, then preteens and then teens.  Trusting yourself that you actually do know what is best for you, and your children is a huge step in the direction of confidently handling your life. You can handle anything.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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How many people connections do you really have?

You have a greater circle of connection than you realize. Often we feel insignificant and like we are not doing anything of value, this is so untrue, you impact people without even being aware you do. Stop and look around at the people in your everyday.

Hello, My Friends

Challenging Norms,
How is the way you do what you do affect those around you?
Do you know?
Do you even care?

Today I want to talk about relationships.
Even hermits have relationships.
We all have parents, family, friends, people we have contact with.

What is a relationship?
I’m using the definition of the way two or more people are connected.
Do you watch You Tube content? I hope you watch my channel.
Do you scroll through facebook, instagram, twitter, all the social feeds?
Do you purchase groceries from the supermarket, a farmers market, or a dairy?
Do you work with other people, face to face, or over zoom?

Each of these are considered a relationship.
You have an effect on them, and they have an effect on you.

If society and people where a lake, and you were a pebble being thrown into the lake, how many people would you affect? Like the ripple effect, starting small with you at the centre and moving out in ever greater circles.
Often we feel like we are alone, and lonely.
What we don’t see is how we are all interrelated to each other.
Every comment you type, has an effect.
Every reel you upload or download has an effect.
Every smile you pass onto to someone you greet in the shop or on the bus, or in the café, has an effect.

The way you interact with your family, and friends has an impact.
If you are always grumpy, and mean spirited, do the people around you enjoy your company? I’d say probably not. They may put up with you, or they may actually use your mood as a way of deflecting there own mood, making you responsible for their actions or non actions.

Today’s challenge is to stop and see the number of people you actually have an impact on. All those likes represent one person who took the time to click a button, and there were so many more who didn’t click.


Look at the cashier behind the counter, the person filling shelves, the person walking the dog, the bus driver, the car or truck driver also caught in rush hour traffic.
Stop and look at the health professionals who see many people everyday.

We are more connected than we think, and the way we relate to these people can leave a permanent mark on their lives, for their benefit and for yours.
Challenge the way you normally interact with the people around you, stop and actually see them as people.

Until next time, share your authentic self with someone you are sharing space with.
oxoxo Linda
As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you view connection to be.

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Are You Playing in the All or Nothing Playground?

“We must stand firm between two kinds of madness: the belief that we can do anything; and the belief that we can do nothing.”
― Alain

Hello, My Friends

What is one of your all time favourite things to do?

Leave a message letting me know what your favourite activity is.

This week has seen it’s share of disappointments and successes. Remembering to celebrate the wins helps to reduce the pain of the disappointments.

I had an aha moment the other day.

I already knew this principle, somehow it sunk in a little deeper. Don’t you love it when the principles become more than words on a page, or audible sounds being spoken. When they sink into the core of your being and they become part of you, the more you live them the more embedded they become as part of who you are, and what you do.

I was mulling over my weight loss journey, this week has been an up and down eating week, I’ve been working on seeing what my body can manage in the way of different food groups. Inadvertently I have added more refined sugars, and flours into my eating. This has created it’s own ‘fun’ kick backs in my body. As I was mulling over my up and down journey, how I can feel fabulous in the morning, and by the afternoon be feeling fat and out of shape when nothing else had changed except what I’d eaten for the few meals in between getting dressed and feeling blah.

The aha moment was that I was playing in the all or nothing playground. Black and white thinking. I was either eating well or I wasn’t. You know what happens when you enter the all or nothing playground, for me I eat everything in sight, or I punish myself by not eating anything after having eaten everything in sight.

This is not who I am anymore, I am a woman who eats elegantly and with moderation. AND occasionally I forget this.

Looking back over the weight yoyo game of my life, I was actually pretty good at maintaining a steady weight, I think by the photo log, I was more at my goal than not. What was messed up was the story I was telling myself about being at my goal weight. I was expecting to never have an issue with eating ever again. So unrealistic, I expected to always eat “perfectly” and never be tempted to eat another unhealthy food again.

Mulling over this thinking, I realised, I hadn’t actually shifted that belief. I still had the belief that once I’d sorted out the emotional eating side of things, food would not an issue any longer.

It’s like being addicted to alcohol, the best way to overcome the temptation is to remove it, and to eliminate it from your surroundings.

