Comparing Ourselves with Others

Comparing yourself with others does not make you fee better about yourself.
You are comparing there best with your worst. You have given them an unfair advantage.
Take back your power, become aware of your comparisons.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.

Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends

Welcome to Episode #49

The trap of comparing yourself with others.

We compare ourselves with other people.
We are looking to see how we stack up against the “norm”.
However we start with a flawed assumption that everyone is normal, and everyone is equal.
We are all unique.
If you are looking for acceptance and validation that you are in the normal range of humanity, you are selling yourself short.
The joy of being part of humanity is in the differences you bring.
The very thing you feel left out around could be the very thing that we as humanity might need.
Comparing yourself with other people, is never on a level playing field.
I was talking to a lady the other day, she is a masterful public speaker, one that I aspire to be like. In our conversation I mentioned this and her response astounded me.
She confided that although she looked very confident on the outside, inside she was anxious, and feeling anything but confident.
When we compare ourselves with other people, we transpose our feelings onto them. If they are all put together and beautiful, and we are feeling frumpy and dowdy.
We look at them with jealousy, often reminding ourselves how we are not good enough, not put together enough, not beautiful enough.
The thing is we don’t see all their off days, the instant reactions that are not so beautiful, their normal living.
This comparison is never any good for your soul. Your soul is yours to nourish, and only you really know how to nourish it in ways that have you feeling genuine love for yourself.
Being kind to yourself is accepting you where you are, and taking the next step to move into where you want to be, without harbouring jealousy of others, without comparisons of how well you are or are not doing.
Every action you take is building a story about yourself.
Often you can read the story of other people easier than you can read your own story, your thoughts about your day to day life colours the way you see your life.
How would you feel if someone else was feeling inadequate and dissatisfied with their life, because they were comparing where they are today with your life?
But in that comparison they don’t see all the hard years, all the struggles, and difficult decisions and sacrifices you made to get to where you are today.
The story we see in others, is often the successes they have worked hard for over many years.
When I used to compare myself to people I thought had their lives together, and were living a life of ease, I wasn’t looking at the behind the scenes decisions that got them there.
I was looking at a way to escape the life I was living and not enjoying.
I thought they had some thing I could never have.
What I have learned, is I can have whatever I think some one else has, if I’m willing to put in the work to build the skills, to create opportunities and take them when they arrive.
There is no life without struggle, for every level of growth we achieve and want to achieve there is an inward struggle with the person we are now, and an outward struggle with the habits we have already formed.


To become like the person you admire, you are going to have to let go of some of your securities, and face some of your insecurities.
Comparing yourself with who you were a year ago, with who you are now, can be so much more profitable in self-esteem building.
Changing one thought about yourself, and thinking that thought for an entire year, will bring a shift.
As you think about the changed thought about yourself, imagine what she would do if she was living that thought everyday, and try out acting as her.
Looking to other people for validation will have you running around in circles, digging holes you don’t want, living in ways that wear you out, and will strip you of your authentic self.
Often the people we are inadvertently asking to validate us, are not in an emotionally stable place to validate themselves, let alone anyone else.
When we ask for validation by judging ourselves harshly against others perceived successes, we strip our souls of the power to validate ourselves.
We give our power away.
Today is the day you can begin to stop comparing yourself with someone else’s story, and start creating your own story.
So in one year’s time you can compare where you are now, with where you were, and see how you have validated yourself, trusted yourself and begun to move towards what you truly want.

The only good comparison, is a self comparison, one that enhances your unique skills and abilities, one that has you living from your authentic soul. Being true to you.

oxoxo Linda

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

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Tracking Your Goals

Tracking your goals gives you incentive to continue to pursue them when life can be so distracting.
This week I give you six ways you can track your progress on your goals.

