Leading: What is the most important thing?

Leading: What is the most important thing?

Hello, My Friends

One of the meanings of leading is ‘most important’.
What is the most important to you, for you?

Instantly my mind goes to you are your most important thing.
Without you I wouldn’t be writing this for you to read.
Without you the world would be a little less bright.

You are the most important thing to you. Are you? You are, aren’t you?

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There are times when we all doubt that we are important, sometimes our self-esteem slides off our shoulders and hits the floor, rolling under the bed.
And at those times we tend to leave it there, roll over and go back to sleep.
Or we hit the pantry and eat everything in sight, trying to make ourselves feel better.
Or maybe we don’t have the luxury of staying in bed, we have to be out and at work, so we take our grumpy lack of self-esteem selves to work and grump and moan at everyone in ear shot, not caring how our bad mood is effecting anyone else.

And for days we forget about our self- respect, our self-esteem and our self-belief. It stays under the bed gathering dust and fluff bunnies.
Until something happens that triggers the feeling of enough is enough, we realize we are missing something vital about ourselves.
Then we go looking for it, we go looking for the feeling of self-respect, for the feeling of self-valuing, for the feeling of self-love.

We begin to shake off the doldrums that like a dark cloud descended over us, we begin to talk to ourselves in a way that soothes the wounds of self-loathing, that bandage the lashings of guilt and shame from over indulging in whatever we thought would make us feel better, and that didn’t.

We begin to see again that we are the most important asset we have in our lives.
We begin to lead ourselves in ways that feel healing, soothing, authentic and even a little bit loving.
The more often we do things that grow the healthy feeling of pride and worthiness, the more we believe we are worthy. It becomes an upward spiral.
And when the doldrums happen again, (And I’m sad to say, they will, it will take us less time to notice that our self-esteem has slipped off, before we go looking for it)
Eventually, we become so aware of feeling, we notice the instant we are not feeling an emotion that feels healing, healthy or whole.

The key to being the most important thing in your own life, is to give yourself grace. Be aware when you notice your self-esteem slipped.
Never, never, never beat yourself up emotionally, for slipping, why add more layers of pain to the pain you’re already feeling.
Why add the guilt of beating yourself up ,to the guilt you are feeling for letting your self-esteem slip, to the guilt of over eating.
So much unnecessary guilt. Such a heavy burden to bear.

You are your most important asset, smile at yourself in the mirror, tell yourself you are sorry, wink and carry on.

Today’s inspirational droplet is You are your most important asset.

oxoxo Linda

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Leading: We learn faster by immersion.

Leading: We learn faster by immersion.

Hello, My Friends

Of the 10 types of leading we have talked about over the last couple of days, every one of us will be a mixture of all.
It’s not that we intend to manipulate or motivate, it’s that we are part of a society where these skills are used around us and often on us everyday.


We learn more by immersion that we will ever learn by reading a book.

That is part of the reason why becoming actively involved in the skill you want to master is important.


The more you do some thing the better you become at it. The more you fail at some thing, get back in the ring so to speak and try something else, the sooner you learn the subtleties of the skill you are wanting to master.

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Every time it seems that situations are trying to stop your progress, the more you have to learn about yourself and the skill you are mastering.
As you lead yourself, head on into uncomfortable situations, you figure out how to handle yourself, and how to handle the situation.
You grow, you become more confident.
Then the next skill you need begins to make it’s lack of ability apparent and the cycle of learning continues, each skill growing on the base of the previous skill.

Have you identified a leading skill you want to develop?
Is it one of the 10? Each of these, the ‘negative’ and the ‘positive’ are valid attributes. They each have a place for teaching us what we know and what we need to know.

What is your reason for wanting to lead?

What is your reason for wanting to be led? This question can be very telling. If you want to be led so you don’t have to take responsibility then I’d suggest you have a deeper look at your motive.

If you want to be led, so you don’t get to fail, more mindset mastery is required.
Failing is part of learning, failing is part of succeeding. Failure is only permanent when you stop getting up and stop figuring out a different way of doing the thing you want.

