Perception that Influences Beliefs

Do you find you are influenced by everyone else’s opinions, and you don’t hear or listen to your won instincts?
You are not alone, our society is set up in such a way that it is difficult to hear and follow your own gut feelings.
You can choose.

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Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.

Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 20

Everything comes from the way we think and perceive life to be.
If we believe life is out to get us that is what we see and receive.
This week I want to encourage you to take an honest look at what influences your perception.
Who do you listen to? What do you watch when you’re scrolling through social media platforms? What type of books do you read?
Who have you been believing about who you are?

All the inputs we receive from our environment, society, family, culture and religions are influencing the way we think.
We live in a society that has more visual stimuation, more audio stimulation, and more sensory stimulation than ever before.
We are tuned into events that are happening in parts of the world that were once only pictures in books.

Apparently our brain only processes a small fraction of the information coming at us. If it didn’t we would be constantly running on adrenaline, and fearing for our lives.
What happens to the information that our brain screens out as unimportant data?
It slides into our subconscious mind, unquestioned, unchallenged.
Have you ever wondered about why you do some of the things you do?
Part of it is the unquestioned influences that you have taken on board, through your subconscious mind.

I read a post yesterday that got me thinking. It said something like Why were we taught to be afraid of the witches being burned at the stake, and not the people doing the burning.
Never thought of that before.
Challenged my perspective.
Who was doing more harm?

This is an example of the beliefs and hidden thoughts that reside in our brains, unchallenged, how can we challenge something we don’t even know exists?

Becoming mindful of what you are watching on the television, on social media platforms and other visual means, is one way to reduce the unfiltered agendas of other people.
Every person, posting a video, creating a movie, writing a book, or speaking to you, teaching or training you has an agenda.
They want to give something to you, for you to give something to them, or to influence you in some way.


I am no different, I want to challenge you to challenge your thinking.
To look at what you take for granted, to investigate the hidden messages behind the obvious messages.
Filter out the information that makes you feel bad, makes you think that you need to be a certain way to be acceptable.
Learn to figure out who you are, and how to follow your hearts desire.
It is my belief that we are never given a dream or a desire without the ability to make it reality.
It is also my belief that we have everything we need, within us.
We only have to seek. We only have to be willing and strong enough to follow the promptings we receive from our inner selves.
It is my belief that as human beings we are always wanting to do better, to be better, to achieve more and this is fantastic. This is how society and communities expand and grow.
As a society in general we are better off materially now than we were 70 years ago.
How much better off will we be because of the idea brewing in your soul.

Today’s challenge is to investigate what is influencing your thinking, and is it helping you to expand your horizons.

Have a fabulous day my friends.
Until next time.. Investigate your authentic desires, follow the ideas that will expand you as a person and monitor how what you expose yourself to makes you feel.
Oxoxo Linda

If you want help to expose the hidden beliefs preventing you from achieving your greatness, contact me and together we can uncover the beliefs that are working against you attaining your greatness.
Live your best life, one task, expansive input at a time, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
If you are wanting help to help yourself, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment,
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Thank You for listening.

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Peace and Planning

If you don’t know where you’re going, You’ll end up somewhere else.

Yogi Berry.

You either walk inside your story and own it, or you walk outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.

Brene Brown.

Hello, My Friends

This week has roared on by, wet and windy. Here in New Zealand we are supposed to be having summer, beautiful sunny days, hot temperatures and great drying for the clothes.
Instead we have been kept inside, because of the rain.
Why is that? Once you are wet, you are wet. Why don’t we just enjoy the rain, especially since it’s not cold.
We don’t melt in the rain, watch a young child dash into the rain and splash about in the puddles, they find the fun, not caring about getting wet.
It’s a mindset, we were trained to think that getting wet is a “bad” thing. Another point of view that needs re-evaluating.

Today I want to talk about making peace with where you are and planning for the future.
It’s holiday season, and a lot of us get to go away over the holiday time.
To begin to plan a trip away, what do you do?
You decide where you want to go, right.
You look at brochures, you watch video clips, you mentally try on the location you want to visit to see if it will fit you and your family.
If if doesn’t feel right, or fit the criteria you have set out for yourself, you begin again.
Once you have settled on the destination you want, you begin to work out the logistics of how you’ll get there.
To figure out how you’ll get to your destination you need to know where you are.

It’s the same with any goal or dream you may have.
You figure out what you want, how it will feel, imagine yourself already having it, and then outlining what needs to happen to get you there.

Sometimes we feel there is no point in planning for the future, the future looks bleak and unattainable.
These are thoughts, thoughts about the future that create the way you feel about what you believe will happen in the future.
The future may or may not be yours to live. No-one knows the exact time of their departure from this reality we live in.
Imagine if you didn’t plan to get to 70 years old, and you lived beyond that. How do you think your 70 year old self would feel?
At 70 without a plan you could be living at the whim of others, with no purpose or reason to make a difference.
Compare that with you making a plan now, planning the vocation you want, planning the income level you want, planning for your health and planning for your family relationships.
Living today with the idea of what you want life to be like when you are 70.
Then if you get to 70 and beyond, you can be proud of yourself for a life well lived.