I will always have emotions, I most likely will always have some form of food trigger by these emotions. Can I live with that in all it’s ugly imperfectionism?

This is the question, Am I willing to let myself feel the food triggers and let them be, without having to do anything about them? Without being upset that they are here, again? Without going into a tail spin and using ugly language against myself?

If I can overcome the need for alcohol to soothe my emotions, I can overcome the need for sugar and flour rich foods to soothe my emotions.

My aha moment was this will always be a part of my life, so I may as well embrace it. I may as well stop ‘trying’ to keep these foods at bay, (which is resistance thinking, and we all know that what you resist, persists.)and make them non-negotiable for my body. I no longer feel like I’m missing out so most of the battle is done already, the last part is to make this who I am.

I am a woman who does not eat sugary/ floury foods, just like I do not drink alcohol drinks. Such a shift in my thinking is dynamic.

I don’t have to be perfect, I just have to be good enough to not participate in these categories of food. When I stopped drinking alcohol, I had the vision of my father with his issues and I was in the process of beginning my family and I didn’t want my children to suffer what I felt I had, so I stopped. My why was big enough to give me incentive.

My why now is I am a woman who respects her body. I am my greatest asset and without good health what do we have? I am worthy of good health. I am worthy of a body that functions well and will be a vessel of good health to carry me into my fabulous old age. (And I don’t even have to be perfect at it either.) Daily choosing better is good enough. These thoughts create the feeling of freedom in my body.

Are you a black and white thinker? Are you all or nothing?

How is that working for you? Do you steam ahead at a hundred miles an hour, and then stop.

Have you tried slowing the train to about 80 miles an hour and keeping ticking over at that pace?

This is like eating the foods you know your body needs for good nutrition most of the time, and not being derailed when you get a little off for your body. You will in the end be eating more healthily than if you followed your ‘plan’ one hundred percent for two weeks and did your ‘own’ thing for two weeks. I can guarantee the self beat ups will be less when you give yourself grace to eat well for eighty percent of the time, consistently.

So, this week I am being true to my authentic self and releasing the resistance I had to not eating sugary and floury foods, which my body doesn’t enjoy at all, and making the choice to eat for my long term health and well-being, realising that I am going to have emotional triggers and urges to eat food that my body doesn’t like and that’s okay.

What black and White thinking activity will you investigate this week, what has you feeling derailed more often than not?

This journey is so enlightening, challenging the normal thoughts that wander into our minds and run the show, has the potential to change everything, from today forward.

xoxox Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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What does your home say about your emotions?

Hello My Friends

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching.

As the month of challenging norms comes to a close, I hope I have given you some ways to improve your life, by improving the way you think about what is normal.

Today I want to talk about where you live, and how you live there.

When my children were small, I struggled to keep my home tidy, the washing done, the dishes caught up with.
I felt like I was working all day and all night. No sooner had I cleaned one area than some small person would come behind me and mess it up.
I was one stressed out mama.

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It didn’t help that I had a strong sense of worthlessness, and the need to be perfect.
Huh, if I knew then what I know now.
Catching myself needing everything to be perfect all the time is as much of a down fall of not being tidy, or clean enough for health and happiness.

Where are you putting pressure on yourself to be perfect within your home?
Are you expecting to have a magazine ready home at any given time?
I was, and if I’m honest I still do. I have that tension in my gut if someone comes to the house and I have dishes on the bench, or the vacuum is still in the lounge, or the ironing board is still up from Sunday and it’s Wednesday.
I’m better at letting it be, because I know that my home is not always in a mess.

Are you someone who finds a messy space is a reflection of your mind?
Often for me if I am feeling an emotion I’m not sure how to deal with it will show up in my home.
I will begin a project, then leave it, and go onto something else.
I come home and drop my things on the hotspot area. (This is the area that everything seems to congregate, books, keys, jackets, shopping, mail and whatever else is in your hands at any given moment.)

Do you brush aside other peoples comments about how messy your place looks, but deep on the inside your critic has a go at you, reminding you that you’re not as good as, and you name the person who you think has life altogether.)

