Respect: 10 ways to respect others.

Respect 

Hello, My Friends

How do you show respect to others?

10 ways you can show respect to others? 

1) Show up on time. If you say you’ll be there, be there. 

2) Listen to what they are saying, with your ears, your mind, and your body. 

3) Do things for the other person that you know are important to them. (Watch your motivation and energy)

4) Speak gently, allow for human lapses of judgement. 

5) Build trust, do what you say you will do. 

6) Communicate what you need, remove the space for misunderstanding. 

7) Give others the opportunity to communicate what they need. 

8) Show appreciation, a little genuine praise goes along way. 

9) Be aware of personal situations, allow for fragile emotions.

10) Criticize with caring, create trust. 

If each of us lived into these 10 ways of respecting others, a lot of conflict would be resolved. 

Communication is so important to being respectful.

The tone of your voice says so much more than your words ever could. 

The way your body speaks, when you are standing silent, tells everyone what your opinion of other people are. 

The amount of thought and preparation you put into what you want your audience to receive from a presentation, tells how much you respect your audience. 

The small actions of washing dishes, or getting washing off the line, lets your family know you value them. 

Being truthful, with caring thought for the other person’s feelings, shows respect that you don’t want to hurt them. 

Today’s question is… Feeling respectful creates satisfaction. Yeah, or Nah?

Until tomorrow, pick one person you usually overlook and begin to show a little respect to them and see what happens. 

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: External vs Internal

Respect to others. 

Hello, My Friends 

Is humanity less caring and respectful than a generation or so ago?

If we look around us we see chaos, disorder and disconnection. 

Individuals seem to care less about other people and more about themselves, yet they are more disconnected from their true selves than ever. 

We are more discontented and unhappier than ever. 

What motivates people to push boundaries?

Is it that we live in a world with little external discipline, which also means we have little internal discipline? Is it that there are less consequences for ‘bad’ behaviour, and as we ‘get away’ with activities that we perceive increases our well-being, we justify to ourselves our behaviour.  We say to ourselves and others, ‘they can afford it, insurance will pay, it’s not my fault they were in the wrong place.’

We are a generation that has so many privileges, yet we are also a generation that hasn’t developed the ability to bounce back when we hit on hard times. 

Self-respect is an internal compass that determines what we will and will not do.  Without this compass, we are lost, we treat things with more respect than we do people. And even then, not so much. 

Because we live in a throw away age – items are made to break, and be discarded, which creates a who cares attitude. If it breaks, we just go and get another one.

Is the lack of respect a societal thing? 

Is the lack of respect a family thing? 

Where do we learn to respect others and their property? Can this learning be eroded? Can we stop it? 

Great questions, I believe we each have a responsibility to love ourselves, to honour who we are. In honouring who we are, we will respect ourselves, we will also respect those around us, and we will value what we have. 

As each one of us respects ourselves, the ripples of this respect will spread, and touch those who have never felt respected or valued. 

Today’s question is… What motivates you to respect others? 

Until tomorrow, investigate how those around you treat each other, what motivates to behave that way? 

oxoxo Linda

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The things we believe.

Have a go at some thing you were told you are no good at, you just might surprise yourself.

Allow yourself to be terrible at it until you get better.

Hello, My Friends

I’ve had an interesting week, looking at the underlying thoughts of what I believe to be true.

As I have mentioned already, I am doing one challenge everyday leading up to my sixtieth birthday. I am documenting my successes and my failings on my private Facebook page.

Well, for as long as I can remember I have been told, or at least I got the feeling that I couldn’t draw. Actually the catch phrase I used was, “I can’t draw to save myself.”

I decided that part of this challenge was to challenge these insidious beliefs about myself, so I You tubed drawing for beginners. I am amazed how easy it is to roughly sketch items within my home. No, they’re not perfect, and they’re not supposed to be.

Also part of this challenge is to demystify the believe that my world will fall apart if I don’t live a perfect life, or do things perfectly. One of the things I have been learning is it’s okay to fail.

Learning it through a study, or in a book is quite different to applying it.

In the book you don’t have the real, failure thoughts and feelings to contend with. In the book there is no judgement about what is good enough and what isn’t. In a book failing doesn’t have the potential to knock the stuffing out of your being, or the wind out of your sails.