Planning today for the future always pays dividends. Even if you don’t get where you want to be, you will be futher on the path of a purposeful life than if you didn’t plan and continued to run from one drama, and emergency to the next.

Making peace with where you are, is the beginning of your journey, releasing the resistance we feel around all the should’s that tend to run our lives gives us the freedom to accept where we are and then to plan on how to get to the destination of our wanted goal.
Let’s say your goal is to become debt free.
At the moment you have no idea the condition of your finances, you don’t open emails or letters that look like late payment demands.
You don’t look at your bank statements or balances because they make you feel bad.
Before you can get a handle on what debt free looks and feels like for you, your first step is to acknowledge that you have no idea how much debt you actually have.
Accept that up to this point you have ignored your financial life. (Without judgment and recriminations.) This is about numbers not self-esteem.
Often the reason we ignore our finances is because we have a belief ourselves and money, we wrap who we are up in our income, in our assets, in our debt and in our abilty to manage money.
You are more than the money you have or don’t have, you are more than the assets you do or don’t own.
You are more than the beliefs your family, your culture and your career say you are.

Accepting your financial situation as it is, is the first step towards building a better financial situation.
The next step is being willing to look at the numbers.
Collating all the numbers, seeing exactly where you are, so you can build a plan on how to educate yourself to move forward, in love and trust.
Building skills, having new thoughts and feelings around your view of money, wealth and abundance. Creating evidence that you can take steps to make better choices.
Also knowing you will make mistakes, you will feel defeated at times. This is all part of the journey and nothing has gone wrong.
If you become derailed from your plan. Accept that this is so, then re-evaluate, and continue on your path.
I can guarantee you didn’t get into the pattern of being in debt overnight, and you will not break the pattern of being in debt overnight either.

Imagine how different your life would be when you are 70 years old, having sorted your financial issues in your younger days verses continuing to ignore your finances and continuing on the path you are currently on.
Which do you think would feel better?

Your challenge for today is to decide on your destination point, a place you want to be in the future, a place your 70 year old self will be proud to be.
Then to acknowledge where you are right now, accept that this is your normal. Remove the resistance to change by accepting.
Then create a plan, go to the completed goal, see it, feel it, be in it. Then reverse engineer the goal. Work your way back from completed to where you are with your plan.
Then begin to execute the plan, baby steps, one small action on top the next.

Until next time … You are not your situation, you have everything within you right now to begin to make a difference in your situation.
Be you, the you, you can be proud of. Be authentic to yourself.

oxoxo Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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Honesty: Results are Actions Manifesting.

How honest are you with yourself?
Knowing who you are, includes being brutally honest with what is working and what isn’t working for you.
Nothing changes until and unless we admit to ourselves that something needs to change.
Honesty shows willingness.

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Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.

Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 19

Honesty. This has been on my mind, and in the fore of my thinking for a while.
Getting honest about me, who I am right now, and what my life is like right now, what is working and what isn’t.
Since everything is an expression of who I am portraying, the energy I am living in and the thoughts I am thinking.
It makes sense to me to question the authenticity of my actions.
I’ve begun with my actions, because they are obvious, the results are plain to see, both to myself and to others.
My results are a direct revelation of my actions.
The actions I have taken. By looking honestly at my results, removing my rose tinted glasses, removing all the excuses and reasons why I’m not where I want to be and doing what I think I should be doing, I am getting a better picture of my ‘reality’.
Honesty is important, you and I can not change anything in our lives until we have admitted to ourselves that something isn’t working as we want.

Before I became ill with the virus, I was so proud of myself for not eating refined sugars, and flours. My reasoning was, I’m much healthier and happier without these products.
When I became ill, I turned to the comfort of food to help me to feel better. There is no better comfort food than refined sugar and flour products for making you feel better.
Apparently that was my thinking. Since then, I haven’t quite shaken the desire and delight in eating these foods.
As I was journaling around the bad feelings I was having towards myself in eating these foods, and the cycle I had jumped back into of eating for emotional comfort, then feeling bad and mentally beating myself up, (Kindly, but still judging) which compounded the feelings.
I asked myself the questions, why do I really want to eat refined sugar and flour free? what am I getting out of being refined food free?
Then for each answer I’d ask the same question again until I got to the honest truth of why I wanted to be refined food free.
The real reason was not the obvious health benefits, or the physical sensations of well-being, or the weight loss I was hoping for, the real reason was emotional, it was societal and it shocked me.

If the energy with which I do anything is how that thing is working in my life, or in the results I am getting. No wonder I was feeling stressed and under duress.
No wonder the weight I wanted released, hadn’t been released.
Cleaning up my truthful reason for not eating a certain food, and accepting that the true reason I was doing it has brought me peace. An acceptance of where I am and that I’m okay.

This is still a work in progress, and I’m enjoying the freedom of eating without guilt or shame.
Food is an energy, we can bless this energy, and ask it to work for us instead of against us.
We can relax around food, take the drama, and the emotional tension out of eating.
Are you feeling tense around food? Are you fearful that you’ll fall off your diet wagon? Are you waiting for the holiday season to be over to get on a new wagon?