Hello, My Friends

It’s the first official week of spring, and it feels like it too.
It’s the beginning of the fourth quarter of the year.
Are you someone who sets a goal at the beginning of the year?
I most definitely am.
Do you track how you’re going with your goal?
This is a skill I have been honing this year, with the help of my accountability group.
Today I want to share a few tips on why tracking your goal is a good idea and how to track your progress, or lack of it.
When you track your goals you can see if you are on the path that leads to it’s completion.
Distraction is a real thing, and often we need to course correct to stay on target.
Tracking can help you to stay motivated, by having check boxes you tick off, when a task is complete you get to feel the satisfaction of achievement.
Being the beginning of the fourth quarter, now is a good time to pull out your goal sheet.
Did you make a plan on how you were going to get to your goal?
Tip #1. Set specific markers to show where you are. By breaking your year goal into smaller, more specific chunks or objectives you enable yourself to track your progress easier.
You also give yourself the sense of accomplishment that motivates you to keep going when you achieve them.
By using a calendar or goal tracking method you get to mark them off.
Word of caution, If your marker is too big, and has too many smaller parts to it, you may get lost in the process of doing the tasks.
I recommend that you break your task into the smallest part possible, this gives your brain a definitive idea of what you are doing.
It also gives you clarity of what needs to happen next.
Tip #2. Keep a written document of your progress.
I personally journal, this is where I write down my goals, my action plans, and the steps I need to take, and the steps I actually took.
This gives me the opportunity to evaluate my progress, look at what I experienced, what my challenges were, how I overcame them, or didn’t.
It also is a way of noting my successes, and seeing how far I have come toward achieving my goal, it also helps to identify blind spots and limiting thinking, that are slowing my journey.
Tip #3. Use the SMART Method for goal setting.
SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound.
By ensuring your goals meet these standards, especially the measurable aspect, you can quantify your progress objectively.
Some times our emotions have us feeling like we have done a lot of work, but our results don’t show that it is so.
Measuring is a way to keep us honest, we get to see what was actually done, and if it is relevant to the goal we set.


Tip #4. Use visual representations of your goals and progress.
These could be a graph, a chart, a tick sheet, or a vison board. Seeing your progress in a tangible way can be extremely motivating.
Use colour to highlight different aspects, or relevant visual prompts, like a bed for bed-making. Also remember to update your charts regularly to keep them current.
Tip #5. Use technology and Apps.
With your smart devices, keeping track of your progress is made so much easier. You can set your App to allow you to track specific goals and specific tasks at set times.
You can set reminders, and visualise your achievements on your App.
Sometimes just having the ability to note ideas when they occur to you, is invaluable.
Set up files on your computer, on your tablet or phone, so keeping track of what you are tracking is easy to access. Nothing is more frustrating than not being able to find a document or chart when you need it.
Tip #6. Have an accountability partner.
When you share your goals with a trusted friend, or family member, or mentor you are giving yourself a strong incentive to accomplish what you have stated you want.
Warning: Always be very careful who you share your goals and progress with. If you share your goal with someone who doesn’t believe in you, they can become a roadblock on your journey.
Find people who believe in you, who will encourage you, who inspire you, and who will be a cheerleader for you.
Then check-in regularly with them, allow them to give you an outside perspective and motivation when things seem too hard to push through.

So there are six tips to help you track your goals, if you require one on one assistance, I am available to coach you and be a support to you to achieve what you desire.

Remember that tracking your progress isn’t just about tracking your successes, it also about learning about yourself, how you operate, and how you can learn from setbacks, and adjusting your approach as needed.

Regularly reviewing your progress will help you stay focused, motivated and more than likely you will achieve your goals. You also become more confident in yourself, and build your self-esteem.
You learn how to be resilient, how to solve problems, and how to acknowledge your wins. Which creates the feel good factor.

Until next time my friends.
Do a quarterly check up on your goals. It’s not too late to begin. There is no better time than now.
Remember we do not beat ourselves up for where we are, we accept ourselves as we are, and make a plan to move forward.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

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Practice Living a Charmed Life

Have you ever wanted to live a charmed life?
A life that seems so easy and effortless, like it takes no work to have things work out for you.
Today I give you 3 ways to begin to create space for charm in your life.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin

I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives.

Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self.

Hello, My Friends

Welcome to Episode # 48
Practicing living a charmed life.
A charmed life is where things seem to fall into place for you effortlessly, you don’t have to strive, or work hard for things to fall into place.
3 ways to creating a charmed life will help you, and to make it easy for you to bring into your reality.

Cultivate simplicity.
By simplicity, I mean to remove everything from your life that clutters, your brain, your body, and your environment.
So you have space to think.
Often we have too many items in our home, that stops us from living a simple life.
Our stuff keeps us bound to what we own. It takes time to clean it, it takes time to move it, it takes time to move around your stuff.
Cultivate simplicity by making the space for you to live comfortably with your gear.
Have three boxes, one to give away, one to keep, one to discard.
Choose one area at a time, decide on each item one at a time.
Ask yourself, “Do I love it?” if yes it stays, if not it goes into one of the boxes.
Ask yourself, “Is it useful?” if yes it stays, if not it goes into one of the boxes.
Ask yourself, ” Is it beautiful?” if it has a negative memory attached to it, and you are ready and willing to let it go, release it.
Cultivate simplicity. Declutter your space.
Make space for yourself in your life.
We are so busy rushing around after everyone else, we don’t have the space to breathe and to be ourselves in our space.
When we allow ourselves to actually stop for a minute, how does that feel?
When you take a moment to actually breathe, and be with you, how does that feel?
A charmed life is a life that has space for you to be in it.
Your life is yours to live, often we give that away to other people, we give it away to our things, we give it away to our jobs, we give away the space that is ours, for us, and having a charmed life means taking back some of that space.
BE deliberate about what you do and who you do it with.
Charming people are very careful about what they watch, what they hear, who they spend their time with.