In real life, perfectionism has the ability to stop me from doing what needs doing immediately. The fear of failing and getting it wrong will immobilize me from beginning, or continuing, or completing any given task, job or opportunity.

The upside for me, is I’m tenacious. Once I set myself a challenge, I will work at it diligently, it may take some time, with a few stops, and false starts, but I usually accomplish what I set out to do. That is why this 60 days to sixty challenge has been so important to me. It keeps me focused on growth, pushing at the things I once believed were impossible for me. I have faced fears, chased a few dreams, have deliberately avoided the usual things that I use to appease my emotions, like exercising- this has been harder than I thought it would be.

My choice has been to be kind and love myself through my failures, and my successes.

I find it interesting that as I have challenged certain areas of my life that have kept me in chains emotionally, that areas of my life I thought I had sussed and hardly ever had to think about have fallen over. Things like a tidy home, the house feels so cluttered of stuff, everywhere I look it seems like things are out of order.

It is true what they say, “Your environment is a three dimensional vision board.”

My house is the reflection of my emotional state, and when I’m growing into the next developmental stage of growth it shows up in my environment.

What about you? Does your environment reflect your real self, or is it a mirage of someone else’s opinion of who you ought to be?

What assumptions about yourself have you taken to be the truth? How can you test these assumptions safely to see if they are true and real?

What would your greatest challenge for yourself be? What steps can you take to begin, to overcome procrastination?

Procrastination is a tool, it is a guide that tells you what is really important for you to do. If the thing didn’t matter, it wouldn’t matter whether you did it or not, and it wouldn’t matter how well it was done.

For procrastination to lose it’s power, we get to look at what is driving it. Who are you trying to impress? Why do you want to impress this person? When did you begin to need to impress this person? What do you believe you will lose if this person isn’t impressed? What is likely to happen if you fail? What is likely to happen if you succeed?

Procrastination is a mental protection device, and you have the override key.

For me procrastination is always wrapped in fear. What is your emotional brand of procrastination? Are you able to sit with your emotions around the task you are putting off? This is where the freedom lies, in recognizing the emotion driving the lack of focused action. My brand of procrastination has me busy, very busy, doing all the non-essential things, that won’t get me where I want to be.

Everything we do, we do for the FEELING we believe we will gain from what we do.

CREATE the FEELING on purpose in ADVANCE.

This is the key to unlocking the thoughts that block you from believing you can do, have, and be whatever you really want, and are prepared to sacrifice for, there is always a cost and sometimes the cost is leaving the familiar behind.

Until next time, look at procrastination as a friendly mental guidance feature of your incredible mind, and instead of fighting it, allow procrastination to guide you emotionally through why you are resisting the task that needs your attention.

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: Books, podcasts, media feeds.

Respect Hello,

My Friends Treating others with respect shows your attitude to yourself and to them. 

What makes you decide to trust and respect one person over another?

  Your gut instinct? Your experiences from the past? Your ability to ‘read other people’?

Do you respect those who have or can help you? And what of the rest? 

Do you respect those who have proven themselves to be trustworthy? 

What if respecting others came from you? 

The things within your personality, and psyche that you like and also the things you don’t believe you can achieve. 

You admire someone for doing what you believe you can’t. 

If you were to allow these people to be your inspiration, to be your guide, to encourage you when you want to quit. 

Then the respect you have for others will be of value to you. And in turn of value to others. It’s a closed circuit loop. 

Often we respect people from afar, not allowing them to touch our lives, just in case they actually rub off on us.

Who knows who we could become if we were to begin to believe what they believe and to do one or two of the actions of those we admire. 

Awareness is key: Begin by looking at the books you read, the podcasts you listen to, and your social feed, with these it will be easy to tell what are important to you.

What are these saying about you?  Do they create self-respect within you? 

Are they creating new neural pathways in your brain, to greater aliveness within you? 

What you deem important you respect? 

What is on your respect list?

What do you deem to be important enough to influence your beliefs, your thoughts and your actions?

Your everyday is created by the people you let influence you, their energy has an impact on your energy. 

Respect those things whose energy instills love, grace, and inspires you to be a better version of yourself today, than you were an hour ago. 

Today’s question is… What does your social media feeds say about what you respect? 

Until tomorrow, cast an all seeing eye over your environment and investigate the books, movies, media infeed and your feed to see what someone else will see is important to you.