Be encouraged you are not alone in your journey, every person who has ever succeeded at anything has had to face the discomfort of failing, of getting up and going again.
Strength is not forged in the easy things, it is forged in the difficult things.
And each difficult thing is relevant to the person facing it.
Comparisons are not helpful, because what is your difficult thing, may be someone else’s easy thing, and your easy thing, might be someone else’s difficult thing.

We each have our own journey, but we are not alone on our journey.
I would encourage you to reach out to another person, who is where you want to be, ask for support, and be the support that another person on their journey needs.
This is a together everyone grows kind of journey.

Today’s Inspirational Droplet is Failing is part of growing. Failure is only permanent when you stop trying.

oxoxo Linda

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Leading: 5 more reasons for WANTING to lead

Leading: 5 more reasons for wanting to lead

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5 more reasons for wanting to lead, yourself or others

1) For the love of the human being growing

2) For the love of order, peace and harmony

3) For the love of improving spaces, innovation, and mechanization

4) For the love of communication, connection and cooperation

5) For the love of inspiring, motivating and influencing the betterment of mankind, one person at a time.

You’ll notice that today, I have deliberately focused totally on the uplifting side of leading.

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Quality leaders are interested in everything human.
This includes how people think, how people grow, how people interact within themselves and with others.
And as a leader who is also a person they understand the frustrations of being human. This leader takes delight in enhancing the growing opportunities of those who are following them.

A leading person will want order, in their environment, less clutter in their minds and lives gives more space for clarity and improvement.
Having personally made peace with their past and all the twists and turns that have brought them to where they are today, they have emotional peace and are able to pass this onto those you wish to learn more about their authentic selves.
A quality leader creates harmony within themselves, within the environment, within those who work with them. They are not afraid to confront inappropriate behaviour to create a safe space for the wider team.

A quality leader opens spaces for others to contribute ideas on how to create, solve and repair. Empowering their team to find solutions to problems, to build new ideas, to fine tune existing ideas.
These leaders are open to new and maybe unorthodox ways of handling situations, they are not afraid to encourage out of the box thinking in their teams, they advocate for all ideas to be put forward and heard.

A leader who values open and honest communication, is a rare gem. This leader doesn’t shy away from conflict, as they know conflict is part of the human experience and how we work through conflict determines the type of life we live.
Having people being able to connect on a real level is an asset that draws followers, being a strong lead involves having boundaries, and rules.
People do not feel safe without connection, open and honest cooperation is not possible without trust. True leaders emulate trust, they have high expectations and are willing to follow through to maintain the safe space for the good of the entire team.

Quality leaders inspire, they do what they say, they live the principles they encourage, they motivate themselves and others by being their authentic selves.
These leaders have nothing to prove and everything to give, they also know how to receive appropriately.
A Quality leader will always leave people feeling better than when they met them, even when they are not trying to.

These 5 qualities are like the gold standard in leading yourself and others.

All leading begins with yourself, you must know yourself, you must love yourself, and accept that you are human.
Human’s mess up, they have raw and uncharted emotions that don’t behave in an orderly way all the time.
Loving people is a great beginning for being a leader.

Today’s Inspirational Droplet is Quality leaders love human beings in all their messiness.

oxoxo Linda

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Leading: 5 reasons for wanting to lead.

Leading: 5 reasons for wanting to lead.

Hello, My Friends

Five reasons you may want to lead, yourself or others.

1) The need to be in control.

Often people will try to control other people to feel like they have control, when there is little of no personal control in their own lives.

2) The need to have things happen in certain ways,

to create a set of situations that feel supportive, to reduce fear.

3) The need to affect an outcome of a situation in a certain manner,

to ensure certain behaviours are adhered to, or eliminated.

4) The need to help people to become their best selves,

which can come from a position of lack, scarcity and trying to earn trust or worthiness.

5) The need to punish ones self for the perceived wrong done in ones life.