They want people who will elevate their energy, and they become the person who elevates other people’s energy.
BE deliberate about what you do with your time.
BE deliberate about what you do with your money.
The way that you spend your money tells a story about what is important to you.
Do a budget, and look and see where do actually put your money. That will tell you what is important to you.
Practicing a charmed life is knowing what’s important to you.
Be deliberate about what you do with your money, it’s being deliberate with what you do, and how you dress yourself.
How do you appear in the mornings? How do you make your appearance for work?
Do you have a cool, calm and collected exterior, and do you have a cool, calm, and collected interior? To match that.
BE deliberate about how you move through your day.
BE deliberate who you talk to and how you talk to them.
Be deliberate about who have your free time with, how you spend your free time and who you spend it with.
Make sure it elevates you, that is makes you feel good, that you come away feeling invigorated rather than put down or deflated.
Practicing living a charmed life is about cultivating simplicity in your environment, in the way you move through your life.
It’s about making space for you in your life, every person needs to have a little bit of space for themselves.
It’s about being deliberate about what you do, and who you do it with.

oxoxoLinda
Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…

Live your best life, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

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12 Categories of Pleasure

Is life a chore?
When was the last time you had some fun, true fun, laugh out loud, hold your sides fun?
Pleasure is with us everywhere, we often get too busy to notice.
Today’s 12 categories can help you tap into finding pleasure today.

The more ways you introduce pleasure into your life, the more you will have enjoyment and fulfillment in what ever you decide to do, and wherever you decide to do it.

Hello My Friends,

I’ve had the pleasure of visiting a few galleries this week.
The curator of one of these galleries has an eye and flair for simplicity and elegance.
I love the way she has arranged different aspects of the display to produce an emotional response from us.
Sometimes the most dramatic things are the simplest things styled in a way to capture and delight our attention and our senses. Today I want to talk about pleasure.
This topic is an ongoing theme in my life.
I tend to let the joy of slowing down and savouring the moment, slip from me as I rush and bustle to get things done.
Having grown up in an environment where pleasure was frowned upon, it is taking me a lot of concentrated focus to extract the joy from my activities.
I believe life is meant for living, and adding joy and fun into the activities we do, creates a lightness of energy which brings happiness to play. However, for this mind and body, I call home, it is a constant reminder game. Being too intense sucks the joy from any activity. Pleasure is very complex, it has many facets and can be defined in many ways.
Since pleasure is subjective and dependent on your history, your perspectives, your environment and your personality, I will categorise pleasure into 12 broad categories, with a brief description about each one. Beginning with the most well known and easily recognised pleasure.
1) Physical Pleasure: This includes the sensations from your five senses. The joy of touch, the satisfaction gained from eating delicious food, engaging in sexual and sensual activities, experiencing physical comfort, and the sensations of aroma, music, a loved ones voice, all the sensory experiences.
2) Emotional Pleasure: Emotional pleasure involves positive feelings and emotions. Things like joy, elation, happiness, contentment.
Emotional pleasure fills your body with sensations of love, and well being. Emotional pleasure can feel like a comforting blanket on a cold night, something that you look forward to enjoying.
3) Intellectual Pleasure: Creating an environment that stimulates your mind and your intellect. Trying out new things to see what will happen.
Solving problems gives your brain a challenge to focus on. Your brain loves a challenge. Intellectual pleasure can also include creative endeavours, hobbies, crafts, art created and appreciated, literature and music.
4) Social Pleasure: Engaging in social activities, interacting and forming meaningful connections with others can be a huge source of pleasure.
As humans we crave human interactions and connections. Spending time with family, friends, and loved ones help to contribute to our experiencing a sense of belonging, which gives us social satisfaction and pleasure.
5) Aesthetic Pleasure: Appreciating beauty, style, form and colour in all its magnificent glory. This can include nature, the beauty of an expansive vista.
Or man created art, architecture and designs. Aesthetics is anything you find as a visually pleasing experience.
6) Experiential Pleasure: This can include things like travel, immersing yourself into new cultures and experiencing total immersion of all the unknown and unfamiliar have to share with you. Exploring all forms of new things come into this category, like bungy jumping, water skiing, sky diving, swimming, things that absorb all your senses.
7) Spiritual Pleasure: Engaging in practices that can be classed as spiritual, nurturing for your soul, can bring a lot of pleasure and create a feeling of connectedness with a higher purpose or beliefs.
This may look like quiet meditation, or moving meditation, prayer, journaling, contemplaton of who you are and how you fit into the scheme of life.
Spiritual pleasure is as diverse as the people who use it or seek it, giving the feelings of peace, harmony, and fulfillment.
8) Altruistic Pleasure: This pleasure comes to you from your giving and sharing of yourself to others. This could look like coaching a sports team, volunteering for a club, taking someone under your wing as a mentor/mentee relationship.
You may feel pleasure from knowing you are making a difference, a positive impact on the world, in your community, in your culture.
9) Nostalgic Pleasure: The joy of remembrances, reflecting on past experiences and memories, especially those that bring joy and happiness.
Nostalgic pleasure can remind you how far you have come on your journey in life. Creating a feeling of well-being and hope.
10) Playful Pleasure: For me personally this is one type of pleasure I want to add to my life more regularly. This is where you engage in playful activities.
This could look like board games, riding the swing, or bouncing on the see saw with a child. Children have this type of pleasure sorted, it seems to come naturally to them, before it is trained out of them.
Hobbies, and non competitive sporting games can foster this carefree and joyful kind of pleasure.