What if you accepted yourself as you are?
What if without judgment or condemnation you acknowledged you are the size you are, and you are okay? What would happen? What do you think will happen?
Are you afraid that if you acknowledge where you are in all honesty that you’ll give yourself permission to be like this forever?
Would that be so bad? Why do you think it would be so bad?
Are these your thoughts or someone elses? Where did these thoughts come from? Are they serving you?
Do these thoughts bring you peace and joy around your body? Your results?

When I am brutally honest with myself and what makes me happy, truly happy, with lasting joy and peace. I gain clarity around the things I am thinking, doing and getting, and the energy that is motivating and manifesting itself in my results.

So, stepping a little closer to Christmas, find a quiet space to do a little inner reflecting on the results you have in your life and ask the question, Does this result make me feel happy and peaceful?
What do I feel about this result? Does this result serve me? How can I love this result now, even before it changes? How can I accept this situation as it is without judgment and shame?
Dig into the secret spaces of your soul, where your truth sits.
Remember everything we do, we do for the feeling (energy) we believe we will gain from doing, having or being the result we want.

Today’s challenge is to find acceptance of yourself, wherever you are, whatever your body shape and size, whatever your financial situation, whatever your relationship status and know you are loved and okay as you are, right now.
Have a fabulous day my friends.
Until next time.. Seek your authentic truth, unfold and uncover your hidden truth and wisdom.
Oxoxo Linda

If you want help to unfold your truth, to become at peace with your body and your relationship with food contact me and together we can create a system that works with your situation and your needs.
Live your best life, one task, one individualized system at a time, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
If you want help to find what your results mean to you, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

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Grace is Love in Action

What does giving or receiving grace feel like to you?
Do you extend grace towards yourself?
Do you give yourself space to make mistakes and then to make better choices from the learnings of those mistakes.?
Grace is Loving yourself first.

Grace is Being Perfectly Imperfect,

Grace is Given Voluntarily, without conditions,

Grace is Given And Received Freely,

Grace is Kind and Compassionate.

Hello My Friends,

Hubby and I went camping, tenting over the weekend, we were using a new to us tent.
We’d had a trial run at home to ensure all the bits were there and we knew what we were doing.
We were visiting relatives for pre-Christmas mixing and mingling. We erected the tent, blew up the air bed, (got to have some creature comforts, right?) sorted the sleeping bags, then went visiting.
While we were indoors, it rained, the heavens opened and dumped bucket loads of water onto our little tent. Saturating everything inside.
Great time to discover the tent is NOT waterproof, very grateful that other warm and dry sleeping arrangements were made.

Moral of this story is not only check to see if all parts are working, but check to see if the fly and tent are waterproof as well.

Today I want to talk about people being people, and extending grace to yourself and to others.
What is your definition of grace?
“Grace is a very misunderstood term.
Generally it is attributed to religions, and is something God bestows upon us.”
Grace is given freely, with no thought of return, it is given voluntarily without strings or conditions attached.

To me grace embodies a lot of traits, it is an attitude of love, of serving and being served.
It is knowing that people are going to be stressed and tired at this time of the year, and making space for that in the way we respond to others.

Imagine being in a space where you are never offended by what other people say or do.
Not as a doormat, or as someone who feels they are better than another, but from a space of genuine caring and understanding of the other person and of yourself.

Extending grace to ourselves is often the hardest of the graces to give. We have higher expectations of ourselves, than we do of others, and when we mix those expectations we can be harder on ourselves than we’d ever be to anyone else.
Grace comes from your ability to love yourself, if you can not love yourself, how can you give love to anyone else?
The ability to love yourself comes from knowing who you are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, forgiving yourself for your past mistakes, releasing those emotions and healing the wounds, then growing into the love that only you can have for yourself.

By showing kindness and compassion to other people, you are showing them grace.
Giving them the gift of being where they are, accepting them as they are, and not judging them.
You have your red velvet rope in place, so they can not trample on your garden.
You know who you are and what is important to you, what you will and will not tolerate in your space.
The trick is maintaining your red velvet rope while allowing them the grace to behave as they please.
This may mean you make the choice to leave, or to have a difficult conversation.
Grace is love in action and when you do these things in a way that leaves both yours and their self esteem in tact, you are showing love to both.

Grace may also look like making choices not to attend certain events, events you know can be triggering for yourself or others. These events may bring out the worst behaviour in yourself or others, and by making a deliberate choice to not attend you are loving yourself in advance.

Grace may also look like making a decision ahead of time, deciding how you will act, this could be in relation to the amount and type of alcohol you consume, or the amount and type of food you consume. It might be a decision to not speak to a certain person, or to leave at a certain hour. Only you know your triggers, and only you know your safety points that are needed to be decided on in advance.
Grace might mean you have a friend on speed dial, someone who can be a back up in times of weakness. Someone you can call on to help you stick to your plan, or who can give you an honest out should you need it.
Grace is loving yourself first, when you love yourself, you can give that love to others. Without self love you have nothing to draw on to give to others.

This Christmas season decide in advance how you want your celebrations to look. Give yourself the grace to create those celebrations without regret.

Today’s challenge is to think about how you want to celebrate, who you want to celebrate with, and how you want to feel about yourself and those in your circle of influence.

Until next time…
Extend the hand of grace to yourself and to those around you.
oxoxo Linda.

Systems for Seasons

Are you organised for the Christmas season?
Do have the expectations of creating a ‘perfect’ Christmas?
Systems make life easier, do you have a system to help you manage your time, your tasks, and your emotions?