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You’ll notice I have deliberately focused on the not so positive sides of leading.
This type of leading has an ulterior motive, which usually has the leading person gaining something from keeping other people in check.

People who feel like they do not have control in their lives, will strive to control everything around them and about them.
This could look like having a picture perfect home, where nothing is out of place, where the house looks like it has been prepped for a photo shoot.
It could also look like over focusing on small seemingly insignificant details, like having the grout in the bathroom sparking clean all the time.
Needing to be in control of all the details could look like micro-managing every detail, children’s schedule’s, clothes choices, where each family member is at what time.

People who need to have things happen in a certain way, lead to reduce their anxiety, they insist on activities being done a set way, at a set time.
They often don’t do change well, and they can lose self control when feeling stressed, due to changes in their routines.
This type of leader is willing to do what is needed to keep the order they need to feel secure and supported.

The need to affect the outcome of a situation can see people in lead roles bending the rules, using coercion, or bully tactics to get their own way.
Often people with this type of leading have a low self esteem and require the feeling of being the boss or being right to bolster themselves.
They can bolster their need to see a set outcome as the best situation for everyone and be hard nosed as they strive to have everyone adhere to their perception.

The helper, uses softer tactics, like manipulation, and guilt to get peolple to do what they want. The person coming for help often comes from a place of lack which gives the lead the feeling of power.
The helper acts like they want to help the person, but actually perpetuates the victim role in the helped, by keeping them dependant on the helper.
This form of ‘help’ is another form of control and can be very hard to recognise in both the helper and the helped.

This one is the leader who punishes themselves for percieved wrongs committed. This form of leading looks like a very self-controlled and organized person.
The motive for the things they do, is punishment, is to even the score, to prove themselves.
This can look like excessive exercising, strict adherance to diets, and like the first two they will control everything about their environment.
These leaders have a tight reign on themselves, never really trusting themselves. They appear to be very responsible, and put together.
However they also feel like they are not in control of their lives.

Each of these 5 forms of leading are harmful, to the lead and to those being “lead”.
If you see yourself as either the leader or as the one being ‘Led’, please do not beat yourself up.
Awareness is the beginning of all change.

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Today’s Inspirational droplet is Those who need to control others, feel out of control themselves.

oxoxo Linda

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New beginnings and new perspectives.

New Beginnings

Clean slates

Unknown Futures

So many blessings to be had

Tomorrow can be all of the above

A shift in perspective is all that is needed.

Hello, My Friends

This week has been a productive week for my youngest son, his wife added a little daughter to our family. New life is so special, it has, a breath of fresh air attached to it. This little girl is like a clean slate, we don’t know what the future holds for her, and as yet we are not aware of her personality. The possibilities are endless and she isn’t even aware of this herself, her focus is on her needs and communicating them to whoever will listen.

In what areas of your life are you like this little baby?

We all have areas of our lives that we haven’t tapped into yet. They may fall into the too hard basket so we don’t even begin to look at them, we are aware of them, and now and again those things will nag at us, bringing that area into full focus, causing us some discomfort.

We also have areas of our lives that we don’t know anything about yet. The catalyst that sparks the interest hasn’t happened yet. Much like our little baby, she doesn’t know that all the things she is feeling right now have names, and in time she will master how she moves her limbs, and how she will hone her communication skills.

This week I went to our local library with the intention of collecting a few different titles and genres. I figured if I want to experience new thoughts then I must begin to read new literature. I have been interested in the Parisian culture for a long time, it continually draws me to it. Picking up a book on creative Paris, which tells of the stories of Parisian women and the style, decor and pictures of the things that are important for these woman.

As I read these stories, it dawned on me that every one of the apartments vividly reflected the woman living in it. All the items each woman surrounded herself with had value to her personally, she chose every detail deliberately. Including the mismatched china, the art work on the walls, the clothes she wore, every detail was deliberate.

One of the quotes in this book is Life is in the detail. I read this to mean that the small things in our lives creates our lives.