11) Sensory Pleasure: This is one step up the ladder from our basic senses, this involves the subtle art of feeling, feeling the nuances in an experience.
Such things as the gentle breeze across a garden of flowers, creating a scented aroma that bathes you in love.
The warmth of the sunlight on your bare skin, or the coolness of stepping into a pool of water on a scorching hot day. These add depth to the sensations of physical pleasure.
12) Achievement Pleasure: This type of pleasure is one of my strong attributes. I love to achieve goals, to have the joy of ticking them off my list.
An achievement pleasure is meeting challenges, growing into new skills and abilities, realising you can do what you didn’t think you could.
It’s realizing personal goals, career goals, financial goals, travel goals, parenting goals, any goal you care to set to stretch yourself from where you are to where you want to be.
When you achieve a goal, take the time to bask in the sense of accomplishment and feel the pride and pleasure in yourself for your achievement. These are 12 categories of pleasure, remember these categories will and do overlap and interact with each other, and what brings you pleasure may not be a pleasure to someone else.
That is why it is so important to find what gives you the most pleasure and add it to your day, and also to select one area of pleasure that is more difficult for you and begin to add a little more of that to your life.
Adding pleasure brings a dimension of energy and health to your life that generates a lighter feeling of peace and harmony. Your challenge for this week, is to select one form of pleasure that is new to you and include it in your week, notice how weird it feels, and what the feeling is.
If you’d like to tell me about it, I’d love to hear your experience.

Leave a comment below, I”d love to connect with you.

oxoxo Linda.

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

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15 Ways to Love Yourself

Loving yourself is the best relationship you will ever have with a human being.
You are with yourself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Why not love who you are.
15 ways to begin. Pick one and do it.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives. Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self. Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 47

1.   Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would with a close friend during difficult times.
2.   Embrace Imperfections: Accept that nobody is perfect, including yourself. Embrace your flaws and see them as a part of your unique identity.
3.   Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say no to things that drain your energy or compromise your well-being, and prioritize activities and relationships that nourish you.
4.   Prioritize Self-Care: Make time for activities that rejuvenate you, whether it’s reading, taking a bath, meditating, or engaging in hobbies you love.
5.   Positive Self-Talk: Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer to others.
6.   Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrate your progress and growth.
7.   Forgive Yourself: Let go of past mistakes and forgive yourself for any perceived shortcomings. Remember that mistakes are opportunities for learning and growth.
8.   Practice Mindfulness: Stay present and cultivate awareness of your thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness can help you stay grounded and reduce unnecessary stress.
9.   Embrace Self-Discovery: Continuously explore your interests, passions, and values. Embracing self-discovery can lead to greater self-awareness and fulfillment.
10.  Avoid Comparison: Focus on your own journey and progress, rather than comparing yourself to others. Everyone has their own path and timeline.
11. Nurture Positive Relationships: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Distance yourself from those who bring negativity or toxicity into your life.
12.  Accept Your Feelings: Allow yourself to feel a full range of emotions without judgment. Your feelings are valid and deserve acknowledgment.
13.  Practice Gratitude: Regularly reflect on the things you’re grateful for in your life. This can shift your focus toward the positive aspects of your experiences.
14.  Invest in Personal Growth: Engage in activities that promote your personal development, whether it’s pursuing education, trying new experiences, or setting meaningful goals.
15.  Be Patient with Yourself: Remember that self-love is a journey that takes time. Treat yourself with patience and gentleness as you work toward building a strong foundation of self-worth and self-acceptance.