Is this an accurate representation? 

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: The rule book of life.

Respect: 

Hello, My Friends

Moving into treating others with respect.

What are the behaviours we do that show we respect someone? 

As I mentioned yesterday, we use our pleases and thank you’s, we ask politely, we wait until something is offered to us, instead of grabbing and pushing in. 

The golden rule states, “Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.”

This is sound advice when both parties are on the same page, and is valuable when choosing to show someone respect. 

As I stated a few days ago, we can’t respect others beyond the point of where we respect ourselves, and this is where the golden rule comes unstuck. 

So what is respect?

It’s the genuine attitude of caring about other people and how they feel. 

Often we are taught this attitude, so well, in fact, it becomes a noose around our own necks, we put the feelings and needs of others ahead of our own. 

We can easily be caught in the snare of people pleasing, and exposing ourselves to manipulation by those less scrupulous. 

It is my belief that when we have a healthy respect for ourselves and our needs, and fill those needs in appropriate ways, ourselves, we become more open to helping and serving others from free will, rather than through guilt, or manipulation. 

This is when we fulfill the golden rule. “We do for others what we are already doing for ourselves.”

The energy that comes from respecting and valuing yourself first, gives you genuine strength and caring for others.  

Respecting yourself keeps you grounded, so you don’t get wrapped up in other people’s dramas. 

This leads into respecting the rules of the environment and culture we are in.

While we were young we were taught to follow the rules without question.  Now that we are adults we have a duty to investigate each of these rules, to ensure they are still valid for today’s society and for our personal values. 

What was acceptable behaviour within a family and society fifty years ago is no longer acceptable behaviour.  Often conflict occurs when our values and rules haven’t been upgraded, or societies values and rules have been down graded. 

Generations struggle to respect each other, because each one has views are set firm. 

When we respect ourselves first, we are comfortable and confident in who we are, and we are able to look at situations from various points of view. Adjusting or standing firm as needed, without it being a power struggle. 

Today’s question is … How has the golden rule shaped your view of respect? 

Until tomorrow, Think about how the golden rule, of “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” has influenced the way you treat yourself and the way you treat others. 

oxoxo Linda

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ABC’s of Respect

Respect:

Hello, My Friends

Today, I want to introduce you to the ABC’s of respect. 

We use respect in many different ways every day. 

Today I want you to spend a few minutes pondering how you use the value of respect in your everyday interactions with other people. 

I would like to suggest using your manners to say ‘Please, and Thank You’ is showing respect.  Opening the door, or stepping aside to allow someone to walk ahead of you is showing respect. 

I have compiled a list of the ABC’s of respect. You can use this as a template for writing your own values of respect. 

A – Authenticity

B- Bravery

C- Cheerfulness

D- Deciding

E- Empowering

F- Forgiving

G- Gracious

H- Humility

I- Interested

J- Jovial

K- Kindness

L- Learning

M- Mindful Manners

N- Neatness

O- Outspoken

P- Personable

Q- Questioning

R- Relationship focused

S- Sincerity

T- Trustworthy

U- Uniquely You

V- Valuable

W- Worthy

X- X-citing

Y- You Turn

Z- Zealous

So, what would you put on your list of ABC’s of respect. 

Share your list in the comments below. 

Today’s question is… List your ABC’s of respect. 

Until tomorrow, write your list of attributes you think of when you think of respect, and share your list with us. 

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: What you value.

Respect what you value.

Hello, My Friends

We respect what we value. 

How much value do you place on yourself? 

Are you valuable enough to seek help when you need it? 

What are your filters that you run the decisions that affect you, through?

Self-respect is about knowing what is acceptable to you and what isn’t.  Is it acceptable for the same work colleague to jibe you about your weight? Why? 

Mindset work is all about finding out what the belief is that says it’s okay for you to allow yourself to be treated poorly by yourself and by others. 

The thing is, when we treat ourselves with respect, we expect others to also treat us with respect.  And we call out actions and behaviours that we consider disrespectful. 

It all starts within you. 

You are the only one who can set your internal value system. 

You already have a value system in operation, this was given to you when you were a child, and has been reinforced by your actions, and those of others around you. 

You don’t have to live into anyone else’s value system.

What do you value? 

What makes your blood boil, when someone does some thing you don’t agree with or like?

This is a value that you have.