Click the link below for this weeks podcast.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.

Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 18

The first week in December is coming to a close, lets do a little emotional check in.
How are you feeling?
Are you feeling a little bit anxious, a little bit overwhemed, or a lot anxious or a lot overwhelmed.
Or maybe you are feeling like you’ve got this, like you are on top of the Christmas, your organizational systems are working for you.

As you may already know I’m a strong believer that our thoughts create the way we feel, which then create the way we act, which directly impacts the results we get.
Underneath all of this are your beliefs, there will be a few core beliefs that over-ride or undermind your best intentions.

In Monday’s Blog I mentioned our Self-Esteem and how that can impact our results.
Today I want to talk about systems.
Systems are the physical things we do. These also impact on our results.
You can have the most positive thinking, and intentions, but without actions they don’t have any legs, and won’t take you anywhere you want to go.
You will end up exactly where you are, but with a great attitude.

You are already operating in a system. Everything you do is a system of some type.
The question is, “Is the system you are using, working out for you?”
If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed or anxious, I would guess that there are areas that could be improved.

As a tidy bug I work well with lists and systems.
House cleaning is broken into areas and days. Each day I have certain tasks to accomplish. Each of these tasks take no longer than 15 mins.
As I have become more diligent at following this system, my home is always tidy, mostly clean and I feel in control. Also I am not worn out looking at the unfinished tasks that may be attracting my attention because I know they are captured in my plan.
This plan has taken me a life time to perfect, for me.
I began using a cleaning plan when my children were babies. I knew a plan worked, what I didn’t have was the confidence to create my own plan. It was my belief that I wasn’t good enough or clever enough to create my own plan, and follow it. So I was always feeling dictated to by someone else, who didn’t have four preschool children messing up the place as soon as I’d tidied it.
I would try, I would begin, I would fail and beat myself up, telling myself all the mean lies, that I was useless as a mother, that I was a terrible housekeeper, that my kids would grow up not knowing how to be tidy.
And none of these things I said made me any better at what I wanted to achieve, they just reinforced that there was no point trying.

Have you ever felt like this? Trying to live you life some one else’s way and not quite getting it.
When I decided to create my own system, I began with the list of things I wanted to accomplish. Long, long lists of to do items.
So overwhelming, I’d never get started. Also what I uncovered was the thoughts underneath the lists was, it had to be perfect, it had to be hard, and it couldn’t be fun.
As I cleared up the belief around systems and lists, I began clearing up the thoughts about needing other people’s approval, having to keep a ‘perfect’ guest ready house at all times, and the idea of cleaning having to take ages, be hard and messy.
What belief are you holding onto around your systems, your self-esteem toward the holiday period, and the standard your home ‘has’ to be?
Are these actually your systems, your standards, and your ideals? Or have you borrowed some one else’s and are trying to make you fit them.
What if you made up your own systems? Easy to fulfill systems, Easy to keep up with systems that provide you with what you really want.
Do you even know what you want for yourself from this season of the year?
What would your ideal Christmas look and feel like? What would you stop doing? What would you do more of?
This is personal for you, it may look different to your neighbour, it may be different to your Mother, your daughter or your spouse.
Creating your own system for this time of the year, may include borrowing aspects of other people’s plans, twisting and tweeking them to fit your personality, your style and your family needs.
Then as you put the system in place by adding your energy to the required action, remember the way you talk to yourself about each task has an impact on the way you feel about the task.
You can make cleaning the oven fun, you can make wiping the ceiling part of your weekly plan and make it enjoyable.
You can change the way you think about any of the tasks you put in your system.

If you want a copy of my system, email me on authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com remember this system has been created by me for me. It works for me because I have built it into my routine.
Your system must meet your requirements, and fit into your routine, otherwise it won’t work, and you’ll end up feeling even more frustrated.

The challenge for today is to look at the systems that are running in your home, ask Yourself, “Are these systems working for me?”
“How can I tweek them to suit me and my situation better? ” Then begin to follow through on your ideas.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…
If you want help to create a system that is personalized to your needs, contact me and together we can create a system that works with your situation and your needs.
Live your best life, one task, one individualized system at a time, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
If you want help to find what is important to you, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment on what is important to you,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

SELF-ESTEEM Affirmation

What you say to yourself is so important.
It can make or break the way you respond to a situation.
Do you hide your true feelings from yourself?
What are you afraid of?
How you speak to yourself matters.

Love is everywhere you go,

Seeing love everywhere you go is an attitude,

Being love everywhere you go is who you are.

Linda Codlin

Hello, My Friends

This week saw hubby and I complete a few of those niggly jobs that never quite get onto the to do list.
Or they sit on the list and never get off it.
I have been practicing asking for what I want, and the results have astonished me. I have had a few set backs and knock backs.
Which brings me to this weeks topic.

Self-esteem.
What exactly is self-esteem?
In my mind it’s how I see myself, and how I value myself and my ideas.
For me, I wrapped my esteem into the worthy basket.
So every time I didn’t feel worthy my value or esteem of myself also took a hit.