Remember, self-love is an ongoing process, and it requires consistent effort and mindfulness. By practicing these rules, you can cultivate a deeper sense of self-worth and lead a more fulfilling life. Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…
If you want help to create a life that is personalized to your needs, contact me and together we can create a system that works with your situation and your needs.
Live your best life, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
If you want help to create a life you will love, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
If what I am sharing resonates with you, leave a comment,
hit the like button, share with your friends and follow me.
Thank You for listening.

oxoxo Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

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Is Your Emotional Cup Full

Do you know where your leaks are?
Your emotional leaks?
If you had an emotional cup that stored your energy, what level would yours be at?
Today we talk about energy drainers and energy enhancers.

Hello, My friends

This week has seen hubby and I taking care of a friends, sleek tabby cat, while she went away.
Our friend lives within walking distance from our home, giving us reason for a brisk walk.
This sleek, little tabby, just out of kitten-hood. Waits for us, she greets us with enthusiasm.
Twirling and twining herself around our legs. Smooching and purring so loudly when she is being cuddled.
It feels lovely to be wanted and celebrated, this little cat has mastered the art of welcoming people.

Today I want to talk about energy drainers and energy enhancers.
Every thing is made up of energy.
Energy never dies, it is just transmuted into a new form, when one form ceases to be, that energy flows into the next new thing.
You and I are energetic beings.
Our body is a container for our soul, these bodies we have, use energy to live.
Emotionally, we feel the vibrations of our body.
These vibrations can feel good to us or they can feel uncomfortable to us.
The vibrations are energy.
We have the ability to affect our energy.
Energy drainers are the things we do that keep us feeling flat.
Let’s imagine you have an emotional cup, when your emotional cup is full you are happy and contented.
As you go through your day, things happen that can empty your cup, leaving you feeling a bit cranky.
There are a few things we do that can have a significant impact on the levels of emotional energy in our cups.
Sometimes we sabotage ourselves, unwittingly, we put tiny holes in our cup, creating seepage.
So when we put high quality activities and feelings into our emotional cup, they seep out leaving us with the feeling that something is wrong, and we don’t understand why.

Listed below are a few of the typical energy drainers I see.
Fatigue, we are constantly tired. This may be due to insufficient sleep, or a type of food you’re eating, that your body is incapable of digesting, or you are mentally unstimulated and bored.
Stress, this is a big factor in the energy draining arena. Stress shows up in so many ways, and the stressor is personal to the person feeling stressed. I will say that most of us feel stress when we feel like we are unable to manage the demands being made of us, either from ourselves or from others.
Relationships, people can be energy drainers if we allow them to be. When we don’t have strong personal emotional boundaries, people will treat us however they please. Which isn’t usually in our best interest.
People can sap the energy right out of you. Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and they seemed to suck the oxygen right out of the room. They thrive on other people’s energy at the cost of those they are with.
Learning to protect your energy emotionally, physically and mentally will stop the drain.
Living a lifestyle that does not promote health and well-being drains our emotional and mental energy. It is so easy to slip into a sedentary life style, not moving your body. A stationary body has pooling energy, which leaves you feeling unenergetic and unmotivated.
Also feeding your body foods that make you feel sluggish, overfull, and under satisfied also impact your energy with fluctuating spikes or highs, and plummeting lows as your glucose levels rise or fall.
Expectations, we expect so much from ourselves, whether we are striving to please others, or to make ourselves feel better, we also mentally beat ourselves up when we don’t tick off all the to do’s on the list.
We believe we can have it all, and be it all, all at the same time. And then we are surprised when our body burns out, or our brain can’t manage to process all the information we fire at it, or when our emotions melt, and we have to scramble harder to keep ourselves together.
Living this way uses all our reserves of energy, we may be able to keep our head above water for some time, with regular energy top ups. However over the long haul of time we sink and shrivel up, being drained of energy, living small and insignificant lives.
I’d like to suggest that we mend the little holes and cracks to our emotional cup.
Create strategies to honour your emotions, to honour your energy, and keep your cup full.