The next question is, does this value serve you?  If you are always angry, does your value serve you? What would be a better value to have that doesn’t make you angry?

What about yourself what always disappoints you? Look for the expectation behind the disappointment. Where did this expectation come from?  Is it working? No!

You can change it. 

I can help with that!

Today’s question is… What personality traits do you value? 

Until tomorrow, be the detective of your values. Answer the questions I have posed above.

Remember we do not judge ourselves or others, we are learning more about who we are and how we respond to the world around us. 

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: Be proud of yourself.

Respect: Be proud of you!

Hello, My Friends

Self Respect, showing respect for yourself. 

What was your definition of respect? 

Did you use words like value, esteem, recognition, admire? 

Do you use those words when you describe yourself to yourself? 

Or do you call yourself names, like stupid, dumb, good for nothing.

The word respect comes from the Latin word respecere and means to look back at – regard. 

Are you judging yourself by your past results?  Or are you planning and moving into the results you want to have tomorrow?

If you continue to do the same things you did yesterday, today, you will get the same results you got yesterday, tomorrow.

Respecting yourself is treating yourself as you do someone you admire. 

Think of someone you admire. What do you admire about them? 

Do you admire the way they dress? Begin to upgrade your wardrobe, one item at a time. Money an issue? Investigate second hand shops, some great garments to be had at affordable prices. 

Do you admire the way they talk? Begin to study them, what are they actually saying? What is the attitude behind the words?  You can begin to emulate the attitude. 

Study what they study, learn to think like they do. 

Then begin to put yourself in situations that grow you. 

Self respect is about doing the things that bring you pleasure and pride. 

Today’s question is.. What will make you feel proud of yourself? Do this. 

Until tomorrow, Study those you admire, look at what it is you admire about them, and begin to think about how you can add those traits to your life. 

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: Yourself First

Hello, My Friends

This month I want to encourage you to respect yourself, first and foremost. 

To respect anyone else, or to receive respect from anyone else the most important person to respect is you. 

Do you always show up for yourself? 

When you say to yourself, “I must go to the gym today.” Do you schedule it and do it? 

That my friend is respect, when you show up for yourself. And it’s disrespecting you when you don’t. 

Do you always say what you mean to say? 

When you say “I’ll be there, you can count on me.” And then don’t show up. Or you never did intend on showing up.

That is disrespect, to the person you told you could be counted on and to yourself. 

If you have no intention of doing, going, or being anywhere, or any thing, Then own it.

Respect yourself, say no, or say yes.  Be true to you. 

The reason we say yes when we really mean no is, we don’t like the sensation of the vibration in our body, that we interpret as letting someone down.  Or the guilt that we allow others to place on us. 

These all stem from our thoughts. 

The saddest thing about allowing yourself to do, go or be what you don’t really want, is you erode your value in yourself. 

Given time you no longer believe you are worthy of respect, or having an opinion, or being heard. 

Learning to say what you mean, and mean what you say. In love, in kindness, with respect to you and others.  Is the beginning, this is where you learn about you, this is where you discover your passion, this is where you know your true value.  And this is where you begin to draw a line in the sand and protect yourself. 

Today’s question is… How much do I respect myself? 

Until tomorrow, watch yourself, see when you promise to do something and don’t show up. Notice, be kind to yourself.

Remember we never beat ourselves up. We value all information, if we don’t know where we are, we can’t improve.

oxoxo Linda

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Respect: What does it mean to you?

Hello, My Friends

Welcome to the month of February.

This month’s topic is respect. 

Everyday I will be asking a question of you, my intention is for you to begin to think intentionally by answering these questions as honestly as you can. 

So, respect what does respect mean to you? 

If I walked up to you in the street and asked you to define respect what would you tell me? 

Which of these words would best describe how you view respect? 

High regard. 

Admirable.

Approved of. 

Recognised.

Valued. 

Honoured. 

Polite.

Courteous

Attentiveness. 

Do these words describe how you respect others? 

Do they describe how you expect others to respect you?

Are they words that you use to respect yourself? 

Interesting questions, over the next few days we will delve deeper into each of these areas. 

Respect from you to others. 

Respect from others to you. 

Respect from yourself to you. 

Today’s question is… How do you define respect?

Until tomorrow, think about respect from these three angles, you to others, others to you, and you to yourself. 

oxoxo Linda

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