I use a system that allows me to clean my home in 15 min incruments.
The Flylady system.
I found her many years ago, and the impact she has had on my life has been amazing.
My home is usually about 20 mins away from visitor or client ready at any time.
She uses what she calls the swish and swipe method of cleaning.
Every day the bathroom and toilet get a swish and a swipe, removing water drips, toothpaste, dirty hand prints from the mirror, a quick dust on the flat surfaces.
This has been a life saver.
Her and now my philosophy is I CAN DO ANYTHING FOR 15 MINS.

I want to leave you with that thought, you can do anything for 15 mins.
Set a timer and begin. Wash your dishes for 15 mins, have a break and begin again.
Tidy the bedroom for 15 mins, clear a space off the floor and sort and put away for 15 mins, when the timer goes off stop.
Then and this is the secret sauce that changes everything. You get to pat yourself on the back, to feel proud of yourself, to celebrate doing something that is of benefit to you.
Often we will do a task, complete it and then move onto the next thing without actually enjoying the feeling of having done the task.
Even if the dishes are not completely finished, you know you have done 15 mins more today than you did yesterday.
The bedroom floor may not be completely tidy yet, however you know you are 15 mins into it, and tomorrow you can do 15 mins more, and so on.

You can do anything for 15 mins.
And for those of us who don’t know when to stop, we press on even when it’s time to do something else, we drive ourselves to complete even if it kills us.
Using the timer is a life saver. I have found the timer stops me from over focusing on details that are not important.
It gives me the freedom to stop and begin something else.
I could easily work on spring cleaning a bedroom to the detriment of meals for children, or making space for them to sleep, I was focused on getting the ‘job’ done.
There was no joy or happiness in the doing of the job, or no happiness in the completion of the job because I’d be so tired and grumpy, feeling like a martyr with no-one to help.

If this is you, if you find you are constantly beating yourself up about not having a tidy home, or beating yourself up about having to do it all, or beating yourself up because you are so tired then head over to http://www.flylady.net.
Begin with shining your sink.
Then make your bed.
Keep the coffee tables clear of clutter.
Every room has it’s focal point, begin there 15 mins at a time.

Challenging the norm of being a slave to your house.
There is freedom and balance in living an authentic life.

Until next time: Live your life authentically 15 mins at a time.
If what I am sharing resonates with you, please like, share, follow and subscribe.
Let me know if you have a particular topic you want me to address.
oxoxo Cheers Linda.
As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you view household mastery to be.

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Ep #4 Inner Alignment

Where does your energy go?
Being in alignment with your authentic self gives you energy, when there is a leak in the authenticity factor you feel out of whack, out of sorts, not quite together. Inner Alignment with your values is key to energy.

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Inner Alignment

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

As a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping people especially women to help themselves.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, being your authentic self.

Hello My friends.

This week I want to talk about being authentic.

To be authentic means to have an alignment within yourself.

That all parts are congruent with each other.

When there is internal conflict, the world seems off slightly, our energy has to flow over or around the block.

Imagine that your energy radiates through you, a bit like a wind tunnel, it draws air through it by vacuum. If the wall of the tunnel cracks and spills dirt into the tunnel in one area, the air can still flow through it, maybe a little slower than before, that’s when you feel a bit off, not enough for the warning bells to ring, but just a little niggle that somethings not right.

If you ignore this little niggle, the crack may widen and spill more dirt, or another fracture may appear somewhere else, and you have a second, third or fourth pile of dirt blocking the air flow. Eventually, if you neglect the signs that something is amiss, then the entire wall of the tunnel may collapse blocking all but a whisper of air from getting through.

Some of you may be living in the space where only a whisper of your energy is getting through the blockages. You know something is not right, you’re tired of being tired, you’re over, overeating, you’re feeling drained and depleted, it doesn’t matter how much money is in the bank it never seems to be enough, you feel unloved even when you have loved ones around you.

I am here to give you hope, there is a way to clear the blockages. It will take work and time. Just as in the analogy of the tunnel, to clear the collapsed walls it will take work and time.

For you to be in alignment with your true self, you must discover what it is that makes you, you.

What are your core values?

These are the things that consistently guide your life.

These are like the filter that you run everything you do and think through. You consider these to be important or beneficial. For some people it’s honesty, integrity, or monetary value, being reliable, doing what you say you’re going to do, being where you say you’re going to be, loyalty, and respect. For some it might be, How will this person help me get what I want? What’s in it for me?