To live a vibrant and energetic life try adding some of these things into your day.
Let’s begin with fun, lighten up, having a slightly flirtatious attitude with yourself will help your demeanor.
Fun adds humour, fun adds air, fun adds joy, and all of these generate energy.
Add quality sleep into your routine, slow down, unplug before bed, journal all your thoughts, get all your worries out of your brain and onto paper. Create a dark and quiet environment for sleeping, have your own space to sleep.
Read a book, make it something you really enjoy, something that inspires you, something that interests you. Give your brain quality things to think about. A bored brain looses energy and motivation.
Choose a new hobby to stimulate your body and your brain. When you are focused on a goal, that goal tends to give you energy, especially if it’s something that fires you up.
Give yourself the benefit of gentle exercise, from a place of enjoyment, no punishment allowed. Punishing exercise routines that are used to whip you into shape, will leave you feeling demoralised, because the belief behind the exercise is that you need to be punished, because for some reason you perceive you are bad, or not good enough. This bleeds energy, and drains your emotional and physical cup. Be kind to yourself and move your body in a way that feels like fun, that feels sustainable, that feels enjoyable.


Choose the best quality food and water that you can. As you eat and drink, pause a moment and feel how your body is receiving these substances. Your body is amazing, it will tell you what it needs, it will also tell you what it doesn’t need. You only have to listen to the energy and vibrations in your body and it will let you know what it likes and what it doesn’t. Give your body energy producing food, that is right for you.
Living with human beings can be challenging, learn ways how to put up a red velvet rope around you, around what you want in your life. Protect your energy from the energy thieves, if they can’t get through the doorway of your life, they can’t take your energy.

Boundaries are about you, they keep you safe. Boundaries are never about other people, even when it appears that way. A boundary is about your energy cup, and only allowing those you want to have access to your cup to get near enough to be a part of your energy.
The quickest way to fill your emotional cup is to have your own back. To only do the things that give you energy.
Create joy, pleasure and fun as part of your daily living.
Investigate your expectations of yourself, and of those closest to you. Are you expecting perfection and then draining your cup to try and achieve it?
What if you raised your standards in areas that give you energy, and lowered your standards in areas that don’t. What I mean by this is, do more of what energizes you, and do less of what doesn’t. You get to decide how full your emotional energy cup is.
Are you wanting to plug some of the holes in your cup?
Once you start to plug up the drains and eliminate the causes for those drains, your cup will fill easier and stay full longer, making life a bit easier to live and enjoy.

Until next time my friends, investigate your energy drainers and your energy enhancers. Pick one easy area to begin plugging up the holes in your emotional cup.

oxox Linda.

If you want to work with me to plug up the energy leaks
email me at authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com or find me on Facebook: Linda Codlin 25 or on Instagram: lindacodlin (@authenticlivingwithlinda)

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

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Moderation is not deprivation

Do you feel deprived when you can’t have what you think you want?
Living in moderation, between the excesses of overindulgence and self-deprivation.
Meet your personal chaperone.

Welcome to Authentic Living Coaching, The Podcast,
I’m your hostess, Linda Codlin I am a certified life coach, and the founder of Authentic Living Coaching.
I am passionate about helping you to help yourself.
It is my intention that each and every one of us has the
information we need to make the best decisions about the way we choose to live our lives. Living life on your terms, and being your authentic self. Hello, My Friends
Welcome to Episode # 46

Moderation is not deprivation.

Living in the middle of the pendulum swing. Deprivation vs overindulgence
Feeling deprivation Is like feeling rejection.
when deprived: can’t have = dreams die a little every time
-have to be grown up and what what others deem is right. Restrictions placed on me by others.
-told what to do, and how to do it. Deprived of the freedom of choice.
Feeling deprived- I feel starved-like I can never get what I want
– I feel restriction in my body
Shows up as – gorging myself with food, any food
-for some it might alcohol or drugs
– party time
-I become hyper focused on what I can’t have. Obsessed even
-play the blame game -it’s someone else’s fault I can’t have. They ate the last one, they spent the money, they got in my way …
-it’s the diets fault I can’t eat what I want
-it’s the governments fault I can’t start my business/travel where I want to
Whatever it is we believe is stopping us from having the thing we want.