As I look around my home, I wonder what a detective of make of my life by the knick-knacks I have surrounded myself with. What story does my home and the things in it say about me.

I enjoy being in beauty, however I’m beginning to re-evaluate what beauty is. Is it matching lounge furniture, matching cutlery and crockery. Having the prettiest things, but for these not to mean anything is that really beauty, and is that really what I want my life to mean?

As I ponder the things I have surrounded myself with, I realize some are relics of my past, the way I thought about life and what I believed to be true about myself. Some of the things I have kept, came to me through fear, lack and scarcity. That energy is attached to those items. As beautiful as these things are, they can be an energy block to me.

I can get rid of the items, and purge my home of all my past things, and some that are not valuable to me will, however their are some items that mean a lot to me, remind me of people who have passed on, have fond memories attached to them. With these items I get to choose the story I want them to represent to me.

That’s the great thing with thoughts, I get to choose to think whatever I want to think. I can choose the energy belief I have around any item in my home, if I feel the energy of lack, and scarcity around an item, I can physically choose to create a new energy for that item and what it means to me. I can remember the person who gave it to me with blessings and peace instead of hurt and bitterness. I can decide to think abundantly about the item, knowing why it is precious to me and why I want it to stay.

I also get to say goodbye to items that I no longer love, no matter how much money the item cost when I purchased it. (This is scarcity thinking, I have to keep it because it cost so much money when I bought it- This thinking will keep money away from you.)

This book fits in perfectly with the thinking of If I love it, if I think it is beautiful, and if it is useful then it gets to stay. On the other side of this thinking is believing I have to keep something because it was a gift to me, feeling guilty about an item or person every time I look at the item, and realizing that I don’t like how this item feels to me are all clues that mindset work is required or it is time to release the item.

How many things take up physical space in our homes, and mental space in our minds, and emotional space in our spirits that we can actually let go of, and in the letting go, feel more freedom within ourselves. Bring more harmony and peace to our environment, which will nurture our spirits.

We are spirit beings having a human experience, when our spirit, body and mind are in unity we feel peace and harmony.

Today’s take away is have a look around your home, what gives you a feeling of tension, what don’t you like, what doesn’t fit with who are are today and who you are becoming?

What have you kept from yesteryear, because it never occurred to you that you could let it go?

Fresh eyes, reading a book from a new perspective can change everything, eating in a new restaurant can give you fresh insights, walking instead of driving, or cycling instead of walking, wearing different styles of clothes, listening to a different radio station, going to a supermarket you don’t normally shop with, actually greeting people as you walk past them in the street, or opposite them on the bus or train.

I’d love to hear how you experience new and different ways of being, what you do to create new perspectives for yourself, write a comment below and share with me, and you never know I may just try it out and end up sharing my experience here with every one.

oxoxo Linda

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Leading: Your purpose for leading.

Leading: Your purpose for leading.

Hello, My Friends

Do you have a purpose for wanting to lead?
Most people I talk with don’t understand what their purpose is, I feel they are looking for neon lights in the sky to tell them this is your purpose, walk this way.
And maybe for you it was that way, your purpose found you like a bolt of lightning.

I have found that most people figure out their purpose on the journey of living, by living.


Do you believe your purpose is set and unchangeable?
Do you believe your purpose changes as you go through life experiencing what you experience?

You may be saying I don’t want to lead. Then you will be happy and content being tossed and blown about by every thought and idea that other people pose to you.
You will be happy and content to never really do anything of value, or to contribute to anything that creates, beautifies, or enhances.

It is my belief that each one of us has a desire to lead.

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To lead yourself, to lead your family, to lead in your career.
Remember that leading is, in this sense guiding someone by taking them by the hand while moving forward.

Let’s look at finding your purpose for leading, and we will begin with the want you decided yesterday that you wanted.

Let’s say your want is to lose weight.
What is the purpose behind the benefit you believe you will gain with being slender?
Why do you want to lose weight? Or become financially independent, or own a bigger home, or start a new business, or grow a garden?