Sometimes our values are given to us by default, we collect them like precious toys as children, from the significant adults in our lives, and the experiences we have along the journey of living.

I want to ask a few questions to get you thinking about what motivates you to do what you do.

Where there could be mis-alignments, detracting from you being your authentic self.

  1. What do you enjoy doing the most? Where would you spend all your time if you could? What activity has you so involved that the hours just whisk away? For me it’s reading and writing, the hours just melt away.
  2. What are the activities, or things you couldn’t live without? Is it that sense of luxury that stylish clothes give you? Is it the morning walk around the garden? Is it the type of home you live in or the type of car you drive? Maybe for you it’s having a clutter free home? Living as frugally as you can? One of mine is living in a sunny home, I choose to live in sunny homes, every-time.
  3. What is the one thing that always, always irritates you about other people? Is it their being late? or not thinking about other peoples needs? or is it their leaving the equipment they used out, instead of putting it away after them? or is it not saying what they really mean? When you’ve figured out what always irritates you, flip it over and see what the opposite is, that will give you a clue to what your value is.
  4. How do you behave when you’re under stress or pressure, when things don’t go the way you plan? Do you withdraw? Do you yell? Do you sulk? Do you eat? Do you spend money? Do you help other people? What is your avoidance mechanism? This I believe is the easiest way to tell what your core values really are. One of mine was comfort eating, I used it as a form of self punishment, “take that! you naughty girl. ” The underlying value for me has been I’m not worthy, or good enough.

Can you relate, The I’m not worthy or enough value is so insidious it pervades everything.

As you work your way through discovering your core values, you may find some that don’t serve you. I have found, that uncovering the thought behind the value and changing that thought for one that serves me better has changed the way I behave.

What you think, you become.

Thoughts create feelings, feelings create actions, actions create habits and habits create a well lived life.

Choose your thoughts carefully, they are what your tomorrows are built on today.

If you are ready to unblock your energy drainers, call me for one on one coaching, my details are below. I can help you to help yourself feel better and have more energy.

Let me know what your core values are by connecting with me on my social media platforms.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life authentically. 

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

Facebook: https://facebook.com/lindacodlin25

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Number One: Be First…

Are you living into your life?
Or are you running away from your life?
Maybe you are on the treadmill of life and not going anywhere very quickly.
Being Number One in your life is giving yourself permission to go all in on life.

Being Number One is being your unique self.

Being Number One is more than reaching the top.

Being Number One is knowing who you are at any moment in time.

Being Number One is a journey that is fulfilling and satisfying.

You are Number One to you. How can you be anything else?

BE NUMBER ONE! From the inside out.

Hello, My Friends

Do you put yourself into situations that make your heart race and your palms go all sweaty?

These situations are so exhilarating and frightening at the same time.

This week I put my hand up, to speak in a competition.

Speaking publicly is a work in progress, it is a huge learning curve for me personally, however I have decided this is one aspect of coaching I want to master.

Who knows where the road of speaking in public may take me, I guess we’ll have to watch and see.

Challenging norms is all about the dialogue in your head.

My dialogue, monologue and every other log, was tripping over themselves telling me what I couldn’t do, why I couldn’t do it, and what on earth was I thinking to volunteer.

This is the fun part of coaching, looking at the stories that have kept me living a small life, discovering the gems and the lies of what I have been told, what I actually believe and what I want to believe.

What are the stories that are keeping you from stepping out into the light of your life?

You are the main character of your life, the stage is set, waiting for you to show up, the spot light is holding space for you. Are you willing to take your space?

You know, they say there is no new thing under the sun. What if they are wrong, and I think they may be, because each one of us is an original, completely different to anyone else. Your fingerprints are unique, the way you speak is unique, the way you think is unique.

Our whole lives have been molded, and shaped as we have been trained to be a certain way to fit into a certain stereotype cast. Why? Maybe because it is easier to manage people when they don’t know their potential. Maybe it is easier for people to be managed by “others” than to face the fear of managing themselves. Maybe it is hard work to shake off the years of some-one else’s opinions of you.

It is my belief that each one of us has a mission, a purpose, a ‘job’ to accomplish, that only we can accomplish, and if we don’t step up and do that thing the world is a sadder place because of it.

You are supposed to be NUMBER ONE in your life.