Living with deprivation, takes a lot of energy
Living with self imposed deprivation takes your soul

The way out of the attitude and feeling of deprivation is to allow yourself to have.
Remember everything starts with a thought.
allow yourself to have, in your mind- imagine the food you’d really love to eat.
budget for it, make it happen.
imagine the places you want to travel, give yourself permission to save for them, use the internet to research, book a date, make it happen for you. Forgive yourself, and anyone you perceive is in your way.
moderation is not deprivation.
recently I learned of a new concept- by the author of ‘Living a charmed life,’ Victoria Moran
The concept of a chaperone, the part of you that knows when it’s time to stop, but the fun is so much you don’t want to.
Your chaperone is there to guide you back from the edge of overindulgence and self regret. She is your friend.
Often a chaperone is thought of as a kill joy, she is actually looking out for you.
She wants you to have the best life, without guilt or regret.
moderation is not deprivation.
Moderation is not a life sentence of boredom or same ole choices,
It is the freedom to have a little of everything, and still feel good about yourself.

Have a fabulous day my friends. Until next time…
If you want help to create a life that gives you the freedom to have it all, without guilt and overdoing it, contact me and together we can create a system that works with your situation and your needs.
Live your best life, Know yourself and live your life authentically.
If you want to create a life you love, connect with me for coaching. You can find me on Facebook and Instagram. Linda Codlin and authentic living coaching
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Thank You for listening.

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Attention, Energy and You

Where do you place your attention and your energy?
Are they creating a space for you to live in harmony with yourself and those close to you?
How much of your attention is on things that are not interesting to you?

What does my soul, spirit, authentic self need right now?

How can I fulfill this need in a way that creates positive energy?

Hello My friends,

This week hubby and I were going for one of our usual walks, when we could hear a raucous sound on the other side of the lake.
As we neared we realised it was geese.
The honking and calling was interfering with our peaceful stroll through the trees, dodging mud puddles and ducks.
We rounded the corner, to find 10 to 15 geese, waddling straight for us.
They had to cross a little bridge over a neck of the lake.
It appeared to me that the lead goose was encouraging all those behind to hurry up.
Just as a mother does when she realises people are waiting for her and her young children, to move out of the pathway.
As soon as all the geese were off the bridge, it was like the head goose nodded it’s head at us, giving us permission to pass.

For the few minutes the geese were on the bridge, our complete attention was on the scene in front of us.

Sometimes we become distracted from the really important, with the nearly important.
When we focus all attention on the one top priority it is amazing how quickly we can resolve it, fulfill it, complete it. Whatever is required.
Focused attention will always increase the energy flow to the attention receiving thing.
When we first fall in love, we are the center of the other persons attention, and they are the focus of ours.
We think about them all the time. We plan what we will say, do , wear, the next time we see them.
We worry about what they might think about us if we do certain behaviours, we seem to always put our best self forward.
The energy of focus makes the newness of the relationship feel satisfying.
Sometimes, this energy focus can be over whelming and too much. We don’t know how to handle it so we run away from it.
Sometimes it brings into the light, aspects of our personality that we’ve buried and don’t want others to see, because we consider them to be ‘bad.”
One such thing could be that in light of new love, you radiate health and well-being, You are attractive to yourself and others, which makes you the focus of attention.
All your life you have been taught that it is vain to be the centre of attention, especially from people you don’t know.
Being in the lime light, feels so good, being in love feels so good.
Do you shy away because of your past conditioning or do you stay and step forward into the new, and exciting possibility that lays ahead?

Sometime focusing our attention on one aspect can be all consuming, to the exclusion of all else.
There is timing in focusing our energy.
As people, we have a variety of areas in our lives. Areas like parenting, like financial responsibility, like personal growth, like career and vocation.
There are things like health and well-being, our spiritual growth and our emotion well-being.

We are in relationships with other people and these are important to nurture.
Each of these and many more need our attention.

The way I handle the need to place attention in many places is to choose what I want to focus on, and dedicate my energy to that one item, until the timer goes off.
Once the timer goes off, I get to decide if I want to continue to be dedicated to the task, or to switch to the next thing that needs my attention.

I get to create a space where placing my energy and my attention feels like the best investment to, and in me.
This investment may mean cleaning my home, it may mean removing everything that doesn’t fill me with joy or peace.
This investment may mean creating a haven that I love to come home to. It may mean putting in a few safe boundaries, having a few safe words.
This investment may mean sorting out my stuff, getting rid of broken things that haven’t been repaired, and are not likely to be repaired.
It might mean actually paying someone to complete some of the things that I’ve started but don’t know how to finish.