Doing the challenge of asking for what I want has revealed so much about my self-talk.
I’m not talking about the loud voice that informs you, you are not worthy, or says things like, “What did you expect? You don’t deserve this.”
Do you recognise your mean voice? Does she speak to you often through the day?
I thought I had a handle on my mean voice, I call her Sally. Sally is my friend, she warns me of an unworthy attack.
Often Sally will create drama so she can be useful in ‘rescuing’ me. Letting me know that I shouldn’t do this thing, or ask for that thing because it might trigger feelings of rejection or feelings of fear, mainly the fear of succeeding. What if I actually proved to Sally and Myself that I was in deed worthy of having what I ask for.

Do you have this fear? That when life is good, you won’t be good enough to live it. So the easiest way around that is A) not to try. B) Create ways to have it fail.

Self-Esteem is how we think about ourselves. It is linked with the core belief we believe to be true about ourselves.
My latest affirmations have begun to include the reality of where I am, right here, right now.
Imperfections and all, I know most of us are taught that an affirmation has to be positive and in the present tense, and it does.
Our subconscious mind can not tell the difference between real and imagined.
To get to the subconscious mind, we have to go through the conscious mind, this mind is the gatekeeper.
The conscious mind has a BS meter, if you try telling yourself something that is so far from the truth, the BS meter is activated and your mind goes into overdrive to discredit the thought.
Making achieving what you want that much harder.

Part of my internal growth over the last couple of months has been to be brutally truthful with myself, to stop hiding the unlovely feelings and thoughts.
Unworthiness is like a many tenticled octopus, it invades all aspects of your life, and your thoughts without your awareness.

One of the fears I was hiding from was that by admitting my negative emotions I would give them the power to grow and over take my life.
What we focus on grows, right.
Burying negative feelings allows them to grow in the unseen places of our lives. They are already there, they are just being ignored, or denied. They sit unchallenged in the background, tainting all our other feelings.

By acknowledging these feelings, we get to see them.
We get to feel them.
We get to remind ourselves we are worthy of living a life of emotional freedom.

Back to the affirmations. My current affirmation sounds like…
Even though I feel rejected, I am safe, I love and accept myself as I am, right here, right now.
Even though I feel angry with myself for over eating, I love and accept myself, as I am, right here, right now.
Even though I am not where I want to be financially, I love and accept myself exactly where I am, right here, right now.
Even though unworthiness creeps into my thoughts often, I love and accept myself, exactly as I am.

What I have found is that these affirmations shut down Sally’s mean voice.
What can she say? “Yes, you are feeling rejected, hurt, and angry.”
The right now puts it in the current present tense, it elimates holding onto to the feeling, it exposes the feeling right now, and it somehow diffuses it.
Then stating that I love and accept myself, as I am, gives me the freedom to be better if I choose.
When you love and accept yourself as you are, with all the unworthiness, all the over-eating, and all the emotional drama, you can take your self-esteem to the next level if you want, and if you don’t you’re not lying to yourself.

Brutal honesty is painful. Looking at ourselves with all our imperfect humanness is painful, and yet so freeing.
This is a path of unchartered territory, what pains me may not even be on your register, and what pains you may not affect me.
Each of us has an individual path to walk, however we do not have to walk it alone.
You can not walk your path alone, you are connected to everything and everyone around you, energetically.
Reach out to someone you trust and share your hurt in a way that doesn’t hurt another, and generates growth and peace in both of you.

This is your challenge for today, To try out the affirmation, Even though I feel ….. I am safe, I love and accept myself, as I am, right here, right now.
If you can not honestly say you love yourself, you could drop that until you do, by stating that you accept yourself, you are acknowledging how you are feeling in this minute, which helps to diminish the power of that emotion.

EVEN THOUGH I FEEL UNWORTHY OF … I AM SAFE, I ACCEPT MYSELF, AS I AM, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW.

Until next time, build your self-esteem and begin to accept and love your authentic self.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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#authenticlivingwithlinda

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Ep #17 Your Importance Scale

How you invest your time and energy tells a lot about how important things are to you?
Where does your time go?
What do you expend your energy on?
On the importance scale do these things make you happy, give you the result you want?
Check in time.

Click the link below for this weeks podcast.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way
we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 17
Did you know your life has an importance scale?
Time and energy are the indicators of what is important to you.

The more dedicated time you allow for something, the greater the importance it is to you.
Even if you dislike doing it, if you dedicate a lot of your time to doing it, it is important to you.

Also the amount of energy, and the type of energy you expend on the tasks, that take up your time, state what is important to you.

Let’s say, you tell me that your children are important to you.
I’d ask you how much time do you spend with your children?
If you are like I was when I had young children, you may answer, “I spend all day with them.
They take up all my time.”
How much of that time is actually spend with them?
Not doing things for them, not being in the room, or area with them, not tidying up after them, or preparing meals for them, or teaching them, training them.
The time I’m speaking about is the time to actually enjoy them, to create an emotional connection with them, doing things that are important to them.
When we value what is important to us, we give it attention, complete and undivided attention.
The attention doesn’t necessarily have to be long in duration, it has to be relevant to the attention reciever.