We have briefly talked about liking your why, for wanting what you want.
Now if you’ll dig deeper into your why, you may just find your purpose.
Your purpose is the reason you do what you do. It colours everything you do. It determines what you will and won’t accept from yourself and others.
Your purpose is the emotion behind the actions you take.

Back to your why?
Ask yourself why do I want what I want? Write down the words as they form in your mind, without filtering.
Then ask your self, why do I want this? Which is the words from above, also write your response without filtering.
Keep asking yourself why do I want this? Until you delve into the deepest and truest reasons why you want what you want.

Do this for every answer to the question that you have. You may have six different reasons for the first question, delve into each reason, questioning and asking why you want this? Answering as honestly as you can.
This could lead you to ask and answer, the why I want this question, 6,7, or 8 times for each reason.
Do this honestly and your purpose will reveal itself to you.

If you want assistance with this process, contact me by email for coaching, together, your purpose can be uncovered.

Today’s Inspirational Droplet is You have a purpose for being here!

oxoxo Linda

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Leading: Wanting what you want with honesty.

Leading: Wanting what you want with honesty.

Hello, My Friends

Do you know what you want? Did you spend some time feeling within yourself for the real thing you want?

I want to clarify, for those who may be feeling overwhelmed, for those who can’t decide what to pick.


You can’t get it WRONG, and it will never be DONE.


What I mean you can not pick a wrong want, choose something you think you really want.
Your body will tell you if you have chosen truthfully.


Your body is amazing, it is an energy receptor, it is a vibration radar, and it is a magnificent interpreter.
If the thing you want does not resonate with you, your body will tell you.

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You can not get it wrong, choose something and find the sensation in your body, ask yourself, “Does this feel good to me? Where do I feel this sensation? “
The only thing you need to know about your want is that you like your reason for wanting it and it feels good in your body.
Remember excitement and fear can have the same feeling sensation, the determining factor is how you feel about the opportunity to live your dream.

Secondly it will never be done.
What I mean there will always be the next thing that you will be seeking.
When you get the Mustang, you will find you have another want.
This is completely normal, humans are made for expansion.
You will always be looking for the next thing, and the next thing. The day we stop learning and expanding, growing and changing is the day we begin to die.

Have a look back over your life so far, when you received something you really wanted, you saved for, worked hard for, went without for, how long was it before you began wanting the next brilliant thing.
Do not beat yourself up about this. You are being human. To be anything less is to sell yourself short.

I want to clarify, that not everything that you want will be tangible, as in materialistic or things, some of the things you may want are emotional, are on the getting to give scale.
The only thing you need to know is you are being honest with yourself about why you want this thing.
Believing you will gain brownie points with someone or something, isn’t enough.
Believing that by you wanting to make other people’s lives better will somehow make you a better person, it won’t. (You are good enough exactly as you are, warts and all.)
Believing that you some how have to earn your worth by the things you do, the places you go, the people you mix with and the way you live. You don’t.
You are worthy because you are a human being. And yes you may have acted in ways in the past that you are not proud of.
It shows you are human like every one of us.

To gain peace and harmony from within, beginning to accept that it is okay for you to want what you want without apology, without an explanation, without justification and without anyone else’s approval.

This is what leading yourself is all about. Being true to yourself, being honest with yourself, being your authentic self.

Today’s Inspirational Droplet is You get to want what you want without apology, without explanation, and without justification.

oxoxo Linda

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Leading: Taking one by the hand while moving forward.

Leading: Taking one by the hand while moving forward.

Hello, My Friends

Welcome to the month of July, this month I’ll be sharing a few thoughts, facts and tips about leading.
I chose leading rather than leadership, as I feel that leading is more in line with coaching.

One of the definitions of leading is guiding, taking one by the hand and going with them while moving forward.

It is my intention to take you on a journey of self discovery, teaching and learning how we lead ourselves and others.


The importance of influence and power in our personal lives and the lives of those around us.

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How we can be the leader of our own lives.