Are you NUMBER ONE? Or do you feel like you rank after some-one else. Do you live in the shadow of your spouse, your siblings, your children, your boss. This list could be endless. Where do you rank yourself?

Remember we don’t compare ourselves with anyone but ourselves. Number one in your life is a pretty good place to be.

I’m not meaning you are more superior than anyone else, If you think you are, then you don’t truly believe you are number one. A number one person, doesn’t have to prove themselves to anyone. They know their value, and they also know the value of every other person living.

Our value is not determined by the money we earn, or the deeds we do, or the gifts we give, or the way we behave. Our value is in being human, having a perfect inner spirit and aiming to live in harmony with this spirit.

We are spiritual beings having a human experience. What will it take for you to follow your spirit guide and step onto the centre stage of your life, to allow the spot light to shine on you, with humility, with honesty and with pride.

Challenging your normal is about trying something new, doing something poorly until you do it better. Challenging norms is being the investigator of your thoughts and ideas. Putting yourself in new situations, new rooms, with new people to challenge yourself to step up.

This is an exciting and terrifying journey, it is also so satisfying and rewarding, who knows where you might end up, who knows how many lives you might touch for the better, who knows what you might invent that solves the worlds greatest problems, who knows what part of the puzzle you hold to creating a better humanity.

I wonder if the great men and woman of the past, knew they were trail blazing a path for the rest of us, or were they following the dream that was burning in their soul, and in the process changed the way we live today.

Are you ready to challenge a few of your normal thoughts? Do you want clarity around your calling, your purpose, your secret ability. (Which possibly isn’t so secret to those around you.)

Call me for coaching, I can help you to gain clarity around what excites you. If you are ready to step up onto the stage of your life, be the number one person in your life, email me, or connect with me over Social Media, my details are below.

Until next time, Step out onto the stage of your life, live your authentic life uniquely.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

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What are YOU waiting for?

What are you waiting for?
Who do you need to gain permission from to go for it?
What ducks need to line up for you to feel confident to begin?
What do you need to begin to live your life on your terms?
A DECISION that today is the day to begin.

Hello, My Friends

What are YOU waiting for?

It seems to me that everyone is waiting for something.
Waiting to win the lottery draw, waiting for small children to get older, waiting for more time, waiting for more energy.
What are you waiting for?


The perfect time? Now is the perfect time.
I’ll let you into a secret, we only have now.


Yesterday, is a memory, we can not go back and change anything about our yesterdays.
Tomorrow, is not here yet, it is full of promise, it is open to whatever we decide to create, it is still on the other side of the night.
Today, right now is the only time we can actually do anything that will make a difference to how we feel about our yesterdays, and to how we will live our tomorrows.
The today you are living, right now, was once a pipe dream. A date way off in the future. The things you are living today are results of the actions you took in the past.
Your actions of today are the basics of your tomorrows.
What are YOU waiting for?
What can you begin today to make a difference in your tomorrow, your next week, month, or year?

It takes one new and different decision and action to change everything.
Are you willing to give yourself permission to begin to go after the thing you are waiting for?

Are you willing to be responsible for your future?

If this feels overwhelming, begin small, pick one little action and do it regularly until it is not overwhelming.
As a life coach I can help you, help yourself to make a decision, and to help you work out your first steps or your next steps in your plan.
Empowering you to manage your brain and emotions so they serve you.

What are YOU waiting for?
oxoxo Linda

As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you are waiting for.

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What makes you tired?

Hello, My Friends

Last night I was asked what my favourite quote was,


“It’s not what you do that makes you tired, it’s what you don’t do that makes you tired.”


I don’t even know where I collected this quote from.

Challenging the norm, of being tired.
What makes you tired?

Click on the link below to see today video clip.

Spoiler alert, it’s your thoughts.
When your body is tired from a hard physical day, you feel good but weary.
When you feel tired mentally, by the things that sit in your mind and nag at you. You feel tired.
How many shoulds are sitting in the back of your mind right now?
I should do the dishes, I should answer that email, I should talk to that employee.
All these shoulds drain your energy and vitality.

When you make a plan to do these shoulds, you feel better, until you don’t follow your plan.
Then it begins all over again, with a side helping of personal berating.

How often do you put off doing what you know you ought to do?
How does this feel in your body?
What does your brain have to say about you, or your lack of action?
What is your tiredness factor?