If our children are really important to us, we will do the above activities and more, for them, with them and because of them.
We will do it with a pleasant attitude, with gracious love and caring. We will also take care of ourselves, for without self care we become drained and tired, weary of giving out our energy. We must refresh ourselves in ways that refuel our energy tanks.
How often do we lose sight of the privelege we have of preparing a meal, tidying a home, cuddling or consoling an upset child?

The quality of your time and energy spent on something that is important to you, can pay you in vast rewards.
Do you go to work everyday?
Are you happy to go to work, or do you drag yourself out of the house and moan about having to go to work?
Are you the person that everyone tries to avoid, and you haven’t figured out why?
Do you get the bare minimum of work required done to keep your space in the company?

Spending time on the job, does show that the result you get from that position is important to you.
My assumption is that you go to work, or the job, or the place of employment to bring home a certain amount of money at the end of your pay period.
The work or job may not be important to you, but the money is.
How many hours a week are you spending in gainful employment?
Are those hours adding value to your life or are they taking away your life energy?

I imagine our life energy like the energy bar of a computer game, the more hits we take from life, the less we energy we have.
We have to spend time doing activities, with people, and personally that restore our life energy.
We do this by doing the things that are important to us.
Spending quality time with family, laughing, connecting and sharing could be one way to recharge your battery.
Investing time in something you find all absorbingly interesting, could be another way to recharge your battery.

Knowing who you are and what drains your battery, and what refuels it are very important.
How well do you know yourself?
How well do you know what is important to you, and how much quality time and energy do you invest in the things that are important to you?

To begin to see yourself, and your role in your life as important, invest ten minutes every day to think about what lights you up, and then create a way to make that happen for you.
Recharge your battery, you can only give to the amount you have in store.
If your battery is running on empty and you are feeling tired, and angry, disheartened and unmotivated, you may need to invest a little time and energy doing what fills your emotional cup.

Quality focused time and energy, will produce more results than long and scattered time and energy.

Today’s challenge is to do one thing that makes you smile, that recharges your battery, that fills your emotional cup with love and joy.
Emotional fulfillment is found in the little moments tucked in between the big events of life. Find your emotional fulfillment moments.

What is on your Life’s importance scale?

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, one important action at a time, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
If you want help to find what is important to you, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment on what is important to you,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

oxox Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

Facebook: https://facebook.com/lindacodlin25

Instagram: @lindacodlin

The true love story.

Are seeking true love?
Are you looking for the perfect person to complete you?
Are you hungry for peace and love?
You have everything you need within you to love and be loved.

True love does not come from finding the perfect person,

True love comes from being your imperfect, lovable self,

True love is an inside job.

Hello, My Friends

What a difference a couple of coats of paint and wallpaper make to the feeling of a space.
Our lounge is on the completed side of the renovation, now I get to decide what I want in the space.

Often creating elegance, and the feeling of luxury is more about what we leave out, than what we add.

Asking the question, What do I really want my lounge to look and feel like?
What do I want this room to say about me and my hubby?

All the stuff we accumulate tells a story about who we are, who we were, or who we are becoming.

What does your stuff say about you?
Do your books tell the story of someone trying to lose weight?
Someone aiming at getting fit, or learning a new hobby?
The movies and music you have on your devices, do they give a true reading of who you are today?

Would you be proud of what your things say about you, should you pass away unexpectedly, and your family had to sort through your things?
If the answer is no, then maybe it’s time to do an honest update with the things you are keeping.
We are often trying to gain a feeling of worthiness, or acceptibility by accumulating certain items.
We believe the advertising guru’s that if we have the latest car, the newest entertainment area, the biggest house, or the flashiest jewellery then we’ll feel like we’ll fit in.

The truth is none of these things give the lasting feeling of worthiness, or acceptibility because if we don’t feel good enough in ourselves, nothing we do or buy, keep or let go of will make any difference to our self worth.

Learning to love ourselves first, is an inside job, and is probably the hardest job that you will ever do.
And it is the most rewarding job you will ever do.

Your self worth is not tied up in possessions.
Your possessions and the way you relate to them tell a story about who you believe yourself to be.

Some times we don’t believe we are worthy of beautiful things, that having a new car is something that is beyond who we see ourselves being.
If we don’t believe we are worthy of the feeling of luxury and elegance, we will continually sabotage ourselves from getting these feelings, even when we purchase the top end products.

Luxury isn’t found in stuff. Peace isn’t found in things or people. Harmony isn’t found in décor.
These are found within yourself.
You have access to these feelings at any time through any day.
Awareness is the key.
Knowing how you want to feel, and creating that feeling deliberately, makes all the difference.
The energy do anything in, is the energy you generate from the doing.
Do something with the energy of lack and scarcity, and lack/scarcity is embedded into that result.
Do the same thing with the energy of abundance and wealth, and abundance / wealth is embedded into the result.
The result may be the same, but the energy that is emitted is hugely different and makes a different impact in the world around you.

Today’s challenge is to look at your results, choose one area of your life and look at your results, do they make you feel good or do you feel bad or fearful about them.
Let’s choose eating, are you eating out of love for your body, or are you eating to avoid an emotion, or are you eating to punish yourself?
You are eating anyway, but the feelings gained from the eating are so vastly different.
When you eat to punish yourself, how do you feel? Love? Or Disgust?
When you eat to aviod an emotion, how do you feel? Good at first then what? Regret, Self hatred, or Love and Nuturing?
Eating for love and nurturing of your body, your mind and your spirit doesn’t leave a bad taste in your spirit.