When you are leading, the implication is that you are out in front.
Where do you sit in your life?
Are you in the front seat driving your life to the destination of your choice? Or are you in the back seat begin led, allowing other people to make the decisions on where you are going and how you’ll get there?

As always you need to know where you are going in order to get there.
What do you want?
Notice I didn’t ask what does your mother or father want for you.
I didn’t ask what you want for your children.
or what the expectations you feel are being placed on you by society, or religious institutions, or clubs or sporting teams.

What do you want? Have you ever just sat and thought about what you want, what will make you happy, what the desire is that has been in your heart forever and that you have been too afraid to admit to yourself?

I’m asking you to admit it to yourself. Don’t tell anyone, just nurture that little seed, think about how it feels to let the hope of having it well in your heart.
Now, listen to the words your mind is telling you.
These words are very important, they are the clue to your success or your failure.
These words are the words of self protection. They are words you have spoken to yourself, or have had spoken to you by other people.
Listen to them. If you are brave write them down.
Words belong on paper, thoughts are words and they belong written on paper so you can look at them without the emotions that your mind attaches to them.
Read the words, what are they saying to you, or about you?
Do they make you feel good, or do they make you feel like you can’t do what you want to do? Are they serving you in getting what you want?
If they are not serving you, you can change them.

Take the key word and turn it into an I can statement.
For example let’s say your words are saying, you can’t do that, you can’t save money to save yourself, how are you going to pay for the tuition.
The key words are can’t, money, tuition.
We flip the can’t into can. I can begin where I am, I can learn to save money for my tuition.
It is really important to acknowledge where you are, and that you have the ability to learn. These statements let your brain know you are thinking in a new way.
If your brain answers you back with a smart reply, tell it, I can begin where I am and I will prove it to myself.

This is the key, do not tell anyone else about you want just yet, remind your brain at least three times a day, that you can begin where you are, that you are proving it to yourself, that you can save money for your tuition.
Then begin to put aside one dollar a week. Watch your mind chatter and remind yourself you are proving to yourself that you can save money for your tuition.

Be consistent, water your little seed of hope everyday with your words of faith.

Today’s inspirational droplet is Your words are powerful, use them powerfully for your good.


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oxoxo Linda

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Dynamic Living: Mindset, Connection, Essence

Dynamic Living: Mindset, connection, and Essence.

Hello, My Friends

Our final day on dynamic living.


We have looked at how your mindset affects and influences everything you do.


The way you think colours the way you see life, which has an impact on your attitude and how you react or respond to things that happen in your life.
Thinking has an influence on how you live, you get what you expect.


Expectation is about more than the words we speak, it is about the energy behind the words and the thoughts.

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When you come from a fearful energy, your results will be shrouded in fearfulness.
You may get your result, but you have a nagging fear that it will be taken off you, or that you will lose it. The energy speaks louder than words.
Thoughts and beliefs impact energy.
Your essence is who you are, living a dynamic life is about letting yourself be yourself, without fear, lack or scarcity.
Being who you are, or who you want to be is about listening to your intuition, your inner knower.
It’s about backing yourself, and letting go all the should’s, have to’s and ought to’s that other people have sown in your life.
When you are living your dynamic life, you will know who you are, you will have a sense of peace and harmony within yourself.
Your essence and your energy will be more in alignment than not, and this is when the magic begins to happen.
Life will flow a little easier, as you follow your gut instincts you will learn to trust that you do know what you want and you do know the next step to getting what you want.
Your connection with yourself, influences the impact you have with other people.
When you are connected to who you are, and what you really want, you are able to put up your red velvet rope, you have a standard to live into.
As you raise your standards your energy levels and flow also lift.
Which attracts and repels, attracts more of the energy you are putting out, and repels the energy you are not putting out.

Better things come your way, you feel better about yourself, you take better care of yourself which overflows into every other part of your life.

Dynamic people are real people, they know who they are, they accept their weaknesses and love themselves anyway.
They know they are not perfect, they also know they are not broken, and that any situation that is not serving them can be changed.