Clearing a space for my brain, my body, and spirit to live in harmony.
Placing my attention on how I’m really feeling. And making this space feel like home.
Your attention and your space and your energy want to feel like home to you.
What do you need to do, finish, clean or clear away to create a space for your energy, your attention and your spirit to feel like home?

Where you place your attention, you are also placing your energy and your spirit, are they in alignment with who you are, and who you are becoming.

Until next time, have a look around you, do you see any attention leaks, energy leaks, or spirit leaks. Begin to stop the leaks.
Always asking, “What do I really want right now?” What do I want to put my attention on? Will this give me energy or take my energy away?
What does my soul, spirit, authentic self need right now? How can I fulfill this need in a way that creates positive energy?

Always choose to be your authentic self.
oxoxo Linda.

Develops Interests.

How do you shake the boredom blues?
Is your life in a rut?
What new interests do you want to develop?
Today I give you a challenge to shake off the boredom blues.

How do you beat the boredom blues?

Hello, My Friends

The sun is shining, the wind has dropped off, it’s a lovely winters day.
Hubby and I have been in hibernation mode.
We are a bit like bears, when the weather turns a bit chilly, we hunker down in our warm abode, eat, sleep and play games.
Our latest game is the card game, Phase 10.
If you want a game that will bring up your emotions and frustrations this is one for you.
I know it’s just a game, but I do not like continually being on a un-winning streak, and neither does hubby.
I’ve been amazed at how much this game has revealed to me about my thinking patterns around winning and losing.
When we play but don’t score, the emotional input is less. However the minute we score, my competitiveness arrives in full combat mode.
And when hubby is losing by a long shot, my nurturing side kicks in, wanting him to feel better.
I have to check my tendency to please others when I place my cards down. I have at times sabotaged my own game and then felt the annoyance at myself for doing so.

Today I want to talk about living lives of boredom.
We do the same things, over and over again, and we often do them with the same people.
Routines are good. They keep us on track.
Sometimes we just need to jump off the track.
We need to do something else.
With winter coming to a close, I am beginning to get the hankering to do new and interesting things.
To shake off the boredom and familiarity that being at home during the winter months has encased me with.

How do you shake of the boredom blues?
Do you plan fun outings with friends?
Do you go to places you have never been before?
Do you add art galleries, and exhibitions to your schedule?
Do you go to the movies with friends or by yourself? (by yourself can be very revealing about the hidden stories we tell ourselves.)
Do you go to cafes, and restaurants you have never been to before?

Maybe you like to go into nature.

The joyous thing about nature is it is never the same, in every season nature responds differently.
Maybe you would like to develop a new interest, a new hobby.

What would that be?

People are so interesting, in this age of feeling unsafe around those we don’t know, we stop caring about others, we hurry through our duties, we are on the fast moving conveyour of getting life done.
We don’t slow down to see the people around us.
To actually look at people, to catch their eye and share a smile.
Fear dehumanises people, fear keeps us living small and often boring lives.
When fear comes to play, it clears the room of joy, it sucks pleasure dry, leaving a shell and emptiness. To bring a little joy and pleasure to your life, begin to notice people around you.
Say hello to the lady at reception, wave to the little boy being bundled along in the trolley.
Be kind, be open, be polite.

You might be the only person who acknowledges another’s existence today.
And you never know, you might actually make a new friend, or acquaintance.

Your life is about everyone you touch. Your life is about how you touch them.
The lady at the gym, who you nod your head to, in acknowledgment, is touched by you.
The man at the grocery store, walking with a cane and struggling to get an item from the top shelf, who you help. Is blessed by your act of kindness.
The child waiting, alone, who looks afraid. They may never know you decided to wait, to ensure they remained safe. (Your energy blesses them)
People walking down the street, people you serve in your place of employment.
We are surrounded by people.

Be the difference you want to see.

How do shake off the boredom blues?
What are your favourite things to do to create interest and entertainment for yourself?

This week’s challenge is to do one new thing, and to greet one person everyday who you normally overlook.

Until next time.

oxoxox Linda

As a certified Life Coach, I help you to help yourself, so you can create a well lived life your way. 

If what I am sharing resonates with you, follow me, reach out, share with a friend, like or leave a message below,

When you are ready to make a transformational difference in your life, contact me for a one on one coaching session.

My details are…

#authenticlivingwithlinda

email: authenticlivingwithlinda@gmail.com

Website: https://www.authenticlivingwithlinda.com

Facebook: https://facebook.com/lindacodlin25

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