What does your result feel like?

If you want to discuss ways to generate more love and respect for yourself, email me at authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com
to book a time for a consultation.

Until next time, begin to love your authentic self more, nurture your inner spirit a little more every day.

oxoxox Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

Facebook: https://facebook.com/lindacodlin25

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Creating a Secret Garden For Your Soul.

Where do you go to recharge your emotional batteries?
Do you have a secret space that is just for you to work through your through your thoughts, feelings and ideas?
Creating a secret space in your imagination can help you heal and revitalise yourself.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way
we choose to live our lives.
Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Click the link below for this weeks podcast.

Hello, My Friends

Welcome to episode 16

The secret garden.
When I was a child I read the book, ‘The Secret Garden’ by Frances Hodgson Burnett
This book inspired me, it was like a secret sanctuary in my imagination that I could go to when life was unfair.

Do you have a secret garden?
A place you go to, to heal, to recharge your batteries and to refuel your emotions.

My secret garden, is where I go when I’m journaling, it’s the place I go to off load all the stuff I’m going through that I’m not ready to share with anyone.
Often I’m not even ready to share the blatant honesty with myself, until it’s written on paper.
My secret garden lives in my imagination, it is a place that I can visually retreat to, when I am sorting out my feelings, the emotions that are too raw to be processed in public.

In my secret garden, which is a bit like the garden in the book, The big oval shaped door has huge iron hinges, which now swing quietly as I push the door open.
The path is paved with red brick, on each side of the brick are scented flowers. The delight of entering this sacred space is the aroma of the flowers.
In the far right hand corner is a huge old oak tree, this tree spills over the block wall that protects and shelters me from the scorching heat or the westerly winds.
My favourite place in all the garden is the wooden swing seat, that hangs from the thick and stable branches of this fabulous tree.
This swing rocks and soothes away the cares of the day, gives me a view over the entire garden and the fields beyond the wall.

My secret garden has a conference table in the centre of the brick shaped heart, here I call in the wise men and women who can guide me over and through the rough spots of life.
I call it my mastermind table, and only people with an invite are welcome to sit at this table.
Behind the table is the fire altar, this resembles a stone plinth rising up in the garden, the fire altar provides warmth and comfort, it also acts as a place to purify my thoughts.
I write the things that limit my progress on a sheet of paper and burn it in the incinerator in the garden, and in my minds eye I am burning all the things that are not helpful on my journey to personal enlightenment.
On the back wall is a long wide bench, the perfect spot for snoozing in the sun, or resting and catching up with myself, a place to revitalise my energy, to meditate and come home to my inner peace.
In front of this bench and to the left is a giggling, trickling little creek, with ice cold water for hydrating and washing in.
This is the place for cleansing, for washing away the remnants of disbelief, limiting beliefs, and the core thoughts that prevent me from living into my greatness.

This secret garden goes with me wherever I am, I can access this safe haven at any time.

Do you have a safe haven that you can go to at any time?

A place when you open the door and step into your haven, you are assaulted with your favourite scent of flower, seeing all the happy faces wrapped in petals, beaming at you, so pleased to see you, that you can’t help but smile. Does your garden have a huge oak tree with a swing nestled in the branches, just waiting for you? As you settle into the swing’s seat you feel embraced and loved, as you rock gently to and fro.
Closing your eyes, you drift into the land of endless possibilities.

Your secret garden can be whatever you want it to be. Maybe your happy space is when you are baking, your secret garden could transform to your secret bakery, designed for your needs.
Maybe your secret garden is a snow covered mountain top in the window, and a green meadow in the summer.
Your secret garden is a place for you to download all your cares, to wash away the cares of the day, to refill your soul with whatever nourishes you most.

Close your eyes and ask your inner guide to reveal to you, what revitalises you most, then let your mind draw pictures as if they were right in front of you.
Use your senses, What do you see? What does the door to your secret space look like? Does your space have walls? What do the walls look like? What do the walls feel like? Do they have a scent when touched?
When you walk, glide, float, row, or are transported into your secret space how do you feel? How does your body feel?
What does your secret space have in it? What is important to you? Do you have a transporter room, that can take you anywhere you want to go?
Do you have an altar or a firey brazen that can incinerate the thoughts and beliefs that have kept you playing small?
Do you have a magic genie who can bring you anything you desire? Will your genie have limits or will it be able to give and take away at your whim? What does your genie look like? How is your genie presented? Does it have a scent? What size is your genie? Does your genie have a space to call home and how does it know you are calling it? Go into detail, see, feel, hear, touch and smell your genie. Use all your imagination, this is your genie and it can be any shape, size, weight, and colour you choose, have fun with it.
Will your sacred space have rules of engagement? So that only people and things you want in your space can be there, and should you accidentally bring unwanted and unfinished business into your space does it automatically notify you, so you can choose what to do about it?
Does your space have a place for you to rest, to unburden your cares and worries without it affecting the overall energy of the space? What does this area look like? Where does it sit, is it a physical place, or is it an emotional place?

