Hello, My friends,
I’m sitting in my office, I just observed our short haired ginger cat slink into the master bedroom. He knows he’s not supposed to be in there. If I were to have a look for him, he’d be under the bed hiding.
How many times do we do things that we know we shouldn’t, and hide out in fear of being discovered.
It could be eating an entire packet of biscuits once the kids have gone to bed, or drinking a bottle of wine every night, or purchasing yet another dress, which we stuff into our over full wardrobe.
We feel guilty because we know better and we beat ourselves up – silently – inside our heads, where no-one else can see.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Let me tell you what I know.
Everything you and I do is to feel a certain way, or to not feel a certain way. We overeat, over drink, over shop, over anything and you know your own devices, We do it to quell the feelings inside us. You know, it’s the “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t provide, I don’t earn enough,” “Life is hard on me,” ” As I child my …..” These are the programmes running in the back of our lives.
I have learned that every emotion (feeling) comes from a thought inside my head. That thought creates an energetic vibration within my body, (My feelings), and it’s these emotions that I’m trying to run away from. I’ve had limited success in changing my outside behaviour, but, I’d always slipped back into my default habits, cursed myself for not having the will power, or stickability to stay with my goal. Then I’d go back to over indulging in my go vice, to cover up my shame, to try to silence the voice in my head telling me some very nasty stories.
We can silence that inner critic, come out into the open, stop slinking about, hiding under the bed like the cat. By learning to own our emotions. Not acting on them, just watching them, feeling the feeling, noticing where it sits in our body, observing the thoughts that are running wild in our minds.
For me, this process is extremely scary. I am the type of person who “needs” to be in control, and when my emotions are running around like unruly children, I want to squash them into submission, put them back in the box. Just watching, noticing without action is hugely uncomfortable. However the more I observe, I notice that my type of story is nearly always the same, “I’m not good enough.”
I have learned that I can change this story. I discovered that I’m not broken, I never was, that was a lie I picked up along the way. I am a creator. WE are all creators, we always have been, we just didn’t know it.
The secret to creating is in our thoughts. Choosing the thoughts that feel good, thinking from a place of confidence, abundance and joy. Acknowledging all our feelings, the so called good and bad feelings, they all have a part to play in the women we are becoming.
Remember this is a process, as the hair ad, said, ” It won’t happen over night, but it will happen.”
Create your new life one thought at a time. This week, notice what you say to yourself when you think you’ve fallen off the “wagon” whatever your particular wagon is. Then try a little experiment, Imagine you are a small child learning a new skill, how would you encourage that child to try again, when they think they can’t do it? Encourage yourself, just as you would a small child, “You can do it, You are good enough.” Say to yourself, “I am good enough, I have got this, I can do it.” Then watch, do you notice a change in how you feel.
Have a great week, Be your authentic self, See you next time.