A dynamic person knows they have the power to change any thought, belief, emotion or action that they want to.


They also know that they get to choose whatever thought, belief, emotion and action they want. They programme their minds with thoughts that create the life they want to live.


There is no need to ever feel like an imposter, because you are as worthy of what you want as the next person is worthy of what they want.

This is fabulous news, you and I get to create, we get to choose the life we want, and we also get to know we are only ever a new thought, belief and action away from it being our new reality.

Today’s Pearl of Wisdom is dynamic people live the three pillars of Mindset, Connection, and Essence.

oxoxo Linda

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Dynamic Living: How to deal with Triggering Situations

Dynamic Living: How to deal with Triggering Situations.

Hello, My Friends

In line with yesterday’s post about connection, I want to mention about the ornery people you may encounter on your journey to friendships.

Ornery people are people just like you and I. The difference is they choose to let their pain out to harm themselves or others.


Each of us has a choice how we treat ourselves and how we treat others.


The saying that hurt people, hurt people is true, only because most hurt people don’t know how to deal with their hurt.


Or their hurt is too confronting for them to admit to themselves and it is easier to put it onto someone else.

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And sometimes hurting people, or being spiteful because you can is someone’s happy place. I know it’s hard to fathom, but some people are not happy unless they are making someone else miserable.
Or they only feel happy when they have something to complain about.

The good thing about this is that they can be their ‘unhappy’ happy selves, and we can be our ‘happy’ happy selves.
No-one can make you feel anything. Let me repeat that.
No-one can make you feel anything. When this actually sinks into your being, and you get it. I mean really get it.
It creates so much freedom.
What someone does in the office only affects me because I let it.
Once again it comes down to the red velvet rope policy. What are you prepared to put up with? And when you’re not prepared to put up with nonsense anymore you will put a boundary around you, and let others know that certain behaviours are not acceptable from yourself or from others.
Remember the policy always begins with you. You move into the healthy place of taking care of you first. Then when you are confident in your ability to follow your own rules, you can let others know your boundaries, I can guarantee they will already have begun to notice changes in you.

Triggers, these are the behaviours of ourself or others that create an emotional response within us, and often the response follows the trigger so closely you would think they are one and the same action.
Most triggers are indicators that there is something within the triggered person that is wanting to be healed.
If there wasn’t something in you feeling threatened, then the behaviour or words of another wouldn’t mean anything to you.
You may feel sorrow, when someone shares a horror story with you, but it won’t trigger an overwhelming response, unless it has something to hook into, within you.

For example when I’m feeling judged, the judgement within me is awake and beating up on myself or someone else.
This becomes my clue to look at what I’m thinking, to ask myself, “What hurt is being activated by these words, or actions?


Remember it all begins with thoughts. An action triggers a thought, which triggers and emotion, which creates a response.
The quicker the thought, emotion and action response is the less you are thinking and the more likely you are in subconscious lash out mode.
The best part about triggers is we have the ability to retrain our brain on how we want to respond.
The first step is to be aware that we are triggered. (Can’t work with something we don’t know anything about.)
The second step is to pause, take a 5 second break. (Break the immediate cycle and breathe)
The third step is to activate your brain, do a quick mental scenario projection. (If I do this, then this could happen, which would cause this to happen and so on.)
The fourth step is to decide on an action that could give you more of what you do want and less of what you don’t want. (Choices, choices choices.)
The fifth and final step is to take the action that gives you the closest result to what you want.

Simple, yes! Easy? Not so much in the heat of a situation that is loaded with past habits and expectations.
This is where visualisation can be really handy, you mentally see yourself in the sticky situation, and pre-plan how you will manage yourself in that situation.
By knowing what you want to do, you give yourself more opportunity to follow through and do it, the more you see yourself being the type of person who does not rise to triggering situation, the more you become the person who doesn’t rise to the occasion.

Today’s Pearl of Wisdom is Triggers are indicators of hurts waiting to be healed.

oxoxo Linda

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