Go through your secret space in your mind, make it what you need it to be to nourish you, make it a safe and secure place.
Then when your thoughts and emotions become too much, this is the space you come to, to download, to unplug, to replenish your emotional equilibrium.
You can use this space to imagine yourself at peace, calm, in control.
Then you can pop back into your daily life, feeling a calmer and in control.
Your space is always available for you, you can have a conference table in your space, with your trusted advisors in residence, ready for any question you may have.

This may seem weird to you, but it works for me.
Everyday a spend a few minutes in my secret garden, swinging, healing, washing, rejuvenating my spirit and my soul ready for the day ahead.
I also come to my secret garden when I am struggling to breakthrough a thought or action barrier.

Today’s challenge is for you to capture your ‘secret garden’ in your mind.
You do not have to tell anyone about your secret healing and growing space, but if you want to share with someone what your space is like and how it helps you, I’d love to be your supporter, your cheerleader and your confidante.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Seek your secret garden, Grow your imagination muscle, and live into your authenticity.
If you want help to unlock your secret garden and inner safe haven, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and Authentic Living With Linda.
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

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Unseen Power Governing our Actions

Nature is a chain reaction. One thing follows the other, everything is dependent on something else. The smallest is as important as the largest.”

Bryce Courtenay

Are you plugged into the power source that will take you where you want to go?
Asking for help, and being ready to receive help can plug you into just the situation you want to take you where you want to go.
Having your receiver tuned is important.

Hello, My Friends

We have had a busy week, lots of things happening.

We decided that this last week was a good week to begin redecorating our living area, it is the last room in the house that needs a face-lift.
With Christmas looming, we decided that now was a good time to spruce her up ready for the celebration season.
Hubby and I work well together, we have a little routine going now, each of us knows our roles, and the order we need to work in.
Our living space is small, with not a lot of space to move furniture around. To achieve our wallpapering goals, it required that we move all the furniture from the left of the room to the right hand side.
We busily, cleaned half the ceiling for painting, stripped half the walls for prepping and papering.
Why does it take so few words to describe so many hours of toil?

In the process of removing everything from the walls, we ended up being T.V. less for a couple of days, and internet free for a lot longer.

This weeks post is about the things we can’t see that make a huge impact on our lives.
While I was recording last weeks podcast, my dearest hubby disconnected my life line to my audience.
Panic arose, how was I to get my message across without the wireless energy that conveyed what I wanted to share to those who wanted to listen.

That took a bit of thinking outside the box, learning more about the technology that I already had at my fingertips, but wasn’t aware of or using.

I know we used to do business, and live our lives without the magic of the internet keeping us in touch with everything.
But I miss it, we are still wireless and fibreless for another week, I am grateful for friends and portable wireless modems.

The internet is everywhere, everywhere there is a tower to convey a signal or a cable to connect a space.
We can’t see it, and as such we can’t see the effect it may be having on our physical systems or the environment, until we do.
To access the internet we have to be connected, that connection can be via cable, via a network which is connected to a cable, or over a wifi system which is connected to a transmitting tower.
When we are not in the vincinity of the network our equipment is set up for, we don’t have any connection. Our recievers can not work.

How often do we expect ourselves to do something we want? We might expect ourselves to earn a seven figure income, to weigh a certain weight, to live at a certain address, to be at a certain level in our career, to raise our children in a certain way, to be in a particular relationship status, when we discover that we haven’t plugged into the power source required to complete these tasks, we didn’t ask for the help we needed, we didn’t have the energy, the knowledge, and we end up feeling like a failure.
Then we look at ourselves as if we are broken, because we couldn’t function in a way we thought we should.

I want you to know you are not broken.
My personal opinion is that this one thought, (the thought that there is something wrong with you, that you are broken) causes more pain and heartache than a body needs to bear.
It is my belief that we may need healing, that we may have emotional or spiritual wounds that need treatment, and that we have the ability to heal, and to seek treatment to heal these wounds.
Often we are disconnected from ourselves, we don’t have our internal power source connected.
In essence our Wifi is out.
You carry within you, the seed of greatness, the ability to become the person you know you are.
By looking inside yourself, and acknowledging that at this moment in time your life is not as you want it, you give yourself the gift of truth.
Truth is not always kind, it is not always nice, and it can definitely be painful.
How can you know where you are if you are not willing to acknowledge the pain you are in?

Like our internet outage, we had to acknowledge our pain, (without blame), we have had to think outside our normal situation for solutions, (going through the processess required to call in a technician), we have had frustrations, we have had to go without some things to make other things possible.
Life is like this too, often the solution to the problem we have will not be found where the problem was created, often we get to seek outside help, and that help may take time in arriving.
Stressing and panicking does not help, forming strategies to manage the day to day requirements do, this is constructive waiting.
We have faith that the technician will arrive on the designated date at the pre-arranged time to help us heal our wound of the missing cable wire, and in the mean time it is up to us to create liveable solutions to manage what we do have.

Your challenge for today is to smile at our dilemma, and count your blessings that you have internet access.
What other things are you grateful for having in your life, that you have been relying on without really thinking about? Say a quick thank you to those who have made that possible.

Until next time, tap into your power source, it is deep within you, you have everything you need within you.
Listen to your authentic gut feelings and begin to act on those.

oxoxo Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

Facebook: https://facebook.com/lindacodlin25

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