Have you ever come home from work feeling tired, and plop down on the couch in front of the tele, so tired you can’t do another thing.
Until your girl-friend calls and invites you out to your favourite bar or café.
All of a sudden you find energy you didn’t know you had.
Why?
What were you thinking about going out with your girl-friend?
I bet you were thinking about all the fun you would have, and this inspired you to move, to get dressed, and to go out.

There are three ways to overcome tiredness.
One: have a sleep and refresh your body.
Two: do the task you have been putting off, and remember to celebrate your wins, no matter how small.
Three: do something that inspires new thoughts and actions.

Whenever you do something that pulls you out of your comfort zone into your learning zone, you gain a shot of adrenalin, energy.
The feeling of excitement is very similar to the feeling of fearful anticipation.
It is this feeling that can re-enthuse your energy levels and get you moving again.

One of the secrets of success is to do the thing you dread the most first.
If you have an important meeting, schedule it in the morning, when you are fresh and so it doesn’t sit over your shoulder all day, nagging at you, stripping your energy.
If you have to do a task that you hate doing, set a timer and race yourself to get it done, first. Once it is done you can relax with a clear conscious.
If you have a hard conversation to have, set a time, and do it. By putting it off, the conversation will not get any easier, however you may get more tense and anxious about it, and not be able to give your best to the conversation, creating more tension.

It’s not what we do that makes us tired, it’s what we don’t do.
Today’s challenge is to put all the nagging thoughts of things we want and need to do on paper so we can look at them, and then schedule them.
Get them out of your beautiful brain.
And begin to do them, regain your emotional energy.

Until next time.. Challenge your tiredness and Be true to your authentic self.
oxoxo Linda
As a life coach, part of what I do is challenge your normal thinking. You don’t know what you don’t know, until you do.
I help bring clarity to what you do know, and shed a light on things you may not know.

If you are stuck, challenging your normal thinking can produce results you weren’t aware of.
Let’s begin a conversation about what you view tiredness to be.

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Ep #3 Be Thankful for Small Mercies

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching Podcast, I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping people to help themselves.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the information to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, being your authentic self.

Be thankful for small mercies

Hello, My Friends

It has been interesting, while on this journey of challenging norms, just how many unchallenged thoughts I have.
Just yesterday another one popped up.
The thought was “Be Thankful for Small Mercies”
I haven’t heard this saying for years.
We were out for dinner and the meal was disappointing, we made choices and were justifying to ourselves how to be grateful for the meal in front of us.
And out of my mouth popped, “We can be thankful for small mercies.”
Aye, what.
Yes, I could be thankful for the food in front of me.
But that was not the energy that these words portrayed for me.
These words put me into a victim mentality, like I didn’t have any say or choice in the matter.
These words took me straight back into my childhood.
When ever something was less than desirable, we were told to be thankful for small mercies, as if some one had taken pity on us and given us a gift.
The underlying thought and later to become a belief was that I was not worthy to choose the best things in life.
If someone gave me, or offered me something, anything really, clothes, food, furniture, household items, I was somehow obliged to take it and make it work, to not do so was to be wasteful, and ungrateful.

Learning to say ‘No thank you” has been an important part of challenging this norm.
Also deliberately choosing what I do want.

We redeemed our dinner by doing something we had previously planned, with the promise to each other that we won’t put ourselves in that situation again, and if we do, then we have the courage to leave.

Have you heard the saying, ” Be thankful for small mercies” before?
What does it mean to you?
I’d love to hear your views.

What is your go to thought when some one offers you some thing that you don’t want?
What are the processes your mind go through to sort out whether it is an offer you can refuse or one you want to or feel you have to accept?

Does the person offering have an impact on how you respond?

These are interesting questions and your answers can enlighten you to triggers hiding deep within your childhood, that have hitched a ride into your adult life univited.

That’s what challenging norms is all about, discovering and deciding if the thoughts we think are ours, or some-one else’s from our past.
And whether we like how those thoughts make us feel.
Then making a deliberate and willful decision to allow or to heal the feelings those thoughts have generated in the past, that are piggy backing into today and affecting how we respond to life now.

I can help you to unravel the thoughts and feeling that are keeping you stuck, keeping you from reaching your potential. We can Challenge your norms together and up date them to benefit you.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

oxoxo Linda

Live your best life authentically.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

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